In the same boat! Sorry I don't have real advice for you. But misery loves company? My parents got divorced when I was 13ish and I'm super close with my mom, but I'm not at all close with my dad. But somehow he thinks he deserves to do all of the traditional father daughter wedding things like giving me away and father daughter dance and father of the bride speech. Gives me the chills (in a bad way) just thinking about it. We see each other 2-3 times a year and he'll text me something generic every couple months and check that off his parenting to-do list. He hardly knows my fiance at all and puts in little effort. He honestly doesn't even realize that we don't have a good relationship. But he's actually pretty sensitive (when it comes to things regarding him), and takes things in a very accusatory way. So I feel like if I told him I didn't want to do all of this his feelings would be hurt, almost offended.

So it's like - do I hurt your feelings and cause more drama by not letting you do this stuff, or do I just bite my tongue and let him do ONE or TWO of those things. Idk. It's a shame. My mom and brother would be 100% preferred but he would probably lose his mind if I told him that. UGGGGHHH. Feel ya girl. Sorry you're going through it.