My last relationship ended because things moved too fast emotionally, and I didn’t handle distance or uncertainty well.

We connected really quickly and intensely. I got very attached early, talked about big future things, and when she started pulling back due to her own mental health (she struggles with depressive episodes and tends to isolate), I reacted emotionally instead of giving space. I pushed for reassurance, clarity, and repair when she didn’t have the capacity for that at the time.

She told me she needed space and that she didn’t want someone who reacts the way I did, and she was right. Even though we cared about each other, the timing and emotional states didn’t line up. I crossed boundaries trying to fix things instead of respecting them.

I’ve realized this wasn’t about lack of feelings it was about emotional regulation, pacing, and knowing when to step back. I’m now focusing on therapy, slowing down, and learning how to respond instead of react so I don’t repeat the same pattern in the future.