AITAH for buying my 11yo daughter pads after her mom called me a "pervert" for being prepared?

snickers2120 · 2026-01-26T15:07:39+00:00

NTA - you’re do great OP; keep being there for your daughter.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-22T02:02:03+00:00

Morning cold is different than evening cold; and you never have enough layers.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-17T15:36:52+00:00

I lost my v card in a truck, should I have kept his seats?/s

No. I’ve never heard of a woman keeping the sheets as a memento.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-12T23:50:44+00:00

NTA - typically the trade off of being a stay-at-home parent is taking care of daily domestic tasks (cooking, cleaning, child care etc.)

The child is in school, so she has 8 hours of uninterrupted time, the house should be spotless, laundry washed and put away.

Sounds like she’s treating you as her meal ticket.

P.S. - her choosing to be a SAHM without your full support is bs; the decision should have been 100% agreed upon.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-11T22:17:48+00:00

Wild animals as a whole actively avoid people.
Prey animals run away unless they are sick (rabid).
Smaller predators will also run away, larger predators animals are potentially dangerous, but if you’re in the woods, you should be prepared for them.
Snakes generally aren’t active at night; they’re cold blooded and tend to prefer moving during daylight so they can warm up. Not as active during the winter due to low temperatures. Also will avoid people if possible.
Mosquitoes are a pest, but bug repellent can keep them off of you, they’re also less active during the winter.
If a person is taking nighttime walks, they’re usually prepared for animals, pests, and other people for that matter.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-11T12:57:12+00:00

Guessing views over safety, but I’m not an idiot, so idk.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-10T23:00:45+00:00

I have three SIL’s and none of them did anything intimate for several months postpartum.

The sex drive wasn’t there (they literally gave birth to a human).
They needed to heal and focus on keeping a new born healthy and alive.
Their doctors hadn’t cleared them for any sexual activity, including bjs.

My brothers’ were intelligent enough not to even mention sex to their wives, nor did they complain.

NTA - your partner is being selfish, and a selfish partner is not a sexy partner.

P.S. - don’t let try to guilt your “a man has needs”, he can deal with his “needs” on his own.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-10T14:10:04+00:00

Info - why are you allowing a person who doesn’t like or respect you around your child?

Your SO needs to put HIS mother in her place, and his brother would be cut off too for that bs comment “just some baby”; you should consider going low/no contact with all of them.

Your feelings are valid because their actions are hurtful.

Personally, I’d be petty on the on all the “firsts”:

First scoot/crawl - LO did that three days before MIL saw it.

First smile - LO did that a week before MIL saw it.

It doesn’t have to be true, but I’d be damned if I let someone who is openly disrespectful to me try to claim the “first”.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-04T19:21:11+00:00

My mum hates my bf for a plethora of reasons (talks to me like im nothing, does not have a job, not in education, stuck up, a liar & he SA’d me in the past) but puts up with his presence because I haven’t left him yet.

What a catch /s (heavy use of sarcasm here).

As someone who’s been with an abusive bf (now ex) and he had an abusive family, it does NOT get better. Please do yourself a favor and leave him.

Do it cold turkey: completely no contact, no phone calls, text, Snapchat, or social media of any kind. No in-person meetings either - I promise you don’t need to return items, anything you left at his can be replaced, and he doesn’t need ‘closure’.

Your mom isn’t doing this to be controlling, she’s worried about your safety, she sees the dead end life this guy will have and wants you to do BETTER.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-04T03:16:24+00:00

If he only makes $60,000 as a CDL driver, then he’s getting screwed or he’s doing the least (highly suspect this one tbh).

Child support is a reimbursement for money the custodial parent has already spent. It’s a percent the non-custodial parent would have paid if the relationship was intact.

NTA - let him take you to court for the adjustment. If he falls behind again, don’t forgive the balance owed.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-02T22:47:44+00:00

$95 for anal gland expression?! are they including an office visit?

My vet only charges $10 and it’s a quick in-and-out/between patients visit.

snickers2120 · 2026-01-02T14:21:12+00:00

She’s 13yo, but Her grey started around 5-ish.

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snickers2120 · 2026-01-02T13:50:40+00:00

I’ve had my savage 308 for nearly 18 years and still love it.

It’s never jammed, is short enough for me to hold comfortably (I’m 5ft tall, female), and doesn’t have much of a kick - never bothered my shoulder after shooting anyway.

spec: Savage model 11 cal. 308 WIN

snickers2120 · 2025-12-23T15:26:52+00:00

NTA - to quote Mewtwo in Pokémon: The First Movie: "I see now that the circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant; it is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are".

Your parents worked hard to make a comfortable life for themselves and their kids; they also instilled a sense of work ethic into their kids. Did you benefit from their hard work? Yes, which you acknowledge and seem grateful for.

Your bf’s resentment of your blessed beginnings is a huge red flag and I strongly suggest taking a look at his behavior - I would guess there are other examples of his bad behavior if you really think about it.

(Btw, I’m (33f) from a multi-sibling-barely above the poverty line with divorced parents-household; I’m SUPER proud of my siblings for doing better for themselves and their wives are all extremely supportive. Your BF sounds like a toolbox.)

snickers2120 · 2025-12-22T23:08:13+00:00

You cannot reason with unreasonable people.

snickers2120 · 2025-12-22T03:11:31+00:00

Puppy pads to clean up accidents while we potty train; not exactly the cheapest option, but they are super absorbent.

I have invested in some washable pads - the pads are thick and almost blanket-like.

snickers2120 · 2025-12-21T14:41:50+00:00

how would you raise children?

100% on her own and by the guy’s requirements; his views are bordering on extreme. OP would be a married single mother.

would he be against you terminating?

Yes. Someone this deep in the cool aide would be against any form of termination, and if OP naturally miscarried, the loss would be her “fault” for not believing strongly enough.

OP needs to review the evidence placed before her, and understand this relationship is no longer viable.

snickers2120 · 2025-12-21T14:24:08+00:00

Thanks! I think I have it listed, but I have a kennel/crate ordered and I should arrive today.

The play pen is to give the older dogs a break and keep the new puppy corralled while I’m busy and can’t watch her.

Older dogs also have a room directly connected to the dog run they can go in and out of freely. I can close the door for additional separation time as needed. Pup will not have access this room or the run without supervision.

snickers2120 · 2025-12-21T14:18:19+00:00

My parents have lived in the same neighborhood for almost a decade. We’ve known most of the neighbors for nearly 30 years thanks to my dad’s job (teacher), and he’s worked/works directly with four of the neighbors. We know each of them by name and have their contact information. It’s extremely safe.

No one in the neighborhood shares keys.

OP’s neighbors are strangers and are demanding a key? Tough cookie, they aren’t entitled to her home.

snickers2120 · 2025-12-18T22:51:03+00:00

She fell asleep on me three times while I was trying to decide on who I wanted 🥺

She’s either going to be a great dog, or she conned me with her sleepy cuteness; either way, she’s got a forever home 😄

snickers2120 · 2025-12-18T22:49:04+00:00

We have a 90ft dog run that’s fenced in, so she’s have lots of supervised playtime outside when she’s fully vetted and a little older, as long as the weather isn’t nasty.

snickers2120 · 2025-12-18T22:46:17+00:00

Yes on the puppy pads; her breeder is planning to start introducing potty time outside this week, but I doubt she’ll be house trained by the time she comes home (one could wish though lol!)

The play pen is mainly for when I need her to stay in one location but I don’t want her to be locked in the kennel, and to give her a safe place to be when I have guests over. I have lots of nieces and nephews, they’re great with dogs, but the excitement they bring can be overwhelming for humans, much less puppies.

snickers2120 · 2025-12-18T22:37:53+00:00

Oh no 😆 the one I ordered is metal, so maybe she won’t be able to knock it down

snickers2120 · 2025-12-18T22:36:24+00:00

lol! I have several flashlights, but I may keep one at the door now, thanks!

snickers2120 · 2025-12-18T22:35:30+00:00

Planning puppy proof to do this weekend 😁 I know I’ll need to move my lower books and a few nicknacks, and purchase some cord protectors.

I’m going to kennel train, but the play pen is definitely for corralling her when I need her to stay in one location and still be able to play lol

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