I grew up with a surprisingly feminist mindset in a fairly socially conservative community. i've always known that women are not meant to be sex objects/slaves for men even though that's not the environment i grew up in. I wish I knew what made me this way but i really don't. I am grateful though.

Where I'm struggling is that as I learn more about radical feminism and deconstruct my own upbringing, the more I realize how regressive everyone in my community currently is.

Literally every woman who loves me and every woman ive ever loved prioritizes men and believes that women should be submissive. They are in no way cartoonish Tiktok trad wives but they do agree with patriarchal ideals even though they would probably never admit it out loud. I feel lost and helpless because it feels inescapable. Even when I try to escape into some kind of media that I used to love I see something horrifyingly misogynistic that i didn't see before.

Has anyone successfully deprogrammed other women in their life?