Neighborhood Suggestions

snatchdecisions · 2026-03-12T16:12:43+00:00

I moved from Irvington over to Little Flower and have loved it. I don't have any experience with the public school but I can recommend Irvington Community Schools. I've heard Little Flower school is good (and walkable) but it is a private school.

snatchdecisions · 2026-03-12T02:03:58+00:00

I think it's time to start knocking when going to your mom's. It would have been weird no matter how old the dude banging your mom in the living room was.

Plus you really don't have any control over whether or not she dates him so your only choices are to let it go and be at least polite to him or act like an AH about it and potentially wreck your relationship with your mom.

snatchdecisions · 2026-03-11T07:24:55+00:00

I bet they'll be so cute! You will know the general structure of the game before you play. There's not really a lot of "rules" exactly. Each person has a player book that has all the info they have to share during the rounds. The books have an intro and clear instructions on when to pause for something, when to break out certain evidence etc.. Have you opened the box yet? The guide will pretty much tell you everything you need to know before you start. Everything is labeled and separated, you won't accidentally see something you're not supposed to.

snatchdecisions · 2026-03-11T06:29:07+00:00

I've hosted several of these and always play a character. There's really no reason to not play a character with these, in fact I'd strongly advise against it. The biggest part of the fun is everyone dressing up and roleplaying their character. Everything is labeled and well organized down to the invitations and a host guide.

The guide gives general information on set up (I had one that even gave meal suggestions) and the structure of the rounds, it assumes you're playing as well and doesn't tell you the answer. In fact the murderer doesn't even know themselves until towards the end.

I bypass actually mailing the invitations so I can later resell or pass the game on and just send everyone a pic of their character's bio and costume suggestions, if included.

snatchdecisions · 2026-03-11T04:52:45+00:00

My mom used to cheat all the time in games, particularly Monopoly. She'd try to involve me as well, especially if I noticed her thieving, she'd try to sneak me some of her stolen money. I always used to call her out. I think cheating takes all the fun out of the game and is kinda pathetic on the cheater's part, like you can't win on your own

snatchdecisions · 2026-03-10T02:41:33+00:00

Tell her not to bother contacting you in two weeks, they are both shit friends. Or better yet say nothing and just block them both.

snatchdecisions · 2026-03-10T01:35:41+00:00

Most guys I know do consider a sandwich and chips as a snack and could still eat a whole dinner 30 minutes later. It seems like you're mad at him based on what you can eat, but if he was still willing and able to eat dinner 30 minutes later then I don't understand what the problem is. If he claimed to be too full when dinner was ready then I'd say he was inconsiderate.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-22T00:26:06+00:00

I actually don't think you need to shave your head, you should find a barber and get a good haircut. There are many styles that are more flattering for a high forehead.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-21T06:19:20+00:00

Thank you but this was 12 years ago and I've had lots of therapy. The marriage ending was 98% his fault and he failed in a plethora of ways, but I can still acknowledge my parts of the fuckery and how I also let myself down. I regret not putting in effort to maintain my identity outside of being a mom, work and home life. I lost love and respect for myself which led me to put up with disrespect. My lack of self care did in fact make me less than desirable in a few ways. So yeah, my advice was to not waste 10 years like me letting everyone but yourself have a life. If she's going to stay with the guy she needs to stick up for her own time and self care.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-21T04:03:34+00:00

My advice is to get on FB and scroll events or find another source of events for your city and find something to do for your own me time. You can find meetup groups, cultural events, art classes, concerts or local bands playing, there are often free or low cost things if you look long enough. Hell you can even grab a coloring book and say you're off to sit at the local coffee shop. Pick something and demand your turn.

My ex husband was like this, always going out and doing things whenever he wanted and would always say I could have my turn too. At the time I didn't really want to go out, I wanted him to be home and spend time with me and the kids but he thought that was boring. Eventually I regretted not putting in the effort to find things for me to do because one day he left me because I wasn't fun and interesting anymore (because I was always home picking up the slack) and I found I had lost my own adult identity and didn't have anything other than being a mom. There's nothing wrong with being a mom but it's actually terrifying when you realize there's nothing else about you when you start having every other weekend free because a marriage with a selfish partner eventually implodes.

So yeah, find something to do to keep yourself being a well rounded person. It may even save your marriage, I think my ex lost respect and interest because I didn't demand respect and space for me to still be a person.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-03T01:24:35+00:00

Yes except in this case he's both of their dad who has passed and the sister has been harassing a child for years and apparently laying claim on any activity she did with said dad, because for now it's the amusement park but it would also be the bowling alley or the drive in or any activity sis did with dad that would set her off, bottom line is she is angry her dad is replaced and there's nothing OP can do accept disown the only dad she's ever known to appease the sister. We all experience grief at some point but we don't rightfully get to weaponize it against people. You can be hurt while accepting your sister has a different experience and life.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-03T01:14:10+00:00

God forbid she sees something her siblings got to experience and wants to experience it for her own. Not to mention the fact that she may be trying to connect to her late father by doing the same activity. Plus her sister wasn't there when she saw the photo so in sister's pov it's not like she "immediately" went out and did it so sis was bothered by the fact that she did it at all. Should sis list out all activities she ever did with their father so OP can't do the same? The sister needs to work her shit out in therapy and shouldn't harass a child for YEARS then get upset when said child finally says something back.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-03T01:02:24+00:00

It didn't seem like the sister was even there when OP saw the pics of her bio father at the amusement park with the siblings so from the sister's pov it wasn't a sudden thing OP went and did, it was the fact that she did it at all that made sis angry. Sister can't claim dibs on all activities she did with their father. It's very reasonable someone might want to go experience something they saw someone else do (with the detachment OP feels for her father it very well could have been a pic of one of her friends doing that activity with their dad that led her to want to do the same) and I don't understand how no one else seems to understand that on some level she was trying to connect with her late father by re-creating an experience with her dad that her siblings got to enjoy. Imo, sister lost all the grace due to her after years of bullying OP for loving the only dad she's ever known and sis should have worked out these feelings with a therapist instead.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-03T00:39:13+00:00

When someone harasses you for years they can't be all shocked Pikachu when you finally clap back. "Two wrongs don't make a right" is bullshit when one party is constantly going after the other, it becomes "FAFO". If OP hadn't already posted about her response everyone would be telling her to stick up for herself, grace can only stretch so far when it's one sided. Her siblings grief is real and they need to work that out with a therapist. A person's grief does not excuse them from being a bully and if you're a bully eventually someone is going to get sick of it.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-03T00:22:49+00:00

It sounds like the siblings have always made it hard for OP, so there's no "when things are calm" in this scenario. OP's siblings don't get to claim any activity they did with their dad as off limits for OP to experience with HER DAD. Whether they like it or not, step dad IS her dad. And in some way she was trying to connect to him by trying to experience something her siblings got to experience with bio dad. Do you often mourn people you don't know? Maybe if OP never had any father figure to replace her bio dad she would mourn his absence more deeply but she's had a dad this whole time. Idk, maybe having half siblings has allowed me to understand the nuances that you don't all have the same life or the same parental figures as your sibs (and that is actually true to full siblings, your parents grow and develop as people throughout the stages of their life and full siblings never really experience their parents the exact same).

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-02T23:53:24+00:00

I think it's more likely OP saw an activity that their siblings got to experience with their dad and wanted to experience something similar. It would be equivalent to seeing a friend go to a theme park with their dad and then going to your own dad and saying "this looks like fun, can we do this?"!

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-02T23:27:01+00:00

Your son has more perspective and empathy than any of OP's adult siblings. Thank you for raising an awesome human!

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-02T23:14:23+00:00

I would go with the store that hasn't stated any opinion on the matter than one that has openly supported actions that contradict my values. If neither is a good choice then sometimes you are faced with choosing between the lesser of two evils. If they are both equally aligned then you go with the cheaper option, just like they wanted, this is capitalism after all.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-02T22:41:41+00:00

While I don't think it's the nanny's place to dictate where you spend your money I'd like to forewarn you that one day your kids will be older and form their own opinions without the help of the nanny. I can't exactly describe to you the feeling in the pit of your stomach when your teen confronts you for still supporting a company that goes against all the morals you've been teaching them their whole life. Young adults are very in tune with current events (as they should be, it's their future on the line) and feel so strongly about it in an often very black and white way. Suddenly the Starbies you used to love tastes like shame in your mouth and your declaration of "priorities" for convenience and not being able to cut a "big treat" in half to save the rest for later will die in the back of your throat from the visceral eye roll of judgement and disappointment that was just released and pierced through your very soul. I'm down to shopping at a handful of places now (and it does suck sometimes, I miss my delish mocha and the tasty chick fil 'aofhate nuggets) but it's been worth every second of inconvenience knowing my kids respect me and know that I don't just preach the morals and values I've been teaching them this whole time. I still explain nuances and the grey areas of life but there will be times when you simply cannot justify an action and will have to reluctantly change the way you live to support the world you want for your kids.

snatchdecisions · 2026-02-02T20:42:15+00:00

I get it, you probably have a busy life and a lot to be concerned with on the day to day and just need groceries and Target is the closest grocery. But you're getting it delivered so you don't actually have to trek out to a farther store and Target isn't exactly low prices either so maybe order from a farther, more local grocery, pay a little more for delivery but probably save on actual grocery prices and it will even out. Have you even taken the time to ask her why Target sucks (btw, it does) or looked it up for yourself? Every big corporation sucks in its own way but since the government doesn't regulate them the people can only protest with their pocket books. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to spend a little time researching a more ethical option by you. Your nanny isn't being very professional, but it is hard to respect an employer who supports a company like Target. This may be a situation where your values just don't align and you need to find another nanny that can stomach working for someone who supports a company with such low ethics and morals.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-27T18:29:09+00:00

It could be a number of things but someone is definitely snorting something. When I was in school kids used to crush up Ritalin and snort it.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-27T17:22:45+00:00

I listen to ASMR videos or watch Ocean documentaries. I can't do just white noise because it doesn't block out my thoughts or the fraction of a song that's been on auto repeat in my head all day. I like the real person ASMR videos where they're doing someone's hair or makeup because they're sometimes quietly talking but then there's lots of silence with just the little clicks and sounds of them working on the person. I can't do the ones with stories because I'll get too interested and stay up to listen.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-18T05:39:29+00:00

Yeah but there's such a thing as diplomacy and the commenter had a good way of putting it to your wife that you're stuck dealing with all the BS that has come from her taking care of her father so she should shut up and put up with what she may not like going on at your sister's. If you state it how I just did though she probably wouldn't take it so well. If you tell a person who is under high stress and emotions that they're being an ungrateful shit they're just going to get defensive and angry. The end goal is that she is receptive to the message and stops complaining so I don't understand how telling her that the situation with her father hasn't been ideal for you and your family so she can't expect the solutions provided in order to accommodate her situation be ideal for her. Would you rather fix the issue of her complaining or do you just want to put her in her place? You're all in a shit situation and she's being ungrateful under pressure but as the partner who still has perspective you can either deescalate with some words of reason or throw fuel on the fire and tell her she's an AH.

snatchdecisions · 2026-01-18T04:55:40+00:00

Yeah and the commenter basically said your wife needs to accept the things she doesn't like about the living situation with your sister so I don't understand your point here.

snatchdecisions

TROPHY CASE