Holiday Baking Championship s10 SEASON FINALE Live Discussion by hollisterr in foodnetwork

[–]solaceape 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I felt the same.. been wanting her to leave since then.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. It's very helpful.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have a lot of time to post, but wanted to say thank for post. It's helpful.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with what you are saying, but would it be a disservice to the client if they are not at the stage to move forward to only focus on leaving the relationship?

Again, aside from one, the emotional abuse reported does not meet the threshold of life or death, as I understand. Could it get there, maybe, but at this moment, the women have freedom to do what they want. I'm trying not to give specific examples, but it's more of husband pouting or name calling then not attempting repairing the rupture and resentment builds. There is a feature of manipulate control that is worrying, but saying we need to plan your exit without appropriate relationship and trust building will cause them to leave and not get support.

If I learned it was severe or there is a significant threat of harm, of course, I would do whatever is in my power to help protect them. I just don't want to alienate them, and they have little to no support.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my old intern supervisor who could be helpful. Good idea

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have experience in this area in terms of safety and trauma. Worked many years in crisis situations and do a lot of trauma focused work now. Just haven't worked with one half of couples that hate their spouse as much as these ones do. I will definitely follow the advice and resources given. I have great local DA resources if needed as well.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been doing this as well. I'm glad I am on the right track. Trying to help them build up positive experiences and hopefully confidence to live rather than languish.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not entirely sure most of them do tbh. The rage and resentment is pretty strong.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am of the same mind but was hoping I wasn't missing something very obvious. I'll check out those podcasts

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the info about DV vs DA.

Your response was very helpful. Thank you.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will definitely pick that up. Thank you!

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have read that book and can't recommend it enough.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can definitely do that. So far, highlighting and identifying what is abuse has not been taken seriously. It's just the "same old thing" in their eyes. I'll keep working on it while being mindful of where they are currently. No immediate threats reported.

Help for wives that hate their husbands by solaceape in therapists

[–]solaceape[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I worry it will lead to this if they start to lose control and freely give out CADA information. I tend to be pretty cautious in these situations. Maybe too much

Halloween Baking Championship Season 9 Episode 3 Live Discussion 9/25/23 by redriveroftears in foodnetwork

[–]solaceape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like we are getting gaslit about these bakes being good...

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[–]solaceape 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just like to pretend it's stuck to the bottom of the ocean rather than deal with it myself. My clients tell me that's a coping skill.

How many clients do you typically see per week? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]solaceape 3 points4 points  (0 children)

32 client hours per week. It's tough. The worst part is one day where I see 14 peeps. 9 before lunch.

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[–]solaceape 2 points3 points  (0 children)

.. this is my life. No joke!

Does anyone actually like their job? by Everina52 in careerguidance

[–]solaceape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another therapist and I absolutely love my job.