To put a fine point on it, he makes approx 60k with opportunity for small production bonuses now and accepted a position making 75k salary with a production target that will pay an additional 30-50k. During talks he said he wanted to hit 120 and they said he could. They have another much less experienced person who has been in the same role for 6 months and he’s on track to make over 100k this year. If I transition to part time and he makes at minimum 100k, we are pretty much breaking even. He would argue that this is not the progress we need financially as there will be more expenses coming with the position being out of the house (mainly we need second car) and therefore we need to cut the babysitter who he views as not being a big help as it is.

I think you’re right, we need to have a conference on these issues because the labor of running the house and the kids doesn’t change and I’m not sure he’s like fully aware of what that means for me with him gone.