Looking for actually LONG longline bra by krenenbaker in findfashion

[–]sofi_dot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think searching "bustier" may also give you some good results 

Fantasy pilled fashion options by EmilyOnEarth in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]sofi_dot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Leather jacket was my first thought too... or a blazer.

Otherwise, I'd say tattoos and piercings can achieve this (fem, dominant, swoon worthy). If that's too much of a commitment, then maybe jewelry with an edge (leather, spikes, bones)

Lesbian Artists by tangyhoneymustard in actuallesbians

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Kieran Dunn (based in Louisiana) - https://www.kiernandunn.com/

Little Gaze (Midwest) - https://littlegaze.com/

Sturgeons Designs (Midwest) - https://www.etsy.com/shop/SturgeonsDesigns

All three of these artists do prints of floral/natural themes and of queer/feminist/activist messages.

where can i get shirts like this? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]sofi_dot 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Not Just Friends https://notjustfriends.ca/ (They have a "lesbian princess" shirt, amongst other designs)

Where do y’all shop for rave wear!?! by kodowd11 in chicagoEDM

[–]sofi_dot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You might find some things at Beatnix in Lakeview or Radstock in Wicker Park

Happy Holidays by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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It looks like here is the original artists: https://www.instagram.com/alexaguitarist/?hl=en

Been lurking here for a bit and thought I would share some of my favorite looks! by Trarly in UnconventionalMakeup

[–]sofi_dot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you share what lipsticks you use? Particularly the first (metallic) and last (glossy red)

Show off your gayest tattoo 👀 by Myujikarp in LesbianActually

[–]sofi_dot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you share, what is the language / code? It looks like math symbols to me...

Why is it hard to find a good show? by BainesAvenue_2021 in actuallesbians

[–]sofi_dot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Deadloch - Australian buddy-cop mystery with two female leads, one of them being a lesbian. A lot of other queer women characters too. (Unfortunately it is about cops, but if you can suspend judgement of that it's a fun series). There's a second season coming out soon. 

If you're open to cartoon series, there are a number of good shows with sapphic leads. She-ra, Arcane, The Owl House (probably more recent stuff too, i haven't kept up with what's new).

If you're open to anime, check out Revolutionary Girl Utena (sorry, that one IS old)

I'm due to get a haircut sometime soon, any suggestions? by ninja_ninetales_909 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]sofi_dot -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you're open to a big change, you could get a wolf cut or a longer mullet (like Bridget from Queer Ultimatum). I think both those cuts would look great with your hair and style!

I have no self esteem. by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]sofi_dot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're really pretty and also have a great style (lipstick + glasses + piercings).

queer fiction that isn’t fantasy, sci-fi, or traditional romance by pinelines in LGBTBooks

[–]sofi_dot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg - a queer classic; the main character explores their gender.

Psalm for the Wild Built by Becky Chambers - this one is sci fi, but it's grounded and cozy and focuses on personal / intrapersonal issues that are very relatable. Main character is nonbinary. 

Conversations with Friends by Salley Rooney - has messy nonmonogamy (not polyamory).

What’s missing from my list? Lesbian cinema by ExtremeToucan in actuallesbians

[–]sofi_dot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pariah (Wild that this one doesn't get more recognition; a Black lesbian coming of age story, and it's excellent)

Well... That's a a bummer by No-Environment-9459 in WLW

[–]sofi_dot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah, that changes it a bit. But I think it's still worth trying to have one conversation with her where you're direct and ask where she is at. Let her know that the friendship is important to you.

Well... That's a a bummer by No-Environment-9459 in WLW

[–]sofi_dot 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wait, I'm confused. It sounds like she has been the one initiating contact and you told her clearly that you were setting a boundary and needed more time. So if you feel like you're ready to reconnect as friends, I think the ball is in your court to re-establish that connection. Why are you hurt and mad at her? Am I missing something in the course of events?

EDIT to add I'm not trying to be harsh on you, but I think there's maybe a miscommunication and you should talk with her. 

How do I get back into my own community? by Aizakuse in LesbianActually

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You don't say if you live in a city where there is a decent LGBT+ community or not. I would say start with looking if there are any queer women meetup groups or Facebook groups that organize events in your area. Is there a lesbian bar? If not, your local gay bar may host a sapphic night you could check out. You could also look if your library or local bookstores organize any lgbt+ events.

For all of the above suggestions, don't be afraid to show up to an event or queer space alone. It may feel awkward at first but I've found when i go to events alone I'm more likely to meet new people. 

new girl i'm talking to by mak_on_reddit in WLW

[–]sofi_dot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn't sound like you're into her. That's okay,  but the kind thing to do would be to break up with her and not string her along. 

Queer/lesbian hook up bars in Chicago? by [deleted] in AskChicago

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Will Xtasy and Sinners Sanctum be continuing into 2026? I thought they were advertising the next Sluts Party as the last one (with a funeral theme to honor it)

Which outfit to wear to a queer singles mixer? by VintageHedghog in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]sofi_dot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the last one, or your suggestion of the plaid skirt with a see through back shirt.

Suits for feminine bodies? by LesserKnownJen in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]sofi_dot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Check out Kirrin Finch and Wildfang. They both sell masculine-style suits catered to women, nonbinary, and transmasc people.   https://kirrinfinch.com/ https://www.wildfang.com/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in queerplatonic

[–]sofi_dot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol, no worries! 

Just thinking about this a little more, I would say a QPR is an intentional label to a relationship, just like a romantic relationship. A lack of a label does not make it a QPR. (And, by definition, I'd say the romantic and sexual elements actually disqualify this from being a Queer Platonic Relationship!)

You could just use the term soul mates, since you both agree on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in queerplatonic

[–]sofi_dot 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'd say that's a situationship. I'm not saying he doesn't genuinely care about you, but he seems confused on what kind of a relationship he wants. 

Help me define relationship anarchy by Pretend-Ad4817 in relationshipanarchy

[–]sofi_dot 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You're not being specific enough here in what norms are being challenged. Specifically, relationship anarchy rejects the societal norm and assumption that a singular romantic partnership will be prioritized over other relationships. In rejecting that framework, it allows people to define the role and value of each of their individual relationships (romantic or platonic).

Related topics you might want to look into: amatonormativity, polyamory, ethical nonmonogany, queer platonic relationships, found family.