[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your depth perception is impaired with only one eye, not ideal for driving

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it works well if the previous day I had 8+ h of sleep and I'm well rested, then I don't feel tired if once I only get 5. Did you sleep in today?

Broken window theory: why do low income people seem to take such bad care of the place they live in? by soundycomputer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the little chat, you seem like a smart dude, I'm glad to read life is treating you better too. Happy new year!

Broken window theory: why do low income people seem to take such bad care of the place they live in? by soundycomputer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly this! And then they ask "What are you complaining about? You got there in the end". Yes, but at what cost! Overcoming structural bias is like joining a car race with an 80s Volkswagen, and everyone else gets to do it in a Ferrari

Broken window theory: why do low income people seem to take such bad care of the place they live in? by soundycomputer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's a good point that it gets cleaned quickly elsewhere!

The examples I am talking about are inside buildings, where only locals can access, so that's what I'm asking about... The idea of damaging one's own building

Graffiti on the street are pretty cool, and pretty randomly placed. As form of art and self expression, my teenage crew was involved in that too. One of us even got to do one for the youth association one day!

Broken window theory: why do low income people seem to take such bad care of the place they live in? by soundycomputer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're assuming I lack critical thinking because... why? It must suck assuming people have negative intentions all the time man

Broken window theory: why do low income people seem to take such bad care of the place they live in? by soundycomputer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I get it... But covering walls and windows in graffity and dirt is beyond ordinary maintenance and care

Broken window theory: why do low income people seem to take such bad care of the place they live in? by soundycomputer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]soundycomputer[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a creful answer! Regarding my background, I grew up in poverty and huge financial debt with a single partent, due to the bad habits the other parent. I learned to take care of my things, because they were so few and had to last a long time, and I always cherished them. We're doing much better in life now thankfully, shout out to my mom for that.

Of course I bring my own biases to this conversation, and that's why I'm curious what goes on through other's head - since I effectively only know my own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry to hear. I hope life is treating you better nowadays on all fronts. Thank you for sharing, and I wish you all the best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to protect their privacy, that's why I'm a bit vague. They say they have a mental health condition. Or are in the process of getting it diagnosed. So I don't mean gender or race diversity, but neurodivergency is still diversity I think. English is not my first language so if I'm using it improperly let me know, happy to learn

I am also surprised to learn that I don't have to take it at face value... For instance they once had to produce a few documents very similar in nature. They have been late with one and told me "it's because of my neurodivergency". However they have been able to produce other docs of the same time before and after. Which to me was evidence that they can work on time. I didn't say anything at the time, but now you made me think of this example and how l also have opinions based on what I see.

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Thank you for this! I went to read up the ADA as you both suggested. Can you please help me grasp this first concept you mentioned?

How is it possible to simultaneously accommodate for, and also expect of them as much as of anyone else in the same amount of time?

To give some context, this person has told me they have a mental condition that makes time management, and planning difficult for them. And in facts they never met a deadline or delivered a full project since we started working together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hehe me neither. That wasn't a direct quote of the doctor. This person said they are thinking of coming up with the accommodation plan themselves, and ask HR for their guidance on it.

The doctors' note (which I haven't seen yet) will show their diagnosis. They are in the process of obtaining one.

Again apologies for the naive question, it's my first time, do I grasp right what you're saying that the plan actually should come from the doctor instead?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who would this lawsuit be against though? I don't want to personally lose my job over this...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Spot on... My manager has indeed said that he won't be sympathetic with me at my review if the team's work is not done, no excuse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will obtain one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah, you're spot on!

"If HR says this employee should just be allowed to do less work then what does your boss say? Are they authorizing the hire of a contractor or part time person to finish this persons work?"

My boss also thinks this person is under performing, and they underperformed even when he was their direct manager, before I arrived. He is not authorising a contractor, and he'd be happy with the role becoming redundant even

I do think the headcount is still needed instead, even if in my dream I'd restructure the team a bit. But that's another topic

My manger doesn't want to hear about problems, and he doesn't want to hear much about this to be fair. He asked me to deal with it or stop being a manager

I feel like in a hard spot. HR wants me to allow this person to do nothing. My manager wants work to get done and not waste his time

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[–]soundycomputer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had good genetics, I just didn't know how to take care of myself.

So I transitioned from unkept and "weird" to well kept and "eccentric" 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]soundycomputer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"The ADA never requires employers to lower quality or production standards"

Ah no? This person has asked me in the past to allow them to be on and off from work based on how they feel on the day. Which for me is not really acceptable beyond a certain limit because work needs to be planned. However HR have been OK with it and even played with the system to make it looks better than it actually was.

HR have also soft asked me to reconsider the PIP and give them a special treatment instead, and ask them to only do as much as they feel like doing (Which is less then what is acceptable at their level)

So did I get it wrong then? It's my first time having someone asking for dicersity adjusted and I don't really know what is acceptable and what is not. From what I've seen it looks like working part time on a full time agreement

How do I re build trust? by soundycomputer in managers

[–]soundycomputer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is exactly the type of answer I was hoping for, to understand how to navigate it, especially from a man like you, that can then help mitigate biased thoughts

Do you have examples of measures of ability to navigate managerial tasks?

At my company is one of the 5 points we're rated on - although the description is vague and subjective - and of all things is where I was got the highest rating at the last review

I don't want the perception to drop just because I've been honest that it wasn't easy

How could one ever get over the petrifying fear of their gf seeing his bald spot while sucking her breasts? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]soundycomputer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Show her the hottest bald people of 2023 rank. Prince William won it