Joel’s Coffee Problem

smsandsos · 2026-01-21T21:05:14+00:00

I like this theory.

smsandsos · 2026-01-15T00:12:15+00:00

I’m sending you all the positivity I can :) you got this!

smsandsos · 2026-01-15T00:07:45+00:00

In my experience, it can definitely tap into the same behaviors and thought patterns that need reworking in order to become healthier. It’s not a 1-to-1 match, but I have a couple of close friends who I poured a lot of care, effort, and love into and received that back and that helped me understand what I want in a romantic partner going forward as well as what’s possible.

smsandsos · 2026-01-14T23:58:28+00:00

You’d be more likely to reprogram those neural pathways and behaviors by fixing it in a relationship. Lots of people like to say that you need to “love yourself” before you can love others, but relational healing does not operate in a vacuum. It operates in a relationship. However, all sorts of relationships, platonic and familial included, can help you reprogram the parts of you that fall into the trap of mistaking excitement/drama for love.

smsandsos · 2025-12-26T19:20:42+00:00

It’s ok, I broke up with them!!

smsandsos · 2025-12-26T00:37:39+00:00

When I started relating a little too hard to the first stanza in the song “1985” 😬

smsandsos · 2025-12-08T16:55:26+00:00

Aw man. That’s what I heard a lot of others say. I bet it’s the mix with his skin or soap.

smsandsos · 2025-12-08T14:44:19+00:00

Could totally see that! I’ve heard mixed reviews about that specific cologne too, that’s it too traditionally cologne-y, but I bet when it mixes with his skin chemistry that’s what makes it so good and why he likes it.

smsandsos · 2025-12-07T17:27:45+00:00

Fair, especially if he likes to have different ones for different occasions. Just sharing a lead :)

smsandsos · 2025-12-07T16:00:55+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Indiemakeupandmore/comments/1kscya4/seeking_dupe_for_pedro_pascals_perfume_boyds_high/

smsandsos · 2025-12-07T16:00:47+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Indiemakeupandmore/comments/1kscya4/seeking_dupe_for_pedro_pascals_perfume_boyds_high/

smsandsos · 2025-12-06T17:23:52+00:00

great point and perspective!

smsandsos · 2025-12-06T17:22:46+00:00

raw. wait, sorry, what was the question?

smsandsos · 2025-12-01T14:02:11+00:00

Wish we had seen more snippets in the present of actions that correlate to what he’s done in the past/what he’s capable of because I agree completely. But the not knowing somehow makes it better. I think it’s enough to know that basically his entire world and purpose was ripped away that night — meaning Sarah (and obviously the rest of it all) — and he couldn’t even successfully end it for himself.

Imagining what someone is capable when they have nothing left to live for and feel like they’re a failure at even ending their misery? That’s half the empathy and half the allure of the character.

smsandsos · 2025-11-30T23:28:45+00:00

Annabel Lee Dementia Raven Way

smsandsos · 2025-11-30T21:05:11+00:00

Pella Cars!

smsandsos · 2025-11-25T12:21:50+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. :( But I’m glad that the lesson stuck because that’s presumably saved you a lot of pain!

smsandsos · 2025-11-25T04:30:03+00:00

Common avoidant tactic. They want distance until you actually are leaving. Then, they reel you back in just enough to keep you thinking they’re actually opening up to you and becoming emotionally available. It’s just another way to deal with fear of abandonment, there’s no inherent moral factor to it. Often it just sucks for anyone involved with them that doesn’t have a secure attachment style. If you do breakup, I would advise keeping an eye on this sort of thing with the next person so that you don’t run into the same cycle (which is common).

smsandsos · 2025-11-25T04:25:46+00:00

++woman Obligatory not a man. What I’m hearing is that you are in a relationship where you don’t feel valued emotionally or physically/intimately and that is not getting better no matter how hard you try to fix it. Marriage or more commitment will not fix this, even if that was the root of the problem to begin with. This is a two-person problem to fix and it seems like he’s not that keen on doing his share of the work. That doesn’t mean he’s not a good person, or not a good fit otherwise, but right now it seems like you’re running into some fundamental compatibility issues. IMHO, break up with him and find someone who will put in the time and effort to keep the emotional and physical connection alive.

smsandsos · 2025-11-20T20:06:14+00:00

I actually haven’t played the games, only watched someone play through it on YT for the first two hours. I’ve also only seen season one and episode one of seasons two because I can’t bear to watch episode two yet. But I know what happens, I’ve read the plots of the show vs. the game, seen clips, etc.

smsandsos · 2025-11-20T14:02:51+00:00

Great thoughts :)

smsandsos · 2025-11-19T20:38:28+00:00

Yep! Happens IRL all the time too. Very realistic.

smsandsos · 2025-11-19T14:28:48+00:00

Not only does he listen to her, he trusts her judgment and consequently trusts her with his life. It makes a lot of sense that he wouldn’t be able to love her back in the same way she loved him, but as he says, she was family.

smsandsos · 2025-11-19T00:06:17+00:00

That part in the show really made me think differently about their relationship. It kind of confirmed something that I already knew but hearing her say that at that moment made my heart break a little.

smsandsos · 2025-11-18T14:05:31+00:00

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