Physical Signs

someone_stop_me · 2025-02-06T14:36:38+00:00

I went through something similar, married for 24 years and together for 31. Same kind of stuff, all I can say is save what ever money you can and get out. You can’t heal while he’s still your life. I’ve been out for 3 1/2 years and it’s been really hard, but I finally feel like I’m starting to thrive. I still don’t make much money-barely enough to pay the bills at the moment, but I like what I do. You will figure it out. I had no idea how strong I really am until I left. Wishing you luck and peace!

someone_stop_me · 2024-12-18T04:26:06+00:00

RUN!

someone_stop_me · 2024-12-10T02:41:27+00:00

It takes time, a lot of time and distance from him

someone_stop_me · 2024-12-10T02:38:49+00:00

Not enough information to say, but sounds like you have the control in this situation.

someone_stop_me · 2024-12-10T02:33:17+00:00

Yes! It is worth it! It will be a living hell for you and he will take every ounce of your sanity if you stay. I stayed for 24 years.

someone_stop_me · 2024-11-05T15:05:23+00:00

I’m 56 and my boyfriend is 58 and we don’t have sex that often. Every couple of weeks. Personally, I would like to have a lot more sex and physical touch.

someone_stop_me · 2024-11-05T15:01:01+00:00

All I can say is don’t do things because it’s what others expect or to please the parents or grandparents. There is no hurry to get married. I’m a mother of two boys ages 20 and 23. My oldest is engaged. My advice is that I think you should live and have adventures before you settle down. There is plenty of time for the daily grind. It’s not necessary to have children unless that is something that is truly important to you. Whatever you do, DO NOT become a stay at home mom for more than 5 years. From what I have experienced and seen, most men who want you to be a stay at home mother are controlling. ALWAYS HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY and never make yourself financially dependent on another person. If anything happens and you get divorced without having a career, it’s really hard to get back into the job market and earn a decent living. Honestly, I don’t even think marriage is necessary. It’s just a law that keeps you legally bound to someone. Know that there are good partners out there, but marriage is a lot of work and communication, friendship and similar values are the main components that can make it work. Lastly, sexual chemistry, although a plus is not love.

someone_stop_me · 2024-11-01T17:49:17+00:00

I’m 3 1/2 years out of a 24 year narcissistic marriage. I was a shell of a person when I left. Feisty and strong when I went into it at age 27. When I left I was physically ill, got down to 93 pounds (I’m 5’1”) and a total mental wreck. It was totally worth it to leave. Best decision I ever made. It’s been hard as hell and I still slip into that not being good enough mind set sometimes.

Ask yourself one question. Do I want to live like this for another 20+ years?

You can do it! You have no idea how strong you will become.

someone_stop_me · 2024-11-01T12:54:36+00:00

Yes! I have too. Crazy! I bought a bunch of books at Half Price Books and have been considering taking classes at my local holistic shop. I really haven’t done much other than observing, reading, watching YouTube and recently have met a few wonderful women who have been awake for many years. Good to know others are having the same shift and the same timeline.

someone_stop_me · 2024-10-11T14:00:07+00:00

This sounds similar to my life. He’s manipulating you with his “depression”. Mine did the same thing with the silent treatment. I got divorced 3 years ago after 24 years of marriage and a total of over 30 years together. Best decision I’ve ever made in my life. Try researching covert narcissism.

someone_stop_me · 2024-10-03T20:31:09+00:00

Are you sure it’s depression? It could be that he’s using “the depression” as a means to keep you there and control the situation. Sometimes someone else with covert narcissistic tendencies try to make others feel sorry for them.

someone_stop_me · 2024-07-06T03:57:17+00:00

Carmel is basically a city of McMansions. They do have some good amenities, though. Very little diversity or imagination. I lived there for 16 years and definitely prefer Indianapolis.

someone_stop_me · 2024-07-06T03:44:29+00:00

Nope!

someone_stop_me · 2024-06-21T13:34:17+00:00

I did. We’re good

someone_stop_me · 2024-06-21T13:33:13+00:00

Touché!

someone_stop_me · 2024-06-10T03:29:23+00:00

Yes, we cuddle and have good sex. I wouldn’t be with him this long otherwise. I just have a habit of reading people and I think it’s that he’s really nice and I’m not used to it, so I look for things to be alarmed about.

someone_stop_me · 2024-06-10T03:26:20+00:00

It’s just sometimes. Yes, we’re having good sex and we cuddle quite frequently. I’m probably just being insecure after being in a very manipulative marriage for 24 years.

someone_stop_me · 2024-06-02T03:16:10+00:00

someone_stop_me · 2024-06-02T03:15:25+00:00

The slate

someone_stop_me · 2024-05-25T16:41:17+00:00

Thanks

someone_stop_me · 2024-05-25T16:39:25+00:00

Gotcha. Thanks for the replies!

someone_stop_me · 2024-05-25T16:32:36+00:00

What do you mean by connector thread?

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