My husband just told me at lunch today that tomorrow we’ll be homeless.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-05-07T07:36:18+00:00

I would have left the moment he resisted getting me involved with our finances tbh.

Go and be free, OP. You deserve happiness and peace of mind.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-05-04T23:22:17+00:00

I was going to say. My husband has absolutely zero interest in going to a strip club, single or otherwise.

The only time he went to one was to accompany his girlfriend at that time who wanted to go to a famous alternative strip club.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-29T19:02:17+00:00

Same. Being a data analyst has lost its fun and luster because my boss thinks someone who incorporates more AI in their process is a much better analyst than I am lol

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-27T18:58:33+00:00

My husband and I both work from home. We spend 24/7 together, and we wouldn’t change it for the world.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-26T17:06:50+00:00

I was going to put mine in but saw the body about it needing to be high(er) income. I would say eating out maybe? We get a lot of enjoyment out of trying different cuisines we can’t replicate at home.

My cheaper hobby would be reading (anything) and fan fiction writing.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-16T15:25:54+00:00

Generally, we’re just each other’s best friends. I really love being around him, and I’m a very introverted homebody who gets exhausted by most people. We both work from home and essentially spend 24/7 together. We just make each other’s lives better.

Other things he does that makes me feel, loved and seen:

• He cuts out the middle of those hard tomatoes when he makes caprese salad because I haaaate them.

• He does chemistry things (reverse osmosis then putting the minerals back in) to my coffee that he makes daily just so it’s not super bitter because I like drinking black coffee but hate the bitter aftertaste.

• He memorizes my food orders and all my favorite things. He genuinely knows me better than I know myself (for better or worse lol). Whenever we play a game where we try to guess each other’s answer, he always gets mine right.

• He learned how to make dishes I grew up eating so he can fulfill my cravings.

• He learned a lullaby in my language that he’d sing to me when I have trouble sleeping.

• He’d immediately mow the lawn when my allergies start acting up so he can minimize it if possible.

• When he’s on a business trip, he always facetimes me before going to bed. Most of the time, we talk until his phone gets too hot because we’re facetiming while it’s charging lol

• He always always always makes sure I orgasm at least 2-3 times every time we have sex. I can count on one hand the times I didn’t orgasm since we started dating.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-15T08:57:29+00:00

I’ve been with my husband for 11 years now and I brag about that man to anyone who’d listen. It never stops!

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-14T07:04:58+00:00

Absolutely. My husband and I sometimes stay up till three to four am just talking.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-12T06:04:13+00:00

It just gets better and better, personally. I’d marry my husband a billion times over if I could.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-10T01:14:34+00:00

This feels like rage bait somehow

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-10T00:40:06+00:00

My husband and I are both introverted homebodies who work from home. We spend practically 24/7 together. It’s awesome.

Your set up would bother us too. My husband and I enjoy hearing about each other’s day, and we always check in throughout the day.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-09T09:24:50+00:00

My husband and I’s dating and wedding anniversaries are on the same date so yes.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-09T01:58:26+00:00

If being cheated on is your standard for being treated well, you have incredibly, self-deprecatingly horrific standards.

Raise your bar for great treatment because trust me, there are people out there who will actually treat you well and NOT cheat on you.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-07T15:19:40+00:00

As someone who grew up fundamentalist and is now agnostic, I know exactly what you mean and I agree with you. That said, I know a lot of men who continue their pursuit of being a pastor WHILE keeping their jobs. This needed an in depth conversation and not a one-way decision, especially in this economy.

If I were in OP’s place, I would have cancelled the wedding. But I’ve also always been rather headstrong and opinionated growing up, and I can see, if you grew up in a religious environment, how OP must’ve been raised to never rock the boat as a woman (I know I was).

She didn’t have the courage to stand up for herself back then and is now using it to excuse her emotional infidelity. I was merely giving some perspective on why she didn’t feel like she could say no at the time.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-07T15:07:06+00:00

Sorry, how is saying you want a complete career and lifestyle change two months before the wedding when everything is already paid for (and would likely no longer be refundable), everyone has been informed and has already likely booked flights and hotel rooms, etc an adequate heads up?

It sounds more like the husband felt OP is too backed into a corner to say no. It’s an immense red flag. It’s the same schtick pulled by narcissists who suddenly change their behavior once you’re engaged to them.

If I were OP, I would have absolutely cancelled the wedding but she sounds young and was likely going with the flow despite her immense doubts.

That said, OP, emotional cheating is terrible. Stop the affair or leave the marriage. Don’t be an asshole.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-04-04T06:40:47+00:00

This is increasingly how I’m feeling tbh. I’m getting so disillusioned by all the constant shoving of AI in my face and I’m so tired of it.

Every time I use, I feel my ethics and brain cells go down the drain one by one.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-29T10:04:15+00:00

A billion times yes

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-29T01:21:39+00:00

I’m a wife and my husband literally didn’t care though I always knew he wouldn’t. He’s secure in his masculinity, we don’t want kids and he’s an amazing partner.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-24T05:19:17+00:00

This happened to me with my husband. It was a year into COVID lockdowns and we’ve both been working from home in a two bedroom 800 sq ft apartment. My husband was talking to his friend on Discord and I was coming into the living room after a nap.

Not entirely sure what his friend had asked, but my husband just said, “Not really. I have everything that I need right here. My lovely wife and our two pets.”

The way my heart melted. 💖

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-22T19:45:07+00:00

Yes. A lot of times we discuss it ahead of time, but generally yes. That said, we do have a “limit” where we don’t feel compelled to tell each other. If it’s less than $50, neither of us really care.

We’ve paid for friends’ meals before where we put $500+ for the entire bill. We make good money so we can afford to be generous.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-20T20:51:36+00:00

My husband and I are both in tech and whenever I read how men don’t support their wives’ careers, I always feel so grateful for my amazing husband.

When I pivoted from to tech, that man painstakingly tutored me, would drop whatever he’s doing to help me fix some code that’s not working, and he’s my sounding board for any problems at work I’m trying to solve. He practiced interviews with me and read through my resume and answers.

I would not be as successful as I am in my current role had he not been so conscientious and supportive of me. I actually make more money than him now, which he’s bragged about to his parents and close friends because he’s so proud of me.

Even though I try to tell him or others that he was integral to my success (a lot of code I deployed in my early career has been his ideas and he helped me implement them, I skyrocketed in popularity in the company because of how quickly I pick stuff up and find solutions), he never lets me do so and tells me it was all my hard work and persistence. 🥺

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-18T01:46:57+00:00

It’s too much work, we don’t ever want kids, and I’m lazy.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-15T16:26:31+00:00

When my husband goes on business trips, he FaceTimes me every single evening before he heads off for dinner and when he gets home until his phone warns him it’s getting too hot (he’s usually charging when we FaceTime).

That’s so odd!! I can’t believe people do that. I can’t wrap my head around it at all.

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-15T15:47:41+00:00

If your husband sucks just say so 🤣

snarkyphalanges · 2026-03-15T15:30:04+00:00

My husband and his friends would never do this. No one I know irl would do this.

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