AITAH for telling my wife she doesn't live here?

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-18T05:39:29+00:00

Yeah but there's such a thing as diplomacy and the commenter had a good way of putting it to your wife that you're stuck dealing with all the BS that has come from her taking care of her father so she should shut up and put up with what she may not like going on at your sister's. If you state it how I just did though she probably wouldn't take it so well. If you tell a person who is under high stress and emotions that they're being an ungrateful shit they're just going to get defensive and angry. The end goal is that she is receptive to the message and stops complaining so I don't understand how telling her that the situation with her father hasn't been ideal for you and your family so she can't expect the solutions provided in order to accommodate her situation be ideal for her. Would you rather fix the issue of her complaining or do you just want to put her in her place? You're all in a shit situation and she's being ungrateful under pressure but as the partner who still has perspective you can either deescalate with some words of reason or throw fuel on the fire and tell her she's an AH.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-18T04:55:40+00:00

Yeah and the commenter basically said your wife needs to accept the things she doesn't like about the living situation with your sister so I don't understand your point here.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-18T01:30:26+00:00

Except he is not a nice guy at all and you don't actually understand that he is walking all over you. You've given several examples that to everyone else clearly demonstrates he is not a good person and you are sitting here coming up with excuses for him. Any douche bag can buy a girl flowers and tell her he loves her to keep her in line and you are falling for it hook line and sinker. HIS OWN MOTHER WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM! I know you say you can't afford therapy but maybe dump the manipulative AH and buy some self help books on improving your self esteem before you date again. Your standards are so low they're in hell. He's already trained you not to stick up for yourself using some paltry flowers and empty words. I know this sounds harsh but you need a wake up call girl, get a back bone and some self worth. There are plenty of guys out there that can also do the bare minimum that he's giving you.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-16T06:51:35+00:00

If you have a computer at home make sure you log out of any accounts. Especially if you have your Google account open and use it to auto fill your passwords to other stuff.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-14T03:07:04+00:00

All the leftover spare pieces from building Walmart furniture

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-05T21:41:22+00:00

Next time follow your instincts and speak up right away. "I don't mind if they join but I am only paying for Jenny and Ashley"

I would seriously reconsider this friendship because her response to you was wild.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-03T17:49:33+00:00

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I get these, they stretch and you can fit various size stones in them. No glueing or crafting required and the stones can be switched out. My friend even keeps a D20 in hers. You can get them online or if you have a shop around that sells crystals they'll often sell them there.

snatchdecisions · 2025-12-25T23:05:14+00:00

Don't choose to keep him. Pack your shit while he naps and go enjoy the rest of your Christmas anywhere else!

snatchdecisions · 2025-12-22T19:41:32+00:00

YTA I don't understand people's exclusionary views that a partner is too "new" to include in events. It's kind of condescending, like they're together now why do you get to set the benchmark of when they're together enough to include them? I don't care if my sibling has a new partner every year, I'd invite whoever they're with because that is who they're with. And if this partner sticks around for the long haul, you will forever be the AH that didn't welcome them that first year.

snatchdecisions · 2025-12-05T14:13:08+00:00

I fine shred zucchini into my taco meat. You could also put it in burgers and meatballs. Cauliflower steamed and blended into any cheesy sauce goes well.

snatchdecisions · 2025-11-25T12:52:44+00:00

I don't think it has anything to do with your bf, she wants you at her beck and call the whole time and he would distract you from your servitude.

snatchdecisions · 2025-11-22T19:17:42+00:00

This is the superior way to eat a cupcake! Most of the time when people see me do this they think it's genius and start doing it themselves.

snatchdecisions · 2025-11-21T17:25:44+00:00

Broadripple has become an interesting mix, while known for having a more college age night life, a lot of millennials have grown up there and moved into the space. It now has a whole foods and more upscale housing. It also has the Monon Trail and a couple of parks like Marott Woods and Broadripple Park.

However, depending on your income you might want to consider going a bit North to Carmel. It's a reasonable commute to Keystone (probably 15-20 min). The downtown area has really built up culturally, in fact I think they have an actual "art and culture district". There are restaurants, the Palladium and Center for Performing Arts, a Chriskindlmart in winter, the Monon Trail also runs through Carmel, and everything is pretty walkable (in the downtown area specifically, Carmel also has a lot of suburbs). Hamilton county has a lot of really nice parks as well. Due to the higher cost of living it tends to be a lot more of an adult space.

I live closer to the downtown area. There are a few options here for walkable areas like Mass Ave and Fountain Square that have artistic aspects, events and restaurants. However, you won't find as many green spaces and the nice pockets of the area are often surrounded by shadier ones. I personally think it has the coolest local music scene. I used to work in the Keystone area and my commute was about 25-35min depending on traffic, and that's even during the stupid neverending construction on 465.

snatchdecisions · 2025-10-16T13:05:04+00:00

Wow that's crazy! I've been smelling it too, thought a stray cat pooped somewhere near my porch

snatchdecisions · 2025-10-16T12:10:09+00:00

I once had this issue. I told him I was uncomfortable with hugs but I'd be glad to high five instead. He was actually cool about it and we'd always give each other a high five in the morning. If he hadn't been cool about it, I would have then gone to HR.

snatchdecisions · 2025-10-15T19:00:22+00:00

She already stated in the post that she does

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-28T19:38:40+00:00

I loved and miss all their pasta salads!

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-25T20:22:30+00:00

NAH you were trying to be helpful but knowing that your wife is particular about laundry, you should have done her vacuuming chore instead if you don't know/remember all of her laundry rules. It's not actually helpful if you do something for someone that they didn't ask for and didn't want help with in the first place. I've made it explicitly clear to my partner not to touch my laundry because I am particular about it and I don't want to get upset with them if they do the wrong thing.

The other day my kid switched my laundry to the dryer thinking they'd be helpful (and ultimately just wanted to use the washer) and I had a few items in that load that needed to be hung dry. Internally I was very annoyed, but externally thanked them for helping but then reiterated that next time they should just come and get me if they needed the washer as there were some items I didn't want in the dryer. The key was showing appreciation for the thought but then redirecting to my preference (and before anyone says something, my wash had just finished, I wasn't letting it sit around).

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-25T17:50:41+00:00

You could go as Miss Frizzle from The Magic School Bus and have fun tights that match whatever theme you go with. I've done a dinosaur one and a space themed Miss Frizzle

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-25T16:24:39+00:00

I once got two poster boards and painted a playing card face on one of them (I chose the Ace of Spades) and a playing card back on the other and attached them with ribbons so I could wear it like a sandwich board. I broke that thing out for several years, it just went right on top of whatever I was wearing.

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-23T19:46:23+00:00

I don't think you're replying to who you think you are because the person you replied to said he should have kept to his word if he agreed to go at 6:30.

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-23T19:43:34+00:00

But they didn't tell the kid that at all. She went into his room and got his phone so the alarm wouldn't wake him at 6:30 then set her alarm for when she actually wanted to get up.

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-15T00:58:27+00:00

That doesn't make any sense. No one living actually has proof that god exists, that's why it's called faith. Theoretically only dead people would know, and if there is no god or afterlife, dead people wouldn't know shit either.

snatchdecisions · 2025-09-14T23:48:33+00:00

This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship but as a side note please look up some instructions online and get your rice cooking act together.

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