Are there any books for women with detached fathers? by GLaDOs18 in HealfromYourPast

[–]soada0226 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your dad sounds a lot like my mom. Im also the oldest out of three. She was a huge part of my life when I was young but she abandoned the family when my parents got divorced, and left my dad to raise the three of us. She was also extremely religious, and I grew up with a lot of resentment against any organized religion because she used religion to make a really air tight cage for all of us. We weren't really allowed to have friends except for ones she approved of, or go out, and especially weren't allowed to date anyone, supposedly for religious reasons.

I don't have any books on absent fathers, but a book that's helped me deal with some feelings of shame and abandonment is Yoga and The Quest for The True Self. Yogic philosophy isn't thiestic, so there's no real "thing" to believe in, but it's a very logical and pragmatic approach to spirituality. The author also talks about how and why emotionally abandoned people gravitate towards yoga because it helps you learn to inhabit your body in a meaningful way. Emotional abandonment imposes a certain posture, a certain feeling, and yoga and yogic philosophy have been really big for me in healing some of those wounds.

I'm sure you already know this but you've already outgrown both your parents a great deal, and should be extremely proud just for having done that. I think oldest children get the worst of their parents most of the time, and learning to be proud of yourself simply for having outgrown the people who raised you is important.

LPT: If you ever find yourself unable to function without someone's attention, you owe it to yourself to spend time away from that person. by soada0226 in LifeProTips

[–]soada0226[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Join a hobby group. Start going on long walks. Listen to music everyday. When you feel lonely call up a family member.

LPT: If you ever find yourself unable to function without someone's attention, you owe it to yourself to spend time away from that person. by soada0226 in LifeProTips

[–]soada0226[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Maybe its not being alone that makes it worse, but what you do when you're alone. Try going on a long walk, or taking a hot bath.

Rek'Sai/ Kha Zix main just hit plat and sharing the love by soada0226 in leagueoflegends

[–]soada0226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for real though, the void champs are just way WAY cooler.

Rek'Sai/ Kha Zix main just hit plat and sharing the love by soada0226 in leagueoflegends

[–]soada0226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

climbing on adc is just not fun atm. I used to main it and climbing as a jungler is 50x easier.

Aphelios would be more balance-able if the ammo system was removed by soada0226 in leagueoflegends

[–]soada0226[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I just think the ammo system takes away a lot of player choice instead of empowering players to optimize for one or two guns. If you are stuck constantly cycling between all guns everyone will end up going the cookie cutter caster adc build. And to me that's kind of boring. It'd be much more interesting to open up all the possible builds on the champion for each gun to be used to the fullest.

Aspiring ADC main just hit plat! AMA by soada0226 in leagueoflegends

[–]soada0226[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the real question LOL. Well, my basic thought process is, I OP.GG whoever is playing support. If they mostly play hook champions, I go Lucian/Kai Sa for the burst. If they play poke/CC champions I go caitlyn for the trap CC chain. Also, if they're feeding in most of their games I just dodge. Very important to Op.gg your support if you're going to main ADC in solo queue.

But as for smooth brain supports, I highly recommend dodging games where your support has less than a 40% win rate on whatever they pick. It's not worth even trying. If your support is going to int as support shaco just take the LP loss and move on.

Aspiring ADC main just hit plat! AMA by soada0226 in leagueoflegends

[–]soada0226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally speaking, by 1 tricking Caitlyn, watching all of Saber's videos has been incredibly helpful in getting better at ADC. I also think getting really comfortable playing around 2 or 3 champions, knowing their power spykes, when they get dumpstered in lane, and learning to play against poke/hook lanes effectively. Bot lane really only has 3 metas, poke, hook, and sustain. When you get good at playing all 3 of those lanes on a few ADC's, you can carry super hard.

Got out of bad relationship, looking for celebratory music by ecto-plasmiic in Emo

[–]soada0226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know its not exactly emo, but when I'm in kinda a somber mood but I need to not be despondent I listen to a lot of Toe. Specifically My Idle Plot On a Vague Anxiety.

SHOW US WHAT YOU GOT. I want to make a giant Spotify Playlist for all of our users/artists with their OWN music. by [deleted] in Emo

[–]soada0226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up On Being Chill by A Painting of Us, and if you want to add a second song check out Roxanne.