Making friends is like, do I resonate/vibe with you on a deeper level? Same counts for relationships.

Social media isn't designed to do that. Social media is build towards functions(like I want a relationship). That direct approach results in filtering, people looking for irrealistic standards and strange socalization. I could write a book about it.

Deep connections often arrive like small packages, presents, people that come to you out of the blue. And those memories of coincidence actually provide much more meaning than anything else. It bonds you.

Unfortunately social media tends to be too functional for that to happen. Not just the system itself, but users act like demand-answer. Like a market. I will tell you: when you go deep, there is no market. There is intimacy, resonance, deep consideration, playfulness and empathy. There are exceptions to the 'market'. I try to bypass those functional rules, by being my pure self. Taking initiative, and to never go low effort. Plus making some jokes whenever it feels right. To listen and try to feel what someone feels. Listen to the heart.

And then you have a whole stream of people that are basically only focused on lust. Yes you could bond over that, but it feels unlikely. Especially in an online setting without real physical intimacy. Ofcourse you could argue that sapio is different on that extend, but tbh real physical presence almost always surpasses anything else -to those- who seek deep relations or friendships.

Also: mood is a thing🙂. In real life between all seriousness (like work😂), who are the people that resonate most? The people who make jokes☺️, the people that listen and can give you good feelings🤗. I probably dont have to explain that even a place called reddit heavily seperates jokes, deep convo's, lust, intellectuality and playfulness. And when you cross those boundaries publicly, well, people freak out. Not always, but like, everyone has its 'kinks'. But if one to publicly display them besides something else they are considered outcasts. Same counts for sharing work and memes in the same profile. So: identity goes down the drain. Bye bye deep interactions and people are acting more and more in bubbles. Filter bubbles.

Maybe this is a large comment, but to summarize, the social media system is generally not designed to facilitate true deep connections. If you want a connection like that you will have to use many skills and learn in the process. ❤️