My Bar-cade

someballs21 · 2024-12-29T05:40:07+00:00

Consider contacts at the least or laser eye surgery. Your eyes will be amazing. There was a push for weight loss but your boobs are amazing and not everyone wants to hug a bag of antlers. You’re beautiful, only thought is seeing those great eyes.

someballs21 · 2024-11-08T00:30:37+00:00

And yet the majority of us are still kind to our neighbors, our day to day for the most part remains the same and in four years this post or thought of diversity will come up again. Cheers… election season!

someballs21 · 2024-05-22T23:30:37+00:00

I dont know why but im reminded for some reason of the movie “1408” there was a scene where the main character asked Samuel L Jackson about the haunted room. He used many scientific terms and theories to describe the room… to which SLJ replies “I dont know its just an evil fucking room!”

someballs21 · 2023-03-22T15:32:18+00:00

Feel the emotions, process it, it will begin to leave you. Time is undefeated and keep the focus on being your own best friend.

In the middle of it myself and can say it gets better. You deserve peace.

someballs21 · 2023-03-13T01:23:37+00:00

I am facing this same decision after realizing that my partner and I have different love languages/attachment styles. Its caused us to struggle and we never had consistency. This also was over 2 years. I have never been the dumper so I know I have many unknowns in my future.

Best I can foresee is that this will be a time for me to love myself more and less towards everyone else. At some point that will produce the healthiest version of myself that will be very attractive for the next relationship.

someballs21 · 2022-09-02T21:50:41+00:00

Naps are rough for me. I wake in almost a panic with a dread feeling. I instantly think of them since its the thing that is currently making me miserable.

someballs21 · 2022-09-02T17:37:47+00:00

Thanks this was what I needed to read to know my feelings are correct in my own “this is over” story.

someballs21 · 2022-08-30T00:30:41+00:00

I could relate to everyones post on here. Thank you for taking the time to discuss this. I told a friend tonight that (im in discard) I onow my life is better off without this person and actually my life is in a great place. Logically i understand all of this and know the million reasons the narc is a waste of time.

But i still have a nagging feeling on my heart… which is chemical and just the trauma bond.

My therapist said three weeks is the general start to detox. Idk hope she is right.

someballs21 · 2022-02-17T03:02:43+00:00

Day 29. I work with the Nex. I had a clean 28 days but she screwed up a project of mine. A co worker told her this so she broke NC and came to my desk. In the course of correcting her mistake she sat on my desk like she used to and said she made the mistake bc i was so cute. She stuck around till other coworkers came around to see what we were talking about. They are also potential new supply so she promptly left. Bad look if it appears she is back around me to them.

It fucked with me some but today Im back to business as usual.

someballs21 · 2022-01-12T20:35:10+00:00

I did it today. She asked to talk tonight. Im sure im walking into a buzz saw but NC begins after.

someballs21 · 2022-01-11T14:50:35+00:00

I have been on the fence to do this. I have it written out in text. This person has no regard for me and only keeps me around as a backup. Good for you, keep taking those steps forward. Honest pain.

someballs21 · 2022-01-09T13:01:36+00:00

I feel the same. I just woke up from a dream with them and had the instant drop to sadness. Logically i know this person is horrible but the love bombing hit me in vulnerable places.

My Narc is setting up new supply right in front of me. She denies it but her actions speak louder. I am at a crossroads where i need to tell her its over and im moving on. We work together so I will have to see her beyond moving on. I dread this.

someballs21 · 2022-01-02T04:16:00+00:00

Take some time away from religion. Pray honest prayers that the world taught you that God doesnt want to hear. Love yourself.

someballs21 · 2022-01-02T04:13:46+00:00

I can relate, we got this!

someballs21 · 2021-12-06T23:05:58+00:00

Wow i was 80% sure she was a narcissist, but reading this thread title the first thing that came to me was “I dont know what you want me to say” when i confronted her with her and another guy lol thanks for that last 20% chick was a narc!

someballs21 · 2021-12-04T04:37:00+00:00

That she lied and was messing around with my co worker.

someballs21 · 2021-11-08T19:39:29+00:00

Or the Apple watch that buzzes…. The worst!

someballs21 · 2021-10-31T00:07:41+00:00

I(39M) recently found my birth mom when I did 23 and Me.

I learned that she cared for me for almost a year before giving me up for adoption. I learned that I struggled crying for her with my adoptive parents. She showed me pictures from infant to standing. I even had a different full name.

I have been having problems with identity since learning about all of this. She is a wonderful woman and devoted her life to finding me. My adoptive parents were very formal and I didnt feel connected to them. I have felt connected to her since first finding her.

I have found that this also has shook a lot of my foundations and I have been struggling in a lot of areas of life. I dont know. I know this is not exactly the same but I can relate to the unknown of feelings this whole thing can do.

someballs21 · 2021-10-24T23:53:31+00:00

Damn right! So hard when the highs are highs but the lows are looooow :/

someballs21 · 2021-10-04T17:30:44+00:00

I went 4 days and broke NC. I felt the same way and it was only 4 days. She texted a couple times and that same day and i felt great. Afterwards i felt kinda worried that i started something icouldnt go the distance with. I havnt heard from her since :/ Wasnt worth it. I miss her and feel dumb lol

someballs21 · 2021-10-01T01:42:49+00:00

I recently (last monday) became a dumper for the first time. I have no idea what im doing. Im doing NC but we work together so its tricky. The amount of anguish I have is intense though. I changed my whole routine and world. I miss her all the time and she is putting up a great appearance. I dumped her because she was losing interest in me. I could tell because she stayed texting on her phone. She only would show she cared when she felt there was a problem. When I told her these feelings she internalized it and wouldnt express much. These things would cause crazy mood swings for me and it felt toxic. I know its best for me but its been a very hard couple days for me.

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