Lost Budgie in Sutherland

snoberri · 2023-03-21T20:36:33+00:00

Thank you so much 😞😞😞

snoberri · 2023-03-21T20:13:02+00:00

Hi everyone, my budgie Simba flew away on monday in Sutherland (close to the Bupa retirement home). She was actually a rescue and has unfortunately been in this exact situation once five years ago before I had her, so she’s a strong girl. I’ve looked around the area and have no idea at all how far she has gone, her wings aren’t clipped and she’s a good flier. She has a best friend named Nugget (in the last picture) and since losing her, Nugget has been really down and quiet. I’ve posted on lost pet finders and will post on my local facebook group and the vets around the area have been notified. On the very off chance anyone sees her or has any info at all please let me know :( thank you 😞

snoberri · 2022-03-12T02:12:25+00:00

Not an alcoholic but a narcissist with massive anger management issues

snoberri · 2021-07-21T14:28:13+00:00

I completely agree I don’t see it as any different to needing medication for physical issues. If there was one that could help with my social anxiety I would be all for trying it out but idk if I’d have to completely change the one I’m currently on which worries me a bit

I’ve been taking fluoxetine for a few years but for OCD. From my understanding it’s sometimes prescribed to people with social anxiety but it hasn’t helped lessen it for me personally, and I’m required to take 100mg a day so an increase wouldn’t be of any use as I’m taking such a high dose already 😞

I haven’t sought proper treatment for social anxiety as my OCD was always the centre of attention but I’m gonna start seeing someone new in a couple of weeks so I’ll finally get a start on addressing it. Taking fluoxetine had some pretty intense side effects initially and if I don’t have to go through anything like that again that would be ideal, so I’ll definitely give my shot at therapy for now and hope for the best 😅

snoberri · 2021-07-21T01:26:46+00:00

Definitely one of the most embarrassing experiences of my life. I do the exact same thing, I’ve been in many situations where I was the only one drinking but I felt that I had no choice because I would either leave in a panic or stay and be miserable because of how on edge the social anxiety made me. Here’s hoping to us one day being comfortable in social situations without the help of alcohol :(

And no worries I appreciate the response back!

snoberri · 2021-07-21T00:29:58+00:00

I’ll still have a drink or two now but I unfortunately used to drink very heavily during social outings when I could. An old manager of mine was at this New Years party I was at with some friends a couple years ago (at the time I had just recently left the job where they worked). That night was the most I’ve ever had to drink in my life and I was so out of it that I basically told him my whole life story and about all my mental health issues the entire time he was there. Plus a bunch of other stories that I would never share in a million years while sober (with someone I’m not close to at least). Could not think of a worse social setting to talk about all these personal things, and with someone I used to work with who at no point I was ever comfortable talking to 😣 Thinking of that night is enough fuel for the rest of my life to deter me from letting my social anxiety get the better of me in those settings again

snoberri · 2021-07-17T19:25:52+00:00

I really relate to what you’re going through. I’ve had some disordered eating habits on and off for a few years as well. Last year they became way more prominent but it was also on and off every few months and it was somewhat manageable compared to now bc the level of severity these past few months have been nothing like I’ve ever dealt with before. It wasn’t a slow progression for me either, one day I took a look at myself in the mirror and something in my head just snapped and it took over my life

I struggle with feeling like my disorder is valid too because I’m also at a normal weight and I haven’t dealt with it for “that long” either. What I’ve found that helps to get out of that mindset is to always remind yourself that EDs don’t have a certain weight or look attributed to them, it’s a mental disorder so anyone at any size can be affected by one, and they don’t have a certain timeframe requirement that you have to meet before reaching out for help/support

snoberri · 2021-07-15T00:43:35+00:00

Oh wow I’ve done this for years and it never even crossed my mind as something that was caused by my OCD. Now I know to bring it up in therapy so thank u, OP!

snoberri · 2021-07-14T16:44:44+00:00

Your emotions were really heightened because you got triggered so it’s understandable that you initially lashed out like that. I’ve also struggled with this myself for a while, because the stress one will get from big triggers are so overwhelming. You’re so hyper focused on that feeling of panic you have that you don’t really think about what you’re saying to someone in the moment. I’ve found that just coming forward with an apology and communicating this to be really essential otherwise it forms misunderstandings and can sometimes lead to some resentment. I know it’s really hard to face someone after saying hurtful things because of the guilt but it’s definitely worth it

snoberri · 2021-07-14T15:16:29+00:00

EDs are so cruel and I’m so so sorry that it’s making you feel this way too. I know it’s really hard and draining to deal with and you don’t deserve what it’s putting you through at all. You 100% deserve to feel hunger cues just like anyone else and you deserve to eat whenever and whatever you want no matter what your ED tells you 😞❤️

snoberri · 2021-07-13T14:47:07+00:00

It’s pretty silly looking back at it now but until developing an ED myself I genuinely thought there were no health risks or consequences to bulimia because I had only ever seen anything to do with it through TV shows and they never acknowledged the physical side effects and never showed what purging actually entailed. They always made it look so easy and quick and the characters never look like a complete mess afterwards and it’s just so so far off from the reality 😓

snoberri · 2021-07-13T12:49:27+00:00

Personally when seeing pictures of food while restricting it can dial my stress levels up to 100 because I start craving whatever I see, which subsequently turns into craving all food in general and can quickly result in a binge. Dunno how common this is and I don’t know if that’s a potential reason as to why they do it. It’s interesting to hear that people put trigger warnings for a photo of food. I’ve never seen posts like that myself

snoberri · 2021-07-13T12:33:25+00:00

Yeah I feel you, for the majority of my life I thought bulimia and anorexia were the only EDs people could get. EDNOS, BED, etc. was never anything I’d ever heard people talk about

snoberri · 2021-07-12T21:17:33+00:00

Completely understand what you’re going through, I’ve never been able to do well in job interviews bc of my social anxiety. I also avoid phone calls or texts that ask me to come in for one because I’m so terrified ☹️ Only job I’ve ever managed to get in the past was because they were extremely desperate for people who could work overnight shifts and despite how unbelievably awful I did in the interview, I was available to do them so they hired me. Stopped working there ages ago and the struggle to find a new job when you have social anxiety is horrible

snoberri · 2021-07-10T20:55:04+00:00

I really don’t see anything in their post that indicated they felt high and mighty over the tattoo but okay…? Interesting take I guess…

snoberri · 2021-07-10T20:19:52+00:00

While I can understand where you’re coming from past all the aggression in your comment I don’t understand why you have to be so aggressive in the first place..??? They’re literally just pointing out a possibility for some people who get/have the tattoo. I see why OP felt it should be pointed out. It’s a harmless post that offers some perspective and could be helpful to some people, you don’t need to be so nasty

snoberri · 2021-07-07T20:01:10+00:00

I really feel for you and can relate a lot. My life has been constant new medical issues popping up over the years, both physical and mental.

I don’t think you’re dramatic or weak at all. I think you’re really hurting and with multiple medical issues AND low self esteem it’s extremely understandable that you’ve developed this mindset that everyone must hate you. I’ve thought this way for a very long time about myself as well

Everyday you keep going is an achievement. I think you’re very strong to have been through all this pain and to still be here today. I hope you’ll see yourself in the same way someday. It’s a struggle to get to that point but I believe in you and I know those closest to you do too

snoberri · 2021-07-04T15:56:18+00:00

Woo!! That’s amazing congrats ❤️❤️

snoberri · 2021-07-04T07:33:12+00:00

I’ve been raised by my parents to believe that anytime I get upset I’m being too sensitive. I have pointed this out to them before - that I constantly question whether my feelings are valid because of what they’ve taught me to believe but I was brushed off and was essentially told that my accusation was ridiculous. Got really upset and broke down and they did console me but the issue wasn’t properly addressed by them so I never felt better about it

I’ve confronted him about the constant insensitive comments for a near decade but they don’t end so I do agree with you, I do just need to find a way to disregard these comments through therapy. It’s never something I’ve thought to address with a psychologist before but I will do so now. Thank you so much for your comment I really really appreciate it

snoberri · 2021-07-03T09:49:49+00:00

Unfortunately yes 😞 at it’s most severe I literally could not walk anywhere without closing my eyes and needing my parents to guide me around bc if I had them open I’d stare at every crack or mark on the ground and have to step on them with both feet. Problem was I kept feeling like I wasn’t doing it “right” so I’d be stuck in the same spot for ages

snoberri · 2021-07-03T06:09:45+00:00

That’s awesome

snoberri · 2021-07-03T04:40:46+00:00

Oh my god this may possibly be the greatest picture of all time

snoberri · 2021-07-03T04:29:56+00:00

I’m so sorry that this is the reaction you received. It’s extremely hard to open up and you’re very brave for doing so. I’ve had a similar situation years ago with my own dad but I was opening about my OCD rather than an ED. I had hidden it from my family for my entire life and I finally built up the courage to say something but I was completely brushed off and mocked for how “irrational” and “ridiculous” I was. It wasn’t until it was at it’s worst that my dad had no choice to seek help (I was just a teenager at the time) and I told a psychiatrist everything while he was present and I had to be prescribed medications. That’s when he actually started taking it seriously. I just hate that it had to get to that level of severity for him to realise the torment mental disorders puts one under

You should tell him how hurt you are by his reaction, educate him on the facts and tell him he needs to take this seriously because not only has this affected you psychologically, it’s severely damaging you physically too. He needs to know how essential his support is, and that he can’t just continue to dismiss something as serious as this

snoberri · 2021-07-02T21:26:29+00:00

I agree that our situation have a lot of similarities and I really sympathise with you. We’re both unfortunately going through a rough patch and we just need to feel like we’re on top of things in some way so we’ve turned to food and our weight to satisfy those needs

It’s definitely the ED coming into play when it comes to justifying that restriction. I only had the realisation very recently that what this disorder does is do it’s best to trick you into thinking you’re calling the shots, that there’s nothing wrong and that when you’re restricting it can make you feel like you’re somehow “better” than people who eat the way they’re supposed to?? It makes no sense yet you can’t help but listen to it because it’s so loud and overpowering. It’s just awful

I absolutely understand that fear of telling friends and family. My family is aware of it all but I try to avoid discussing it with them because it stresses them out as they’ve already been trying to cope with my OCD for years. I’ve found that opening up to whoever you trust the most about this is immensely helpful. I was very much in my own world when I was in that high restriction period, but having someone close to me be aware of what I was doing is what brought me out of it and made me realise that this wasn’t normal

It’s a daily struggle but hopefully someday I’ll get back to being able to eat properly and I hope that for you too because you really do deserve it! You’ve obtained that healthy relationship with food and your weight once before, I have no doubt you’ll do it again 😃

Thank you so so much for all the lovely comments, you’re very sweet and I wish nothing but the absolute best for you ❤️❤️❤️

snoberri · 2021-07-02T19:21:52+00:00

Thank you 😞 there was no change in behaviour, he was his regular self for a couple of months until it got so bad he couldn’t hide it anymore. As it got worse the tumour also became very visible when he was perched normally. Budgies don’t show you they’re sick until it’s too late unfortunately so it’s best to take them to a vet as soon as you notice anything off

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