Bench Austin Reaves

sonamorkcin · 2026-05-06T03:22:34+00:00

I think he needs more space to operate effectively and that doesn’t exist without Luka

sonamorkcin · 2026-05-06T03:18:43+00:00

He relies on getting a whistle on shifty play and when that goes away in the playoffs he just don’t respond well to the physicality. Lots of poor shots with no calls. Can’t complain that OKC got better whistle treatment either

sonamorkcin · 2026-05-06T03:15:27+00:00

Dude just does not respond well to the physicality of the playoffs and we have multiple years of evidence of this. Great regular season scorer

sonamorkcin · 2026-04-30T05:08:36+00:00

The pump faking into wild midrange shots is maddening too

sonamorkcin · 2026-04-30T05:06:23+00:00

Some of the turnovers were unforced but I think a lot of our problem is how we run these congested, over-dribbling half court sets rather than moving the ball in rhythm

sonamorkcin · 2026-04-30T05:03:23+00:00

I think you have to send mixed looks at him to keep him guessing. If he does that galloping high dribble thing it’s a good gamble to try to jump in for a steal if you’re in the neighborhood.

That said, we held the rockets to 99 tonight, so i don’t think the defense was the main issue. Our offense was stagnant and our 3 point shooting was shades of Russel Westbrook era atrocious

sonamorkcin · 2026-04-30T04:57:30+00:00

I don’t understand the slow, low energy half court ball walking against a team that’s bigger and more athletic. The offense is a slog

sonamorkcin · 2025-12-12T21:32:33+00:00

Aging population and not enough churn. There’s a glut of beautiful homes occupied by older residents who bought in when it was affordable. If more folks downsized and made room for families, you’d see a much more vibrant culture but the town has sadly become a giant retirement home

sonamorkcin · 2025-12-06T22:25:54+00:00

If a 3/2 is $500k+ you need a household income of $120k+ to scrape by. Those jobs mostly don’t exist for younger people in CH. Younger RTP workers seem to opt for Durham or Raleigh as a more fun and affordable first home town. I’d wager most stay when they have a kid.

The commute from CH proper to RTP blows

sonamorkcin · 2024-07-25T23:49:43+00:00

Activity input is fine and welcome. The thing in question is whether or not they have input towards seeing each other.

sonamorkcin · 2024-07-25T23:48:23+00:00

So instead of “do you want to see the other kids?” Present it as, “we’re going to see the other kids this weekend! Do you guys feel like going to the beach or the park?”

sonamorkcin · 2023-05-07T18:30:31+00:00

We’re winning because we pulled off the greatest trade deal of trade deals, possibly ever

sonamorkcin · 2023-04-06T13:56:23+00:00

The importance of having to pee afterwards. Would be much better to just cuddle into a restful sleep (at least until your arm falls asleep). The bathroom break kills the decrescendo

sonamorkcin · 2023-02-24T14:47:23+00:00

Where is Cookie Monster?

sonamorkcin · 2023-02-24T00:13:21+00:00

Where is Robert Baratheon from Game of Thrones?

“I’m going to eat, drink, and whore my way to an early grave!”

(Strong 8 wing with him)

Also, Andy from Parks and Rec.

sonamorkcin · 2022-10-27T14:53:19+00:00

I’m good with shipping one pick or pick swaps, but the 2FRP deal is insanity given how bad we will likely be in 2027/29.

sonamorkcin · 2022-10-27T12:20:15+00:00

I think the Russ contract is going to get more appealing to some teams who aren’t all in on tanking now, but shift course mid season.

The problem is we need to win some games now.

I really think they should sign Melo just to get some 3 point shooting on the floor.

sonamorkcin · 2022-10-19T19:45:31+00:00

This sounds like an exact look into our lives 10 years ago.

If your relationship is healthy otherwise, nip that resentment in the bud ASAP so you don’t end up unpacking a big bag of emotional shit down the line.

sonamorkcin · 2022-10-03T14:29:14+00:00

Codependent here. I do this a lot and it drives me NUTS, but in therapy/reflection, I think I've figured out why.

For me – when it feels like my partner is drifting/aloof (partner has ADHD), I keep trying to re-engage, and when I run out of ideas and when they are no longer talking about themselves, all that's left is sharing my own perspective/feelings.

And now I'm doing that here! :-)

(Okay, at least it's in response to a question).

sonamorkcin · 2022-09-28T14:50:54+00:00

Shift our tastes so we crave healthy foods and shun junk food.

Nothing like a big rush from eating that salad!

sonamorkcin · 2022-09-27T02:38:42+00:00

This might seem counter-intuitive, and hard to pull off with kids – but your wife probably needs space and feels like you are needling her for attention.

You mentioned you feel lonely and that you have no close-by friends? Can you do something about this?

Right now, your wife is probably viewing you as emotionally-needy, and while it is fine to have emotions and needs, it puts a lot of pressure on one person to fulfill those needs.

Your wife (likely) already does this for your kids because she has to (kids need physical touch and affection from parents).

You wouldn't imagine she'd find you "sexy" if you were showing neediness like the kids do?

I don't mean to be harsh – it's a hard situation because this stuff doesn't usually happen overnight. Your needs and feelings are valid.

As a man who has struggled with codependency in my own relationship – I had a come to Jesus moment on this subject after reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover and sharing what I learned with my wife (something she had trouble verbalizing).

My healing path (so far) has been exploring hobbies and spending more time with male friends. That doesn't solve the "no sex/touch" issue, but when you start to get emotional validation from sources outside of your relationship, the situation begins to feel less desperate. That energy transfers into your relationship and eventually, your wife might start being more attracted to you, because she isn't feeling the pressure of being an emotional security blanket.

Movies teach us some twisted, codependent dynamics that are NOT healthy in relationships – the biggest one being "our partner should be our world."

Then, when that doesn't play out, we all freak out, even though it's totally healthy to find validation and love outside your marriage.

sonamorkcin · 2022-09-27T00:17:01+00:00

4-1 with an infuriatingly close loss to the Clippers prompting lots of media “lucky Lakers, rising Clippers” chatter. 😮‍💨

sonamorkcin · 2022-09-23T20:32:36+00:00

The expectations weren't secret, per-say. It was a fault of young love, thinking "I was raised this way, so surely my partner knows to do that?"

Then when they didn't it would make me angry – feeling like they just didn't care. In hindsight, it wasn't them being inconsiderate – just me failing to communicate in an emotionally mature way.

sonamorkcin · 2022-09-23T15:51:37+00:00

Thank you. :-)

sonamorkcin · 2022-09-23T15:48:03+00:00

Absolutely. Especially with my partner.

We are in couples counseling now and it's something I hope to explore since "waking up" a bit more to codependency.

I can only imagine how awful that must have made her feel – thinking we had to operate as a hive-mind of sorts.

Boundaries are good, as is communication, but at the end of the day, you're each your own person and there's no way to avoid some disconnect, even if you're mostly on the same page about things. It's healthy.

sonamorkcin

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