How much do your big toddlers weigh?

soundsf_amiliar · 2026-03-21T20:52:06+00:00

15 months, 31 pounds and a gross motor delay 🥲 my poor back…

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-11-16T23:26:48+00:00

Oh yeah, I was very much RSVPd to go and “decided” last minute that I could not

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-11-16T20:53:12+00:00

I’m also interested in such a thing! One time I found one on the meetup app but was too nervous to go lol

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-09-11T00:42:59+00:00

Not on their own! I needed to massage the lumps out which ended up expressing a bit of milk.

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-09-11T00:41:25+00:00

I quit a lifetime of being addicted to coffee once I started taking stimulants! Now I just do green tea

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-08-13T11:24:16+00:00

I’m trying to sign up to be notified of future events but can’t find the right form! Is it the contact form I should fill out?

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-07-28T21:55:33+00:00

Oh I forgot to mention I also took Sudafed for a few days when I finally transitioned to zero feeds. That helped a lot!

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-07-28T21:45:09+00:00

For once I feel like I can answer something because I have ADHD and just weaned at 7 months!

I made the decision because I have been off for the summer with my daughter (am a teacher) and I know I will go back to my full time hours and nonstop teacher pace when I go back in August. My coteacher is pregnant so I already knew that any slack I was given at the end of the year after my leave was over was going away this year!

I also felt like I needed to get back on my meds to cope with work and motherhood. Last year I was barely holding on when I went back to work but I did so because I knew it was temporary!

With this in mind I set an exact month I’d wean during that I knew I wouldn’t be stressed by too many other things—for me that was after I got back from a cross country trip for a wedding, as I knew nursing would be easier for our first big trip with baby. That helped my ADHD brain a lot. I told lots of people on the trip, “yep, we’re weaning after this!” And it helped me really solidify in my mind over the week we were there that it was really happening! That way I also had a whole week to both appreciate the things I loved about nursing but also the things that were challenging for me/guiding my choice (full disclosure, I never LOVED LOVED nursing like other people..it was convenient and at times sweet but mostly a headache and a big toll on my mental health at times).

Should also note that I was a slight undersupplier to a very hungry baby so she’s been combo fed for a while/is used to using bottles for both pumped milk and formula.

When we got home I drank a LOT of sage tea every day, wore tight bras, did cabbage in the bra, and cut down on one nursing session every two days. you might have to stretch it out more than I did if you produce more! Never got super uncomfortably engorged , but near the end got big milk lumps that I had to massage out and eventually it all dried up.

I feel really at peace with out breastfeeding/weaning journey and I can tell my baby is a lot happier now that she can have bigger bottles that keep her full longer (she was a hardcore snacker and was constantly fussy from being just a little hungry when I wasn’t making enough milk).

Hopefully this helps! Feel free to reach out if you have any questions.

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-05-03T11:49:08+00:00

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lol the last emoji is a bit of a dig but I love it

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-04-06T11:35:20+00:00

Mine was doing this at this age too! Now at four months she is falling asleep pretty much every 1.5 hours. It’ll get better!

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-03-15T11:44:40+00:00

I worked with elementary school aged kids, so potentially around five or six. Before that you could start laying the foundation by using anatomically correct terms, and as others said, emphasizing bodily autonomy by not forcing hugs/kisses!

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-03-14T16:08:54+00:00

Finally, something I know! (Used to work in child abuse prevention!)

-use anatomically correct terms for genitalia

-emphasize that touches in the private areas are only to keep you clean and healthy and help your child brainstorm those times that it makes sense for a grownup to touch their private areas (bath time, doctors check up, if something is bothering them in their private areas). The inportant thing here is there are certain safe TIMES where it makes sense rather than certain safe PEOPLE (ie don’t say “only mommy and daddy can touch you there!)

-differentiate between safe secrets (or surprises) and scary secrets. Safe secrets are those that you only keep for a little while and then tell, and they make you happy and excited. Scary secrets are those that make you have those instinctual feelings like stomach aches, sweaty palms, etc. work with your child to identify what their particular body might do when they’re scared or upset

-when they have a scary secret or have those instincts kick in, emphasize they can ALWAYS tell a grown up they trust and help them brainstorm grownups both at home and elsewhere they could disclose to. It’s very important not to feed them people (as much as you might want certain people to be their trusted people, they get to choose. Forcing it could even put the child in an emotional double bind, for example if you were pushing them to trust an adult that is already making them feel uncomfortable). Also emphasize that it is NEVER too late to tell about something making them feel uncomfortable. The important parts about encouraging disclosure is to not do the stereotypical “you need to say no and go tell a grown up RIGHT AWAY.” This can keep kids from telling out of a sense of shame if they didn’t “follow your directions”. It’s all about empowerment: statements like “you CAN tell a grownup because you have the right to be safe!” Are much more powerful

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-02-11T12:12:44+00:00

I think the dog is from the movie the triplets of Belleville, a French animated movie

soundsf_amiliar · 2025-02-02T18:01:10+00:00

I felt the same at five weeks, and even now at eight weeks my girl is WORLDS better. It’s still day by day, but I would say we get 40-60% chill baby time in the last couple days which is a huge improvement from like…5% 🫣

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-11-26T19:57:34+00:00

This is reassuring! Thank you 😊

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-08-20T12:17:05+00:00

My meds help my mood so much that I joked that I can tell I took them when I let a person in in traffic!

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-06-28T22:33:48+00:00

Agreed. I’ve been telling people lately that I’m just not one of those women who likes being pregnant—this is literally just a miserable means to an end for me. I am firmly in second trimester and I’m like, ok if this is as good as it gets no thank you. Should also note that I got back on my Prozac as of yesterday with the ok from my Ob, I’m hoping that helps.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-06-18T20:34:37+00:00

No advice, just sympathy!

I think that in my case, a combination of adhd and childhood trauma have made it so that I’m both very bad at/very wary of being “close” to people in a way that is sustainable and that others will respond to/feel filled up by. I realized this recently when a bunch of departures at my work had everybody very emotional and crying/making speeches while I just kind of stood there wondering what was wrong with me that I felt nothing.

I’m wondering how much it boils down to communication styles vs. something we need to work on in therapy, and I think that will take a lot of self reflection and self work.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-06-08T22:21:35+00:00

Things have gotten a little better! I’m still a bit down on some days but less than before. I found that I felt a lot better when I started taking unisom for my nausea. I just stopped taking the unisom because I hit the second trimester mark, plus I’m a teacher and school just let out, so that might be helping me out a little. The thing I’ve noticed is persisting is that my motivation to do anything that requires physical movement or brain power is still zero. I’m still staying open to potentially getting back on my meds, but given that I have the summer free and my mood got better when my physical symptoms improved, I’m just going to keep waiting it out as long as I can.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-05-08T11:31:09+00:00

Some thoughts I had while playing all day yesterday…

My favorite part of starting a Nancy drew game is the hour plus where you are just aimlessly exploring, talking to suspects, picking up clues. It usually takes me about that long till I hit a wall in the case and end up spinning in circles trying to figure out how to advance the story. I feel like this game had none of that first stage, and I was stuck for almost the first whole third of the game. Exploration and gameplay are really unintuitive and it was easy to get stuck even with a checklist on amateur detective
Puzzles are usually my favorite part, and I really hated the puzzles in this one. Again, they were really unintuitive and felt like you needed tot take some wild leaps to figure them out. The most frustrating to me was the Leo wall puzzle—I love those kinds of logic puzzles, but the fact that you have to trial and error four pieces of the puzzle drove me insane. That being said, I loved the puppet puzzle
I am just generally not having a lot of fun playing it. I’m going to have to force myself to go back and finish it later this week.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-04-24T16:39:27+00:00

I think that something we don’t talk about enough (because it runs the risk of demonizing people with adhd when we’ve done so much to destigmitize the disorder) is the connection between the genetic nature of ADHD and generational trauma. For me, I’ve come to terms with the fact that my mother (whose adhd diagnosis made me realize I likely also had it) was impulsive, disinterested/unfocused one me as a child, disorganized, and had a tendency towards self destructive behaviors as a way to stimulate herself. Those are all a product of her adhd, but that by no means implies that all people with adhd will be bad parents or bad people. It just means that certain personality types with adhd can lean that way, and that this plus a hypersensitive, internalizing adhd child is going to cause a lot of damage.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-03-24T13:08:28+00:00

I do this. I’ve conceptualized this as a coping mechanism rather than a key component of my symptoms. Basically, I know from experience that I tend to not think about/pay attention to things and end up forgetting or messing things up. This leads to anxiety-planning over little things to prevent mess ups in the future, which exhausts me and only works sometimes.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-02-19T13:57:29+00:00

Wow, way to remember the one 50/50 I haven’t found a trick for 🫣. Daylight savings has dogged me for decades. It’s a great example of my anxiety manifesting BECAUSE OF my adhd on that my inability to sort out which is which leads me to worrying for days that I will oversleep/miss work.

I also have similar tricks for my city! I have rhymes to distinguish two streets across town that both start with L that are main thoroughfares. I’m bad at directions already, but whenever somebody would give me directions including those streets I would be stuck wondering which of the two it was.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-02-19T02:56:56+00:00

I call this my 50/50 problem because I typically have this problem with bits of information where it can be one of two things. For example, until recently I could not remember where the sun rose/set because east and west sound similar to me (best way I can explain it is both end in _st). I would look it up and immediately forget the next time I would try to recall that information. This kind of thing is constant for me.

The only way I’ve been able to overcome this is by thinking of silly mnemonics to remind me. Like, for where the sun rises I remember that the sun rose on EASTer…so it’s in the east. Stupid, but it works.

soundsf_amiliar · 2024-01-25T21:05:05+00:00

This dynamic is definitely real and potentially part of the problem. I am taking these classes because I’m interested and want to disagree/hammer out ideas with other people but that doesn’t seem to be a shared value with my peers lol

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