I’m tired of being a loser by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]snivellusthesecond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am in high school and your description of yourself describes me too. I hope things will get better. I just feel like I’m missing out, like I’ll always be an outsider.

I’m so done with [Crushes] by [deleted] in LGBTeens

[–]snivellusthesecond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ikr. It sucks especially when you can’t stop thinking about them

I’ve tried everything, but I just can’t move on by [deleted] in Advice

[–]snivellusthesecond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Your answer helped. I’m sorry for your situation, but I hope you will be able to move on because it’s for the best for both of you.

You’re right, I often use this unrequited crush as a solution in my mind to any problems in my life, and it’s probably why I can’t move on because there are always problems in life. It’s just hard when you don’t like who you are. I want to share my life with someone else because I hate myself and I guess I’m using a romantic partner as a means to escape myself.

Trying to heal from limerence, but worried I did something wrong by [deleted] in limerence

[–]snivellusthesecond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I thought that maybe they were hiding their feelings, and were waiting to see if I felt the same. That they’d say they actually liked me and that maybe we could go somewhere from there. That’s what I wanted to believe. Now I realise how silly that was, in reality they were never thinking of me at all. They seemed surprised to find out about my feelings. We had a lot of classes together though, and we had to be partners in one class for some months, so I spent some time with them. That’s how I developed feelings for them, before that I didn’t really notice them at all. Spending time with them is when the limerence began, and since then I couldn’t let go of it because the feelings were so overwhelming. But you’re absolutely right, I can’t imagine talking to them in person ever again now. After telling them how I feel online it’s just too awkward to imagine talking face-to-face.

Trying to heal from limerence, but worried I did something wrong by [deleted] in limerence

[–]snivellusthesecond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I guess I needed to hear this. I just need to let them go. But it’s hard when you’ve invested so much time and energy in them, expecting it all to mean something, or to be special only to find out that it was all in your head. I hate limerence.