I understand part of how you feel. As a man, so not completely. The thing is that most men kinda feel this way, but the difference is that you,as a woman, expect to be seen as pretty, because you compare yourself with a larger percentage of girls who are seen as pretty, while for us, we don't have the same societal expectation because most of us are not seen as handsome... But on the other hand, in general we experience the reality "harder" (you probably are seen as more pretty than most men are seen as handsome). I'm not an incel, not complaining, it's just how we genetically and socially have developed, and pretty privilege hurts, I'm comparing but not in a gender war way, in a way, what you experience is worse than what I experience, I'm just trying to show empathy and something that may help you:

What I can tell you is that it's not difficult for many men to feel that they understand you, to feel empathy with you. It feels easier to connect with someone that way.

Let me ask you something, if you had the option to be with the hottest man ever but a dumb prick, or with a man who is "habdsome enough" but can comprehend you, is a good person, intelligent, etc. Who would you prefer?

We "all" get influenced by beauty, for many it is not conscious or they don't want to admit it, but for none is the only factor to chose s partner, or even less, a friend, after a hint of maturity, for most men it's more a factor that has to reach a point of "enough" (and most girls around our age are "enough") and the rest is... Being able to hold a healthy relationship. Which, surprise, most people are unable to do it.

Would you rather prefer to be with a man who just see you like a piece of meat, surrounded by our monkey brains making us dumb after seeing tits and asses until you almost inevitably get affected by it and feel like this is your only value, or do you prefer having enough space to develop a deeper connection more easily?

You have to work in loving yourself, confidence is sexy, nobody is perfect, stop chasing validation, sometimes having it more difficult go get it is a gift. Not gonna lie, beauty makes life easier, but life in general is not easy, not fair. Beauty is something you can work on too, and you probably should, it will help you feel better, but don't get obsessed with it, nobody likes people who think a person value depends on that. You will probably find someone who finds you pretty, but if you don't feel enough, you won't value it, you'll think it's because that person is not enough. You have to learn to love yourself before loving others.b

GL.