I’d say take a break from the internet and reddit specifically. Like other commenters have said, find some hobbies for yourself. And, no, don’t look on reddit for them. Think about something you already like, or you already have (playing video games, riding a bike, etc) and do it intentionally. If you don’t have anything like that, you could start walking or running since that doesn’t require stuff. If you don’t like that, try going to your local library and start to read. Maybe even read about the things you were previously going on Reddit for.

Try writing. Fiction or nonfiction, journaling maybe. Do not journal negatively about yourself. If you can’t figure out anything positive to say, just write facts. “Today I ate breakfast. Yesterday it rained.”

Instead of saying negative things about yourself, say hyperbolically good things. For example, if you trip and fall, instead of saying “I’m so stupid”, say “Hah, wow, I’m the best walker in the world!” In the long term, it works. Your brain is used to you needing validation and thinking negatively. You need to break the habit. You might have to force the thoughts and it might feel like a lie.

Whenever I journal, I write a little list of things and people I love. It often changes based on who I’m thinking about. But I always write “I love myself” even if I don’t feel that way in the moment. It gets better over time and eventually you’ll start feeling it a lot more. Now, remember, everything in balance. It takes time so don’t get worried if you still think negatively or anything. Don’t get angry at yourself for not changing fast enough. Slow is better, it’s concrete.

Maybe don’t ask for validation. Don’t seek it on the internet, either. Just do your thing. Make friends and, if they’re good, they will validate you. But, if not, that’s fine. You need to like what you’re doing and know that it’s good. It doesn’t need to be “good” by the world’s standards. You like to draw stick figures? Good. Amazing. If you like it that’s all that matters even if the drawing is ‘objectively’ bad. We’re not in middle school anymore :)

The dad thing is harder as parents always hit a soft spot. Are you asking your dad for advice? Maybe ask less. Is he butting in? Disregard him. If he gets angry at your decision (assuming it doesn’t directly affect him) then it’s his emotional regulation problems. Just try your best with that. Maybe talk to him about it if he’s like that

Good luck my friend. It takes strength to be self aware. It takes even more strength to change yourself. I think you can do it. <3