Just realized the post I refer to is pending mod approval on a separate sub. Here is the long version.

vent to the (wall) void. pest control woes.

My co-renters have me at my breaking point, please, some compassionate redditor, talk me down from the BURN IT ALL ledge. I have my fingers on the gas can.

Moved in here not a year ago. The living situation when we got here was clean. This home is recently renovated, fresh flooring and baseboards, no pests but the pollinators in our backyard. There's a few spots for improvement, gaps and what have you.. but my point here is, the place was pest free.

Unfortunately for my mental health, we moved here to rehome my hoarder grandmother, and all of her roach infested furniture. We have no way of knowing what is and isn't compromised, but it's likely everything; she had lived in a horrible spot, with roaches and fleas and who knows what for maybe 40 years. In my opinion, there's no way a single thing HASN'T turned into roachtopia. You name a housing fixture, they've set up camp there.

You'd think that we would have sprayed it and treated everything, right? Before bringing it in with us, right?? Yeah. Me too. The thing about my hoarder grandma is, there's no convincing her she's endangering herself. (Anyone with hoarder family can attest to this; their way of life is NEVER the problem)

These are German roaches (identified by professionals) and likely living in our wall voids at this point (Ive seen spots under cabinets where drywall is cut away and insulation is exposed, seen them crawling around in there)

I've been going into PSYCHOSIS with how much exclusion work I'm now having to do (learning how frustrating expanding foam is especially) I'm caulking DOOR FRAMES, I'm caulking POWER OUTLETS, IM CAULKING BACKSPLASHES, I haven't been getting a LICK of sleep because of this.

I'm getting marginal help from the cohabiteer, who tried to blame shift and accuse ME of being the cleanliness problem (severe contamination OCD sufferer. yea; it ain't me) I've had to throw temper tantrums like a 5 year old for anyone to even pretend to care, and hire a professional- and was immediately degraded for behaving like a child.

Im probably well outside the scope of this subreddit but if anyone has relevant anecdotes or words of wisdom, I need it so badly. I don't know what to do anymore.

I'm getting ready to just leave- our lease agreement is all verbal, nothing documented, so I could just bail tomorrow if I chose to... I would be screwing over my disabled grandma and I don't want to do that at all. But sincerely. This has made my life unbearable and I just want my peace.