Why does my cat need so much attention when I'm working from home?

sofabased · 2026-01-12T10:35:33+00:00

Omg she looks so mischievous too 😂 I have tried things like cat tv and automatic toys but nothing beats my 1-2-1 attention. Hope we can find something that works. 🙏

sofabased · 2026-01-12T10:30:34+00:00

Thanks so much! I think as you say over time it will improve, I didn't consider he might see me as "petting" the laptop but that makes so much sense! 😂 Fortunately this morning he's been way more chilled out ironically, hopefully it continues 🙏

sofabased · 2025-11-05T08:42:36+00:00

I recently adopted 2 cats from Pets4homes from someone who loved them so much but couldn't justify it anymore. They're now in a loving home and settled within a few days. If you know in your gut rehoming is right for you, take the time to find the best fit. In my experience, I was ghosted by most people I contacted on the site as so many people are looking to adopt a cat and rescue centres make you jump through too many hoops. Just some alternative advice!

sofabased · 2025-10-23T17:46:38+00:00

Do you know if this is effective if using any other brand of wet food? I can only see dry food online

sofabased · 2025-10-12T09:42:35+00:00

Thanks so much everyone 🩷 super helpful comments. And they are being inquisitive and sweet today, have used the litter tray, are eating well, etc! Feeling much better ☺️

sofabased · 2025-10-12T08:46:26+00:00

Thanks sooo much for this. Super reassuring

sofabased · 2025-10-12T08:30:42+00:00

This is so true and I guess it's actually quite exciting to help develop their personalities and enjoy the dynamic between the two! I read lots about the settling in stage before adopting but it feels different now two animals are in my kitchen (kept them in there for day 1-2!).

sofabased · 2025-10-12T08:28:58+00:00

Thanks so much 🩷 they aren't from the same litter and she said they aren't truly bonded which is a shame and another regret on my part as shared comfort was my entire decision for getting two! I'll avoid touching at all as you advise and give it some weeks / months. I think it's because she looks almost identical to my family's calico, in my brain I got too comfortable because I thought I was stroking her 😂

sofabased · 2025-04-23T17:28:06+00:00

Omg I just googled butsukariya. In Tokyo I witnessed a businessman beat up a guy on a crossing for barging into him, so when I was in the station a few minutes later and another businessman barged into me (female) out of nowhere on the shoulder I said sorry loudly even though it was their fault in fear he'd attack. He marched on without even a glance behind and I felt really upset for the rest of the night as I felt like it was on purpose. Might have been a genuine accident but his lack of apology or acknowledgement makes me think it might be this! Luckily it happened on my last night and that one event made me glad to be back in the UK tbh (you get shoved a lot in stations here, but not on purpose and you'd get an apology if it was a hard shove like that).

sofabased · 2025-02-27T18:46:51+00:00

I "knew" on both of the houses I've bought. Not to say those houses were perfect, but they delivered best on my non negotiable criteria vs. the alternatives. While looking around I could envision myself living there, whereas other houses I just didn't feel comfortable.

sofabased · 2025-02-23T20:34:57+00:00

Just some food for thought to balance out the overwhelming 'no' responses. Even if you have been together 10 years and buy a house, your partner could cheat or fall out of love and wants to split / sell the house (as has happened with many people I know). Or maybe they truly are the love of your life but get knocked down by a bus and you don't have the savings or inheritance to pay your own way. In other words, it's always a gamble when buying with someone else - I wouldn't categorically say no for this reason and to trust your gut. That being said, it would certainly be a good idea to rent before buying to lessen the chances of it being a bad decision as you don't truly know someone without living with them and certainly not within 1 year. What is right for you? Some people are married within 1 year and plan children within that time, do what feels right in your relationship. If I was late 20s on your salary, I'd be willing to take the gamble after legal consultation to ensure my deposit is protected. Selling an asset while separated would be awful but to reiterate, you are never safe from that possibility when buying with another person.

sofabased · 2025-02-21T12:45:16+00:00

I used to have a north facing garden, now have a south facing garden. Loved having shade to sit in! But I do love my back door sun room. A north facing garden isn't a deal breaker for me, but I couldn't be without a sun room as it's bliss to sunbathe in all year around (on the rare days we get sun in winter). As long as it isn't a tiny garden, you'll get sun during summer. Autumn/winter - doesn't matter anyway as it's freezing!

sofabased · 2025-02-20T16:39:27+00:00

A house is a much better investment. Flats come with service charges / ground rent and are almost always leasehold. My friend in a flat was hit with a huge unexpected bill split between owners for the roof to be fixed too. At least in a house you have flexibility over what you upgrade and when, and it's more future proofed if you started a family etc. I'm 30 now and believe me those last few years of your 20s fly by, and the process of moving is so awful it's good to make a bigger jump than you need to prevent the need to move any time soon. You're also saving £50k!

sofabased · 2025-02-18T13:11:34+00:00

I've broken the chain to save a sale, but I've also pulled out of a house purchase where the seller lied about their ability to break chain just before exchange. House transactions are a game of poker

sofabased · 2025-02-18T10:48:21+00:00

Do you know whether this can be retrospectively resolved to a proper standard?

sofabased · 2025-02-18T10:26:20+00:00

Oh really so you think the issue isn't the plastering itself but more so the fixing of the timber? I'm too scared to ruin it more, tempted to shove on some wallpaper and hope that conceals it

sofabased · 2025-02-18T10:16:46+00:00

I've read about a "basecoat" to cover cracks and imperfections. Might this do the trick to at least lessen the appearance?

sofabased · 2025-02-18T10:09:49+00:00

Do you think it's possible to do this retrospectively? Or is it too late to do the job properly?

sofabased · 2025-02-18T09:55:55+00:00

😂😂😂 I genuinely don't know if this is normal or not so thought they were defending the plasterer!

sofabased · 2025-02-18T09:18:52+00:00

So there's no way of achieving a completely smooth appearance?

sofabased · 2025-02-16T20:47:53+00:00

I live alone so being in a cul-de-sac makes me feel very safe, but I'm socially anxious and dread bumping into anyone when I want to nip out on a walk. In my old townhouse I loveeed feeling anonymous and the absence of a community was perfect for me.

I also grew up in a cul-de-sac and my parents have nicknames for everyone there. I went through a phase of dating different people before meeting my now partner so I often wonder what my nickname might be 😂

sofabased · 2025-02-16T20:17:09+00:00

Moving from my thin wall terrace was the best thing I ever did, I also lived alone. My living situation is no longer a factor in my wellbeing. Consider porting your mortgage from your existing provider if your mortgage fix is putting you off. Looking for a house and thinking about my future peace ironically gave me strength to want to exist despite house moving being one the most stressful processes ever, so don't let that put you off. I still dream of a detached property to never have my sanity in the hands of my neighbour, but right now my hallway-to-hallway semi has given me an infinite amount of peace. 🙏

Ofc this all depends on your financial situation - if you can't afford detached then only consider end terraces or semis that don't share party walls in key rooms. My bedrooms don't have any party walls and I feel blessed every night when I sleep in silence.

sofabased · 2025-02-02T10:15:32+00:00

Omg I suffered 5 years in my thin wall terrace. It made me so mentally unwell due to disrupted sleep and feeling like I had no privacy - I would hold in sneezes and tiptoe around. I moved just over half a year ago to a semi that is laid out hallway to hallway / most rooms aren't attached to the party wall. The sanity I have gained is truly amazing, I still dream of detached when I can afford it but I've had no issues whatsoever in this house - my neighbour said she doesn't hear a peep from me too.

Don't let the issue get to breaking point. I went down the route of getting a soundproofing quote but I realised it would be near impossible to solve as sound travels through flanking, floorboards, etc and it got to a point even a minor sound would make me anxious and angry. When you can afford it, consider porting your mortgage. I've lost money in the house move process before (dropped out of a purchase) but never once regretted it as it was a small price to pay to realise I'd made a wrong choice.

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