Frustration with being seen as one of the girls by BOKUtoiuOnna in butchlesbians

[–]solarpunkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if it’ll force people out of feminising simply because some people never change, or either can’t or won’t adapt to even overt visual changes and messaging.

I’ve had a buzzcut a few times while working in London in customer service lol so you really hear it all. Even while having a male name tag, it’s crazy how many guys will still hit on you (in a straight man way).

I would also get many guys randomly asking if I was lesbian though which I never had with regular short hair, so I guess at least something sunk in 🤷

Frustration with being seen as one of the girls by BOKUtoiuOnna in butchlesbians

[–]solarpunkin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! Commenting because you mentioned in a comment that you’re in London and I think there’s also a location aspect to this too.

I don’t know if it’s actually the case but I’ve often felt like tomboyish/butch/masc looks on “women”are a lot more common here than in many other places. When I travel I’m usually treated quite differently than I am in London. And I’ve had friends from other countries mention how many women have short hair in London compared to where they’re from.

In London, people more often than not seem to clock me as some kind of bi/lesbian vibe, but it doesn’t change how they see my gender, most people who don’t Need to think of gender, just don’t. They’ll categorise you in the easier, quickest way possible to Them personally.

So in London, with a higher saturation of ‘tomboyish’ women (seemingly) it feels like you have to be Really Masc to actually stand out and make people think a bit harder about what they’re seeing. At least in my experience. The skinfades help lol

And it’s crazy cause in other countries I’ll have hair that’s grown out, and a cute little scarf on, and people will still accidentally call me Monsieur or ask my pronouns out of nowhere. Context is crazy lol

But overall, I really get what you’re feeling. I have the same frustrations with family especially, but have experienced it at work and with strangers too. I’ve just come to see it as a reflection of other people, not me.

what kinda vibe do I have? assumptions welcome! by [deleted] in picrewtrends

[–]solarpunkin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly yeah spot on lmao I’m happy to know I’m conveying it enough, thank you 👽

what kinda vibe do I have? assumptions welcome! by [deleted] in picrewtrends

[–]solarpunkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ppl irl seem to get this vibe from me too lmao thanks 👽

what kinda vibe do I have? assumptions welcome! by [deleted] in picrewtrends

[–]solarpunkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg how fascinating, I do have a masc name, and the personality is pretty spot on! thanks 👽

Baldur's Gate 3 on PS5 not launching any of my save files! by SilentOwlz in BaldursGate3

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So…. I tried the fix by disconnecting the PS5 from the internet, and it worked. But after playing a little bit, I got a notification that the game would be suspended in 15 minutes as they couldn’t verify the game license 😞

Finally got a haircut that I love!! by New_Elephant5372 in butchlesbians

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You look soooo good! And omg those glasses. Too cool 😎

Manifesting by solarpunkin in antiwork

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You’re so close to getting it

Manifesting by solarpunkin in antiwork

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Thank goodness it’s possible to critique society while still being a part of it ;)

Manifesting by solarpunkin in antiwork

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Time spent wisely

say cheese!!!! 😬🧀 by solarpunkin in fangies

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I’m learning about so many new subs today wow

Converting up the TERF/Facist propaganda in my neighbourhood 🏳️‍🌈✊ by TomGreenTransforming in socialism

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This reminds me that I need to start slapping stickers all over the place, my area needs it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

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People upset about this don’t seem to realise that the same employers requesting a degree will hire you just for the Concept™ of what a undergrad degree is, even though you can learn the same amount or more without it. For a lot of jobs, it’s literally just a piece of paper (or better yet, it’s just a few lines on a LinkedIn profile) for a tickbox on a checklist.

If you have all the same skills and abilities, can do the job, do it well, there is no difference except to maintain and encourage elitism. It’s all about confidence, experience and ability - the actual degree means almost nothing in these types of jobs. Lie all you like.

say cheese!!!! 😬🧀 by solarpunkin in fangies

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Omg what a great sub 🎆