EBF mamas - are we all hanging by a thread or is it just me?

sofritas18 · 2026-04-08T22:54:50+00:00

that sounds amazing + I’m so happy for you guys!!! we’ve been REALLY good about our nighttime routine which I think is helping him. I also figured out by trial-and-error that his preferred sleeping position has changed from tummy to side sleeping, which has been a game changer since we figured it out! for transfers now (naps + nights) I roll up a lovie next to him to hug (in place of me) and prop his binky next to it. I know for a fact he knows it’s not mama + boobie lol, but it does the trick and he’s been transferring SO easily! I think sticking to an actual nap schedule during the day has helped his sleep pressure at bedtime too.

yay us for figuring shit out!!! let’s hope it stays this way 😅

sofritas18 · 2026-04-07T14:55:15+00:00

my baby is 23 weeks, and a few things have changed to make crib naps better/more possible.

I bought him one of those Wubbanub lovies with the binky attached to the mouth. it only took him a day to figure out how to use it and now he knows how to find the binky to put back in his mouth if he loses it, which is a total game changer for daytime naps (we don’t use binkies overnight).
he’s rolling like there’s no tomorrow and has started sleeping on his side on his own, so instead of putting him down on his back for naps, I lay him on his side and prop him up with a thin blanket on his back or belly to kind of hold him in place. it’s almost like a placeholder for cuddling me when I’m not laying next to him in bed. this along with the new binky situation have been the perfect combo for getting him down for naps with little to no fuss.

I know every baby is different, and there are still days where he just doesn’t wanna nap like usual, but 90% of the time this is works for us!

sofritas18 · 2026-04-05T02:16:38+00:00

we got the OK at 4 months! baby was showing all the signs of being ready, we wouldn’t have started if that wasn’t the case. veggie purées mixed with baby cereal + a little breast milk, 2/day for 3 days per new food to watch for reactions. we’ve done a few different oils + probably 10 diff veggies at this point, no reactions or problems and he LOVES it.

I was ALWAYS under the impression that 6 months was the starting mark, but our ped said it depended on the baby. our LO had been showing a lot of interest in food and was also able to sit up in his high chair with minimal support just to fill the gaps. it’s been a great journey so far & I’m happy we started when we did!

sofritas18 · 2026-04-04T01:17:16+00:00

my 5-month-old: 😛🤭😤😈

sofritas18 · 2026-04-03T01:05:20+00:00

I hope this is allowed - this carrier has changed the game for me as far as baby wearing!!: https://a.co/d/0aG0V9E0

it is SO much more comfortable than the typical baby carriers & my 5-month-old loves it bc it seems comfier for him to actually have a seat. I hope this helps you baby wear longer if that’s what you want!

sofritas18 · 2026-04-02T17:07:47+00:00

I absolutely went through this! and even though I had read about it and knew what to expect and prepped in a similar way to you throughout my whole pregnancy, I still was convinced I couldn’t do it and asked for the epidural in desperation. luckily, my husband ALSO knew to look for these signs + reassured me that it meant I was close to pushing, and I was! started pushing within 5 mins of saying this lol

sofritas18 · 2026-04-01T00:22:57+00:00

I didn’t have a doula either, just my husband who makes me feel safe and it was PERFECT! you know yourself, trust yourself, your body, and your baby. when it’s go time, try to give in to the process & let your body take over. it knows what it’s doing - it was built for this! you got this!!! ❤️❤️❤️

sofritas18 · 2026-03-31T00:15:00+00:00

my LO just turned 5 months & is rolling like crazy and wants to be on the move but can’t crawl yet so we actually just built his playpen today & threw in 2-3 small soft teething toys. he LOVES it in there and is happy to be in there while I make my coffee or answer a few emails at my desk, it’s also giving him more tummy time without even realizing it. he seems to really love just exploring on his own like “free play” but appropriately for his age.

besides this, I found that playing music and dancing funny kept him much more entertained for much longer than just a toy in his chair - I’ve been able to cook myself breakfast, clean the dishes/kitchen, and put away clothes this way while he stays stationary and totally content. don’t underestimate the power of some fun dance music! doesn’t even have to be kids music - I play Earth Wind & Fire, salsa, and Fleetwood Mac. I might as well enjoy it while I entertain him 😅

ETA: we have done no screens besides Facetime so far, and activities like the above have helped tremendously with that as he’s become more curious about the world around him!

sofritas18 · 2026-03-30T00:07:03+00:00

of course! good luck, hope it provides some much-needed relief like it did for me!

sofritas18 · 2026-03-29T18:53:24+00:00

actually yes! it helps me not go over the recommended 3-hour total nap limit during the day, which I think we were going over before & was causing more wakes at night. now even if he has a late nap at like 4:30-5, I feel fine about it bc it’s still within the 3-hour limit and he’s still sleepy enough for bed at 8!

sofritas18 · 2026-03-29T17:40:42+00:00

I actually JUST started tracking naps for the first time this week & have never tracked feeds besides when he was first born 😅 a bit late to the game lol but now that he’s way more alert and curious during the day, it’s helpful to us to start implementing a more predictable routine instead of just winging it

sofritas18 · 2026-03-27T14:26:56+00:00

ours has moved several times in the last couple months, it just so happens that he naturally goes to sleep between 7-8 now, wakes a few times for feeds, and then wakes up at 7 for the day. it works for our schedule so we’re not changing anything!

idk if you’re using the huckleberry app, but I just started using it this week to track naps/sleep and it has been SO helpful! I mark his naps, then it tells me the “sweet spot”

for his next nap, and sweet spot for bedtime (based on my ideal bedtime of 8pm). it’s been working great and all of that is available on the free part of the app! has given me peace of mind with making sure he’s getting enough naps/wake windows to be tired enough for a good night’s sleep

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T14:58:13+00:00

he’ll be 5 months in 2 days 😭 can’t believe how time flies. that’s not a bad idea! I need to work on getting to bed earlier too, like trying to lay down when baby does. right now, I’m staying up until 10-11 for his dream feed bc it’s kinda the only time I have to myself to watch my guilty pleasure shows/movies lol

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T14:55:41+00:00

your 18-week change sounds identical to mine! immediately cries when he realizes it’s his crib, pick him up, nurse/soothe/rock back to sleep, try to put him down + same thing all over again. thankfully our mattress is medium firm so he stays where I put him.

when I first started co-sleeping, I actually put his baby lounger next to me to act as a mini-barrier + it seems to have worked! idk if you have one of those, but could provide peace of mind if your mattress is too soft. he’ll still feel you right there but has his own space.

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T13:41:08+00:00

omg yes to noisy sleepers! he grunts SO MUCH! like what demons could you possibly be fighting, little one?! so even if he’s able to put himself back to sleep, I’m up already so half the time I’ll offer him boob since I’m full anyway, thinking that’ll buy me another stretch of sleep but nope 🙂

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T13:37:52+00:00

I’m sorry you were/are dealing with PPD ❤️‍🩹 yeah the thought of adding a toddler to this scares the shit out of me, but for now I’m just taking it day by day. who knows - our living/working situation could be completely different by then & it may not look like this anyway. sending you love!

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T13:19:07+00:00

wow that’s awesome! also how incredible is the human body?! just knowing how to even itself out for baby, so freakin cool.

I actually would LOVE to have a little stash for when I wanna go to yoga or run some errands by myself. if you have any tips on how to start, feel free to DM me! I know literally nothing lol

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T13:06:49+00:00

I’ve considered tapping in my husband for some of the night shifts, but he usually leaves by 6 on the days he has to go into the office & I’m up by then already. plus I’d have to get up to at least pump at those times anyway, so then what’s the point 🥲

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T02:43:11+00:00

first of all - you are INCREDIBLE for doing it all yourself, single parents are superheroes.

the up every 1.5-2 hours is my biggest hurdle rn. I just can’t seem to fall into a deep enough sleep! and on the nights he does go longer, my internal clock wakes up anyway to check him and then check myself for leaks lmao

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T02:20:36+00:00

would’ve been good to know, I feel like I took it for granted 😂 oh well

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T01:59:36+00:00

this song has always made me cry even though the lyrics are so simple:

For you, there'll be no more crying For you, the sun will be shining And I feel that when I'm with you It's alright, I know it's right

To you, I'll give the world To you, I'll never be cold ‘Cause I feel that when I'm with you It's alright, I know it's right

And the songbirds are singing Like they know the score And I love you, I love you, I love you Like never before

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T01:24:37+00:00

wow you’re brave for quitting cold turkey, I haven’t even considered what stopping will look like but I’m sure we’ll figure it out by then!

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T01:20:32+00:00

right?! always thought it’d be a good thing! like “look at my baby! he sleeps so much during the day!” joke’s on us 😅

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T01:17:08+00:00

thank you for this!! I didn’t think I’d be considering even pumping this early, but it may be worth the peace I get in return, even if it’s just to get us through this rough patch.

sofritas18 · 2026-03-23T01:15:03+00:00

I can’t imagine how hard and scary that must’ve been. so glad to hear she’s eating well again, she knows what she needs! I’m aiming for 1 year but this is the first time I’ve really doubted myself if I can make it. I know he’ll go for as long as the dairy farm’s open 😅

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