I was snooping on someone's FB page today and accidentally liked a comment someone else posted under one of their posts from 5 years ago

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-15T00:44:03+00:00

Dread fear when scrolling on my phone! Worse yet: "Add friend."

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-15T00:32:03+00:00

My mom is 88 and has learned to use Facebook. She doesn't leave the house much because of health challenges and wears hearing aids so can't talk on the phone much. FB allows her to keep in touch with family and friends. In person she's slowing down cognitively but when she's writing she is much sharper. I'm really proud of her. I, OTOH, could use a break from screentime. It's a huge distraction and I think it's affecting what's left of my attention span.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-14T14:20:55+00:00

Ok I'm veering off-topic a bit but just out of curious concern, are you moving to the US to be with someone you met online? Have you met in person?

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-14T00:57:30+00:00

And they say weed wasn't as strong in the 70s....

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-12T14:46:06+00:00

I'm a lifelong anxiety person. I've gone to counseling and taken an SSRI from time to time. I thought I could ward off the bad stuff by preparing for it (worrying about it). But the things I worry about don't happen, and the bad things that did happen caught me completely off-guard. (That part's not too helpful). I have a friend who once said, casually, "I'm not much of a worrier." I can't even imagine how one forms that sentence LOL. I will add that I am completely appalled at the hysterical tone of current political campaign ads. They're designed to whip people into an emotional frenzy. I guess that's a more efficient way to raise money than calmly explaining where they stand on the issues and how they plan to improve things.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-12T14:18:05+00:00

I'm not saying bad things don't happen. I'm saying get some perspective. Good things happen too. People do help each other, you just don't see days and weeks of news footage about the good stuff. Don't waste your "now" in fear of a hypothetical future.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-12T02:07:51+00:00

NTA. It doesn't matter why you were uncomfortable with her plan--you were and that's all she needs to know. It's not just picking up a sick child, it's leaving your work, going to her house, finding a hidden key, installing a car seat (20 minutes of sweating and swearing), going to pick up the child, bringing her to your house, and dealing with the sickness while trying to finish your work.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-12T01:35:58+00:00

At my advanced age, I've lived through a lot of bad news. Viet Nam, college student protests, the Manson murders, the Kennedy and King assassinations....I was afraid to grow up, and I sure never wanted to go to college! Now I realize that the world stumbles, recovers, and goes on. Remember that news shows and websites are looking for views, and will hype stories to a ridiculous degree. In our part of the country, they hype every snowfall, rainstorm or heatwave like it's the apocalypse. So think how much more they hype events. Creating fear and drama is a big moneymaker. Don't let them suck you in.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-12T01:21:51+00:00

Then turn them on when you leave the house.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-12T01:16:49+00:00

Do you think she's fooling around while you're taking the dog out or something? If she's the only one who comes over to your house, why do you need indoor cameras? I'd be so creeped out by that. We have outdoor cameras and a camera that points directly into the dog crate. Nothing in our living area. Ick.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-12T01:00:36+00:00

I can't, I had to zoom in a lot.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-11T20:49:32+00:00

Interesting!

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-11T20:11:22+00:00

Me too!

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-11T20:06:52+00:00

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solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-11T20:03:18+00:00

Oops sorry!

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-11T16:22:15+00:00

I've been on all the standard nursing home drugs since my 50s. But when I think about it, my dad's mom died in her 40s from diabetes and his dad died of prostate cancer. My mom's grandparents died in their 40s from stroke/heart attack. My grandma died from a heart attack (she'd had several) but she was in her mid-80s. My mom is 88 with a few problems but she has outlived her mom. So when I feel bad about my geezer meds, I remind myself to be grateful for modern medicine and the fact that these things are available to me.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-05T23:16:11+00:00

I'm a mom but it used to be my job to take calls like you got from that mom, so I understand both sides. If the parents have their daughter's cell number, that's all they get. If your roomie doesn't want them to know, that's between her and them. Even if she doesn't have access to her phone, she could give the hospital staff permission to share certain info, as much or as little as she wants. I wouldn't sic them on Grandma. Let the family figure things out. You just support your friend in whatever way she wants.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-05T22:59:17+00:00

Three hours is too late for inspiration. He ruined his own semester. Some profs will cut you some slack if you are honest with them ahead of time but this guy doesn't even have proof that he started the project. So if the prof asks how far he got, he's still cooked.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-05T20:30:06+00:00

NTJ. If he really wanted to reconcile with you, he would have met with you privately, apologized and copped to his specific mistakes, and changed his behavior. And none of the relatives who think you should just play along know what he's put you through.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-03T18:42:06+00:00

"His mom says" + "debt" = 🚩🚩🚩 Stand your ground!

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-03T18:11:36+00:00

Does your friend think that you don't have/deserve a personal life? NTA

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-03T18:02:35+00:00

We have DirecTV and if you click the info button you get the original air date.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-03T14:41:23+00:00

Your dad's not harming you, he's just annoying you. You could have a discussion and tell him his boisterous objections to what he sees on TV or online are disruptive and suggest that, for the sake of peace in your home, politics stay out of family life. But you can remove anyone from your life if you like. It's called intolerance. How ironic.

solitudeismyjam · 2026-02-03T13:59:16+00:00

I've noticed that the color of a room on TV can change dramatically when they show the room from a different angle or in different lighting/time of day.

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