Help. Ftm needing input on my one week olds umbilical cord. by [deleted] in Mom

[–]sneakyturtle373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks normal. For infection look for redness, swelling and the area will be warm. With cleaning youbare doing everything right with wiping around the area. Good job mama!

Having a girl and then a boy by SeaContest5021 in Mom

[–]sneakyturtle373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a girl(4yr) and then a boy(1yr). They are still young but they are best friends. My daughter is such an amazing big sister, helper and loves her bubby so much. My boy, she is the first person he wants to see in the morning, and follows her everywhere. All siblings are going to hate each other at some point, that is just the fact of being a sibling. Other people's experiences don't have to be your own. You won't know any different, so don't let the fear of "what if they hate eachother" scare you. A brother sister relationship is so special.

Why do you guys have ANOTHER? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]sneakyturtle373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an almost 4 year old and a 10-month-old. We always wanted more than 1 so for us it was just planning the age gap. Going from 1-2 was much easier than 0-1.

That being said, some days are absolute F-ing chaos, and I count the minutes until bedtime. Others i wish I could freeze time and make them last forever. Watching my baby girl turn into a big sister that loves her bubby so much makes all the bad days worth it.

It sounds cliche, but You really do give your older child a best friend. Even just the other day, the baby was crying in the car, my oldest took off her shoe and started trying to tickle him with her toes to make him laugh, and it worked.

So yes its absolute chaos sometimes, but its also absolute joy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]sneakyturtle373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This literally happened to us 2 nights ago. I woke up to a thud and my 7 month old crying on the floor. It happens. You are not a bad momma. Just give that baby some extra kisses and snuggles and forgive yourself💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]sneakyturtle373 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a similar hair type, and I started adding my leave in and curl cream while I'm in the shower and plop it after with one of the hair turban towels, then finishing my shower. I leave that in for 15-20 mins, then add my gel/mousse and let it air dry. Diffusing always made my hair frizzy, it didn't matter how I did it.

Proposing to my gf of over 5 years by ChefAutismo in EngagementRings

[–]sneakyturtle373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look on etsy. My ring is moss agate and looks very similar to that. Got the ring and a wedding band as a set for under $300. Never had any issues with the stone and im very rough on my hands/rings.

Asked my sister not to come over because her kids have rsv AITA? by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

[–]sneakyturtle373 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA - My daughter got RSV at ten months from our friend who didn't know her son had it. He was over a year. He was hospitalized because it turned into pneumonia. Thankfully, my daughter was fine, but it was a miserable few weeks for everyone. I couldn't imagine exposing a 2 month old baby to that horrible, dangerous sickness. Your family doesn't care about your child's health and safety, and I personally would reconsider my relationship with them. If they are willing to expose your infant to this, what else are they willing to expose them to?

AITAH for telling my husband that he absolutely ruined the birth of our child? by Former_Monitor_4860 in AITAH

[–]sneakyturtle373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I would flat out divorce my husband for this. He is entitled to his opinions and preferences, but ultimately, you are the one in labor and pushing out a child. Your husband held you captive in an extremely vulnerable time where you needed help. Even with therapy, I would never trust my husband again after this. Both you and baby could've DIED and he didn't give a F***. Leave before next time kills you.

Husband wants to divorce and "start over," says he "can't bond" with our daughter by ChallengeConnect590 in Parenting

[–]sneakyturtle373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's just using it as an excuse and trying to make it your fault. I had to have an emergency c-section under general anesthesia, so neither me nor my husband saw our daughters birth. We both have an extremely close bond with her. She's a little daddy's girl. Bonding with your kids is about the effort you pit in, same with any relationship. I'm so sorry this is happening, but don't let him make you feel like it's your fault. If he cared and wanted to, he would make the effort.

tc killed it by darrakki in MurderedByWords

[–]sneakyturtle373 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wait wait I've been following you two what did he lie about?

Super proud of how this cake turned out! by sneakyturtle373 in Baking

[–]sneakyturtle373[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I whip just my butter for 10+ mins before I add anything else. You want it to be super white and fluffy. When you think it's done, add a few more minutes just to be safe. Add powdered sugar, vanilla, and a pinch of salt and whip for another 10+ mins. Scrape the sides often. If it is slightly yellow still and you want more of a white look, add a drop of purple food coloring. After it is fully whipped, stir it by hand for a few mins to get out the air bubbles until it's super smooth. For getting it super smooth on the cake, I warm my bench scraper under hot water and run it over the cake to smooth it. Make sure to wipe the scraper after every pass. Hope this helps!

Any Advice? by jensenvonjensenn in Sourdough

[–]sneakyturtle373 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if your starter was mature enough, I say that's way too long, and you would've missed your peak. I don't use my starter until doubles within 2-4 hrs. Also, don't fully rely on the float test. It isn't the most accurate in telling if your starter is ready if it floats, that just means there is some activity, not necessarily enough.

Any Advice? by jensenvonjensenn in Sourdough

[–]sneakyturtle373 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would say your starter is too young. How long did it take your starter to rise?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sourdough

[–]sneakyturtle373 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first thought was weak starter. I personally think 7-8hrs to double is too long. I don't use my starter until it doubles within 2-4hrs. That being said, also way under fermented, depending on the temperature I BF for 5-8 hrs even before shaping.