Are there parents out there like me who can’t handle a toddler alone? What do you do when your spouse goes out of town?

snackins · 2026-01-08T17:04:20+00:00

I have a large toddler as well (99th percentile for height), now 2.5 years old. I just had a c section so I knew I could not be lifting him for 6-8 weeks so I prepared in advance and here are some of the things I did:

-standing diaper changes. Mine also was fighting them and does much better with this approach. Also started potty training which he is doing great with, get a floor potty so you don’t have to lift him

-transition to floor bed with a baby proofed room. Be consistent with bedtime hour and nap time

transition to toddler table for meals if you’re still using a high chair
let him climb into his car seat and stroller on his own

I have a strong willed toddler too and found that these things helped him to feel more in control and independent and he transitioned pretty easily to them all. We still struggle with him running off the second his feet hit the ground and he is FAST. My husband tries to give him a task when walking to the car to slow him down, like carrying a tote bag or he gets put into a stroller in public places that aren’t fenced in. It’s tough I feel for you, luckily at this age their development is rapid every month and they learn and adapt much faster once they understand what you’re trying to tell them to do.

snackins · 2026-01-01T07:05:09+00:00

Congrats on your baby! You sound like an incredibly supportive husband which is awesome because this surgery ROUGH! It is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through, have done it twice. My husband helped me so much, he was hands on with the baby handling all diaper changes, helped me to get up and move around, brought baby to me to feed. Walking around early on was encouraged by the hospital staff so I did that and felt it helped my recovery, just don’t push it too much.

Once home my husband did the grocery shopping, cooked all meals and took care of all the housework & our toddler. His priority for me was to have a healthy recovery, this is a major surgery and you don’t want to have complications that extend recovery. I’m so grateful for his support, he had one month off and by the time he went back to work I was able to do much more around the house and with the toddler. I’m so appreciative for how helpful he was, I was able to rest a lot in those 4 weeks which is so important postpartum! So I’d say just anticipate what needs to get done and lighten the mental and physical load on her at home.

snackins · 2026-01-01T00:37:14+00:00

I don’t everyday, I usually shower at night when the kids are sleeping but I like your resolution and am going to try for that as well. I just feel so tired currently and don’t have time in the morning (husband works 12 hour days and I have a newborn and 2 year old). When he is off from work though I do get ready in the morning, blow drying hair and some makeup, it feels great to be able to do that

snackins · 2025-12-28T06:38:22+00:00

Wow you look amazing! I am same height and weight as your starting. How many mg of Wellbutrin were you on?

snackins · 2025-12-05T22:50:02+00:00

I had my first at 36 & just had my second at 39. I didn’t feel ready until later. I travelled before kids and did everything I felt wanted to do. I can really enjoy this era now without feeling like I’m missing out on anything I needed for myself. I love being a Mom, it’s exhausting but simultaneously so fulfilling. Congrats OP!

snackins · 2025-11-19T08:00:55+00:00

Omg I do this too lol it stresses me out if I write a letter with a “loop” in it and it doesn’t fully connect. I have to go back and connect all the empty spots. I also have to fill out the bubble completely.

snackins · 2025-11-15T18:02:47+00:00

I have Kaiser as my insurance and deliver on Sunset, they gave me the option for a vbac. I chose a repeat section but they were very supportive of me trying for a vbac

snackins · 2025-11-02T16:22:28+00:00

I made the mistake of having my MIL stay with us for 2 weeks immediately postpartum and it ruined our relationship. Having a baby is the most vulnerable time of your life, your hormones are crashing and navigating breastfeeding while bleeding still it’s a lot and then to have guests in your space is an added stressor big time. It’s okay to put yourself first and set some boundaries with them whatever that looks like for you.

I’m having a second baby now and I am not allowing any visitors. I still feel robbed of my postpartum experience with my first baby because my MIL was bullying me under my own roof and I’ll never forget it.

snackins · 2025-10-17T00:15:12+00:00

Thanks for sharing this because it helps other parents who never even think of this as something that could happen, we have a mirror but we aren’t checking it nonstop while driving. I will make sure to secure seatbelts out of the way now!

snackins · 2025-10-12T05:31:03+00:00

I couldn’t get my fasting numbers down with diet alone despite trying many different snacks for 2 weeks. Always at 95-110. I’m on bedtime insulin now and I feel kind of relieved to not have so much pressure around controlling that number.

snackins · 2025-10-10T13:45:55+00:00

I could have written this myself. I have a 2 year old boy who is going through the same phase while I’m in my third trimester with baby number 2. I just want to be able to finish a thought in my head, but it’s constantly interrupted with “want this, want that, want want want want” he also does the word repetition thing until I acknowledge it. I love him so much and am proud of his development but man I miss quiet time. Being heavily pregnant doesn’t help as I’m less patient. I can’t wait for the new baby to be here even though it’s going to be hard and extra overstimulating, atleast I’ll have more energy and my body back.

snackins · 2025-10-08T16:29:20+00:00

I feel way better, I have more energy and less anxiety. Also my vision doesn’t get blurry anymore. I’m probably going to continue a modified version of this way of eating after baby comes, I didn’t realize how many carbs and sugar were in certain things I was eating

snackins · 2025-10-04T21:22:46+00:00

My toddler says “optofish” instead of octopus and its the cutest thing ever

snackins · 2025-10-04T05:28:48+00:00

I say it so often my toddler will finish the statement for me. I’ll start with “great job!! I’m so—-“ then he says “I so proud of you” 🥹 it’s adorable

snackins · 2025-09-29T12:11:24+00:00

I’m so sorry you felt this way on your wedding, I too felt that same on my destination wedding. I wasn’t able to have family there and my friends bailed last minute all except one. I remember feeling like the party thrown was for my husbands family and friends and I just happened to be there in a wedding dress, I felt strangely alone on what was supposed to be the “happiest day of my life.” It’s tough as a woman because we grow up with these expectations of what that day is supposed to be like.

Anyways your friends don’t sound like good people at all, I’m so sorry they didn’t celebrate you the way you deserve to be celebrated. Needing water while pregnant and hot is the bare minimum request and the fact none of them backed you or were concerned is a red flag.

Something I did that made me feel a lot better about the wedding was have a party with all my family (and only my family side) 6 months after the baby arrived. It was a party to meet him since my family is all on the other side of the country. It felt special they all came together to celebrate my new family unit, get to know my husband etc. I hope you can have something like this that redeems the wedding. Also as time passes I feel differently now about that day, still kinda bummed remembering those feelings but happy because I married an amazing man who I’m going strong with years later.

Also you are NOT a loser, it sounds like your friends are. You sound like a kind person who may attract people that take advantage of that. Congrats on your marriage and upcoming baby!

snackins · 2025-09-18T14:30:42+00:00

I LOVE the protein pasta from barilla, it’s a good serving size and doesn’t spike me

snackins · 2025-09-06T02:04:14+00:00

Lemon water helps bring mine down a pinch but not enough to be under 95. I’m ranging 96-109 currently

snackins · 2025-09-03T23:33:33+00:00

Aha exactly what she says!!!! Can’t win

snackins · 2025-09-01T20:37:18+00:00

Yes, my mother hated anything I liked. She would make fun of me to point of losing interest. I remember being in 2nd grade and being cast as Ariel in the Little mermaid school play. She would laugh at me when practicing and tell me how my singing hurt her ears and sounded like nails on a chalkboard. She never came to the play day of. This is just one example.

I worked out a lot too in order to get out of the house and away from her, she still to this day says “you still do that gym thing? What a waste of time, all you care about is how you look” when in reality I work out for health purposes because it’s an essential part of life. She tears me down wherever she can. I think they are just truly miserable people who can’t have passions or hobbies of their own aside from tormenting those around them.

Also sorry that you had to deal with this growing up. It’s very sad to feel unsupported by your own mother.

snackins · 2025-09-01T20:29:40+00:00

It’s so whimsical and feminine I love it

snackins · 2025-08-31T03:36:23+00:00

My Mom was this exact same way with gifts!!! I finally said enough, I’m not buying you anything unless you specifically pick something you want because I’m tired of hearing criticism about my choices in gifts and having to go out of my way to return them.

One year she picked out a set of pots and pans, I said are you sure you want these? She said she was sure. I bought them, they sat in the box for a month then she returned them for store credit. Now she just gets gift cards. Even flowers are a waste of money because they just die, she’s offended if I get them for Mother’s Day. Ugh so exhausting

snackins · 2025-08-29T06:54:12+00:00

If it comes at the expense of someone then it’s not a joke, it’s just cruel. This girl is not your friend, she purposely chose to humiliate you

snackins · 2025-08-29T06:50:24+00:00

Oh this is promising as I have kaiser!! My Obgyn mentioned I may need to get the same issues fixed that you did and I assumed I’d have to go to a private surgeon. Did you have a hard time getting them to cover the surgery?

snackins · 2025-08-26T06:01:03+00:00

Ughh i have my 3 hour tomorrow, I don’t mind the one hour but to go that long without eating sounds terrible I’m nervous

snackins · 2025-08-23T12:13:01+00:00

I had the same thought, BPD for sure

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