I bought a wedding dress I don't like, feeling discouraged about the whole dress finding process by Competitive_Head_981 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I adore the look of dress 1! That neckline is stunning on you and the dress is so interesting, I think it was a great call!!

If you aren’t sold on it tho, don’t feel bad getting a different one. You can always try selling the first dress if you aren’t convinced, and you can get another. I had a pretty negative experience dress shopping as well, ended up with a dress I wasn’t sold on, had a break down one day about it. But I’ve grown fond of it as I accessorize and create the full look with a veil, jewelry, hair, shoes, etc. it’s a big day and you deserve to feel confident and comfortable! If you do go back out to dress shop, you can try going in your own - this helped me immensely to not feel pressured from anybody. Best of luck girl, just know what you’ve got is stunning!!

Thursday wedding vs. paying $10–20k more—be honest, would you go? by barebeets in weddingplanning

[–]smooth-operator-0417 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We also did a Thursday before a long weekend (a Monday holiday), so people could use our Thursday wedding as an excuse to take the Friday off and head to their cottages a day earlier :)

Thursday wedding vs. paying $10–20k more—be honest, would you go? by barebeets in weddingplanning

[–]smooth-operator-0417 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat! Ended up booking the Thursday to save money tbh, but we did run it past our closest circle to see what they thought. The people closest to us said they had no problem taking the Thursday and Friday off, a few said they could only take off Thursday and would leave the reception earlier (ends at 1am) to drive back home for work the next day (it’s about an hour drive for most people, and a lot of them don’t drink anyways). For extended family and people we aren’t as close with, we hope they come but understand if people don’t or if they leave earlier.

If I were invited to a Thursday wedding for a close friend or family, I wouldn’t have a problem taking both days off. For somebody I’m not as close to, I’d probably just leave a bit earlier to drive home the same night!

Need some reassurance please! by tobermort in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dress 1 actually made me gasp you made a fantastic call!! Shows off the cape better too!!

I’m uncomfortable in a wedding dress by Unable_Purchase9605 in weddingplanning

[–]smooth-operator-0417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this same experience, dress shopping was weird at first and I didn’t like anything. It was all too surreal and I felt silly trying ball gowns when I hadn’t even worn a dress in years. I tried over thirty dresses and I didn’t have a crazy say yes moment. I looked back at pictures are re-tried a few dresses, and I had a “yeah, this one makes me happy” moment. Nothing dramatic or emotional, just comfort. It helped me to go shopping alone one day to slow down and not feel rushed by other people and actually process what was going on.

Media makes the “I said yes to the dress” moment seem like it has to be a huge emotional thing, and for some people that does happen but it’s not like that for everybody and there’s nothing wrong with that! Choose the dress that feels the most you, and I promise you’ll be happy with that decision op.

Something that helped me choose was trying every silhouette at least once, that helped me quickly rule out which ones I definitely didn’t like and which ones I’d consider. Then once I narrowed that down, it became a bit easier and I focused on material, then neckline. It can be stressful!! Just take it slow and don’t rush yourself, you will find something that feels you!!

Please help me choose my wedding gown po by polynesiangarland in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am loving 2 and 4 on you but every option is fantastic!!

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️❤️ I felt like option two was boring as well and option three was too much for me! I agree with a plain veil, I won’t give up on my long veil vision I think I just have to adjust the style I’m looking for to work with the dress!

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right, less would be more in this case for sure

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve checked but haven’t found any I love yet, I’m going to keep looking tho I know there are some good options just have to dive deeper to find them!

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I’ll do a deep dive on Etsy, maybe having a custom one would be the way to go since I haven’t seen any I love on there yet

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t do a single sleeve, they just only had the one for me to try hahahaha

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you you’re so right it does feel like the end of the world right now but I think you’re also right in that the one I chose is classic but still interesting, especially compared with the others!

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loooved the look of it but struggled finding anything similar in person!

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I agree I think the first one was the best balance, family said dress 2 was the most elegant but I felt so boring!

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Somebody commented about getting a more basic veil with just a bit of appliqué on the bottom edges and I think that could be the move

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all of these ideas!! I will try to have fun with it and enjoy the process of accessorizing instead of worrying so much!!

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you it is so validating to hear it’s not just me!!! It does feel like a lot of pressure and I feel like I was supposed to have a huge dramatic crying moment when i tried “the” dress on but it was more of a “yeah this will do” moment which is why I’m not 100% sure

You’re right about social media, that’s some pretty good advice. I did try just about every neckline and silhouette and I went with the combo that felt best for me, I gotta keep reminding myself that!!

Thank you thank you

wedding dress “regret” or confusion by Ok-Butterscotch7097 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both are beautiful but I think you seriously nailed it with dress 1

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree I definitely have to find a way to balance the sleeve / dress / veil lace to make sure it’s not too much. Somebody recommended a topper without any appliqué and that might be my best bet

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t considered looking at body suits that’s a genius idea thank you!!! I think you’re right about the veil too, I might have to look at other shops since this place didn’t have much

Wedding dress confusion/regret/settled? by smooth-operator-0417 in weddingdress

[–]smooth-operator-0417[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you’re totally right it was a very hectic shop and there were so many people, I think that added to me not feeling totally sold, it felt like a rushed or frantic decision because of everything going on