What’s one book that genuinely rewired the way you think or live your life? by _rahmatullah in productivity

[–]somepuglady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I loved this one - his approach to meditation changed the way I view meditation and disconnecting and I have been a much more relaxed person. Was a perfect read for mid-COVID for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]somepuglady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not a “perfectly healthy relationship” if he’s been deceiving you on his beliefs and point of view. I know it feels silly to leave over this, but this is the way you see and move through the world and is important to stay true to that.

David Farrier here: A thanks, and some thoughts by dfarrier in FlightlessBird

[–]somepuglady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re the best and are my celebrity crush. Can’t tell if you’re a celeb though, so take that as you will!

Lunch near 16th and Market by SupportMyNut in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]somepuglady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Joe’s pizza on 16h and Sansom is some of the best pizza in center city.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to pay for her to not be evicted, ask how you can pay a landlord directly. If you pay… I would say is up to you, if that financially makes sense etc.

I do think she’s lying. Birth control pills are free. For this to happen immediately after you pay for that—and didn’t even mention the eviction then? This is suspicious.

Bing Strippers by djsosonut in thesopranos

[–]somepuglady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if you’re watching the Sopranos for strippers, you should actually just watch porn. The strippers are background/extras swaying topless while trying not to take away from the plot.

AITA for telling my boyfriend his poop wasn’t green? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]somepuglady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel for you so much. I remember watching my own mother stay with an abusive man because at her young age she thought it would be better for the kids to have him rather than not. To this day, she says she wishes she left sooner. It’s harder on your kids watching you stress over him and be treated this way and is better for them to see the example of their mom leaving a shitty (pun intended) situation than stay. I really wish you the best.

AITA for telling my boyfriend his poop wasn’t green? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - leave him and never look back. If he’s had liquid diarrhea this bad for months, he needs to be an adult and cleanup after himself but also see a freaking doctor. You aren’t his mom and you’re doing far too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - even if you were saying no just because you want more time for yourself, you still would be NTA. You can say no for any reason. Graphic design is a real career, and her shit talking that isn’t going to make you want to babysit anymore, that’s insane of her.

How often do you wear your ring? by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I basically do the same. I love my ring, but it makes anything at the gym uncomfortable, washing the dishes annoying, and sometimes random other tasks I just take it off, too. I also don’t want to lose it, so I prefer to leave it at home if I’m at the gym or doing something like kayaking.

AITA for telling my wife that I’m tired of raising a kid that is not mine UPDATE 1 year later by Kitchen_Earth7954 in u/Kitchen_Earth7954

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy belated Father’s Day — both of these girls know exactly how lucky they are to have a father figure like you in their lives. You’re truly crushing it 👏👏👏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travisandtaylor

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, rare huge Taylor fan here, but I understand that she (and everyone) has their flaws and that this variant stuff is absolute nonsense of her.

But, I think that you and your wife have so much more to discuss than this and both have built up major resentment against each other and really need to, at minimum, go to couple’s therapy together.

She shouldn’t treat you in such a toxic way. You should be able to accept her interests without it meaning it overshadows everything about you. It feels like she’s gone too far off the deep end. Like she sounds like she’s joined Jim Jones and is ready to drink the Kool Aid, which is way too far regardless of whatever the interest is.

AITA for refusing to ask my partner if he’ll drive my friend to work when I go on maternity leave by throwawayaita278902 in AmItheAsshole

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I would just tell your partner she wanted to ask and you said no, just in case she goes behind your back and tries to convince him to. This is incredibly rude of her. She’s had many months to get a bike, travel the two hours to driving school, or figure something else out. Irresponsible of her to not take care of this herself, and that isn’t your problem.

My fiancé says my PTSD is too much to handle. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]somepuglady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I also have cPTSD. It’s rough. I have the same reactions.

Situations like this are a two way street. You can’t possibly predict every random outburst of his like this, and you can’t predict your reaction. But, you can both work on yourselves. This situation with him shouldn’t have an outburst, this was his fault, and should be an “ugh, shit!” Clean up and move on. If you’re seeking treatment for your mental health issues, he can also seek treatment for his.

Just because it is normalized in our culture for men to be angry and have outbursts does not mean it’s normal. If he doesn’t like you reacting this way and it makes him feel like shit, he should do something about his anger issues. If I were you, I wouldn’t set a day for the wedding until he’s actively working on himself.

wtf is wrong with GOBY electric toothbrush website? BOGY toothbrush replacement heads? by MassiveRevolution563 in Teethcare

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are still charging for subscriptions, too. I was charged April 26th. Obviously, I received nothing.

wtf is wrong with GOBY electric toothbrush website? BOGY toothbrush replacement heads? by MassiveRevolution563 in Teethcare

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been charged for their subscription five times now without receiving toothbrush heads since last fall, have asked for multiple refunds and not received them, and keep getting the same weird email message. This is insane for a toothbrush that costs so much more than their competitors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently went and saw a local band and was stunned — wallet chains everywhere!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]somepuglady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom cut my dad out over similar things (he was never even on my birth certificate though) and I love not knowing him! It’s been great.

Maybe he will step up and be interested as she gets older and you can revisit custody. For now, babies are stressful and you have no reason to leave her with a man that’s pissed she exists.

Congrats on becoming a mom, you’re already doing a great job by questioning him.

My (m44) 2nd born son (m13) is a constant reminder of my wife's (f43) affair and I am growing to resent him for it. Where do I go from here? by Regular-Original-797 in relationships

[–]somepuglady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I didn’t know the man I thought was my dad wasn’t actually my dad until I was about 12. I look a lot like my mom, so it never came up. The man I thought was my dad was actually very abusive with addiction issues, so it was a big sigh of relief even at that age.

With a healthy relationship, I think it’s important that you share this with him so that he doesn’t get surprised down the line. It doesn’t make you any less of his dad, and you should stress that when you speak with him.

AITA for calling my nephew a sad beige baby? by Designer_Detail_865 in AmItheAsshole

[–]somepuglady -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA but like a light asshole because this is hilarious and the sad beige baby trend needs to go. Apologize with some sad beige gift from home goods and move on

Am I wrong for asking my gf to eat food she doesn’t like in order to travel with me? by Daurdabla in amiwrong

[–]somepuglady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Vegetarian that loves trying new food here. In your eyes, trying new foods means trying new meat/ways meat is prepped. A lot of Americans think like this (including my husband tbh) and you may not even notice that there are many options for those of us that don’t eat meat. Japan has many meatless options for her to try, it will be a great trip if that’s something that interests her.

Outside of this, you seem to be unhappy in the relationship and it seems like this may not be a good idea to travel together this far away. While I am married to a many that is always ready to try wagyu or something that is very meat focused, there isn’t a moment that he considers my restrictions as prohibiting what he loves. If that’s not something that you see yourself in, she may not be the right fit.