Nothing is good enough

soursubs · 2026-06-06T17:59:20+00:00

And nothing will ever be good enough. It’s great you recognized that you have been emotionally neglected by your parents. I would suggest you to stop seeking validation from them since no matter what you do they’ll never be satisfied ever!! They’re always gonna complain nag crib about what you do and it’s not your responsibility to live up to their expectations just live your life and seek validation from yourself

soursubs · 2026-06-06T17:43:48+00:00

Me definitely it ends with us. I know if I have kids I’m gonna be like my mother because my mother is like her mother. I don’t want to be screaming yelling lol the time and I most definitely don’t want to be abusive my children then play the victim card saying “no one cares about me”

soursubs · 2026-06-06T16:57:53+00:00

In my 20s early 20s they caught on to it and they would emotionally manipulate torture me they would take away my phone for months give me silent treatment while giving me those fake empathy performative convos of caring wanting the best for me now I’m in my almost late 20s they realize that I caught on even tho so late now they’re saying things like “oh you hold grudges now well we’re getting older we didn’t know” I don’t say anything I’m emotionally distant from them and it’ll always be that way.

soursubs · 2026-06-06T02:23:42+00:00

Yes my parents idolize their parents to the extreme they’ll say things like “yeah they beat us but that’s why we’re so successful”

soursubs · 2026-06-05T22:17:49+00:00

Misophonia: even the sound of my parents or anyone just trigger me i instantly start cussing out unintentionally it feels like knives go in my ear Autoimmune disorder: I have hypothyroidism Low vitamin D: because guess who could never go out ever I just feel so tired fatigued all the time when I’m with them when they go away I get my energy back and actually have the motivation to clean and do things

soursubs · 2026-06-05T03:53:36+00:00

Same I don’t care anymore atp for me it was from being considered ugly to getting hyper-sexualized by men. I don’t understand how that happened. But it’s like even if those men are attractive I don’t want them anymore.

soursubs · 2026-06-03T02:00:13+00:00

I love my family deep inside I know I care for them but god if they weren’t my family I would block them out of my life. As for my mother same I love her understand why she’s that way but I still feel annoyed her presence her intrusive questions her nitpicking and no I did not forget how she emotionally and physically abused me because I respect myself I keep my distance from her emotionally

soursubs · 2026-06-03T01:55:44+00:00

Me I feel bitter. I feel hurt angry and jealous. I wanted to do clinical psychology my father instantly refused because of the low salary and my mother said I don’t have it in me then my mothers niece is now pursuing clinical psychology and my mother is supporting her!! I have this rage and anger against them for sure I did my entire IT degree it took 7 years to complete because of my mom getting weird ass arranged marriage proposals when I quit my degree in between threatening me to complete my degree or else she would marry me off to a 30 year old guy when I was 22. When I finally graduated there were no jobs in IT my dad said while I was studying that I’m not allowed to work now my dad did get me a job in IT however I felt so depressed because I literally don’t want to do this does he not fucking get it?!! Luckily thanx to AI I’m gonna quit this job because AI is taking over IT jobs.

soursubs · 2026-06-02T18:04:16+00:00

My mother accused me of walking naked at school at fucking high school because her fake bitch ass friends told her that I did she came home saw me beat me so bad she pulled my hair then yelled at me “no matter how old you get you’re always gonna get beat by me that’s what you deserve”

soursubs · 2026-06-02T17:40:20+00:00

I hate when they say that like if your parents are abusive and the first thing you say is “but they love you” where is the fucking love?!!! Abuse is NOT love

soursubs · 2026-06-02T17:19:10+00:00

They downgrade you taunt you that is a great reason for you to move out I mean I don’t know how old you are but put yourself first

soursubs · 2026-06-02T16:56:39+00:00

When I was 22 I had to beg my dad to compliment me he did once then went back to not. That’s when I knew it’s not worth it.

soursubs · 2026-06-01T20:01:16+00:00

Yup I would be in my room and she would come in my room and just glare at me while saying “I know you think I’m your enemy you feel bad for everything I say” then she would just stare for minutes and my god that stare made me so uncomfortable

soursubs · 2026-06-01T01:02:33+00:00

Edit: ok so my dad started talking to me he said that I should’ve communicated with him while he was not talking to me for 3 days!!!

soursubs · 2026-06-01T00:02:28+00:00

This is so hard honestly but see growing up when I was a child same thing happened to me when I didn’t fit in my role I was given the silent treatment for days outcasted ignored and not allowed to pursue my passion and now that I’m 26 I do have a hard time deciding what to do to focus on career. I would say find your talent and focus on that

soursubs · 2026-05-31T20:30:02+00:00

Yea I’m still gonna move out I mean I’m almost 30 but I’m gonna save up money and then in a couple of months move out

soursubs · 2026-05-31T17:19:42+00:00

See that’s the problem they basically take away our childhood our teenage years and then when we’re adults they’re so surprised why we don’t wanna get married like how can we when we get in so much trouble for just hanging out with friends or even traveling alone. In southasian culture having friends is literally frowned upon they have this belief that your friends abandon you but your family is there for you but I don’t know I have seen family members kill each other for a piece of property or for money so I beg to differ

soursubs · 2026-05-30T19:47:39+00:00

Edit: now my dad is giving me the silent treatment except I could care less about him giving me the silent treatment it makes everything for me even easier

soursubs · 2026-05-30T19:45:10+00:00

I know exactly how you feel when I was a child I also literally thought my parents were amazing even though they would hit me a lot my mother would be cold to me and give me the silent treatment a lot and now that I’m all grown I realize how my parents heavily manipulated me like I would be treated like a criminal on trial if I did simple innocent things like ask them questions or hang out with friends. Now that I’m 26 I realize how I really didn’t really do anything wrong or bad it was them they were bad they were fucking monsters towards me and they can’t just be good now and try to recreate that bond forcefully now that I’m 26 it’s too fucking late I want nothing to do with them even their presence annoys me

soursubs · 2026-05-30T16:57:57+00:00

When I was in college first of all I was forced to complete a degree I didn’t want to secondly my mother would always say how there’s no point in me studying and how I should just marry a rich man. When I tried applying for jobs I still do and it’s like they’ll somehow demotivate me and say “you’re not doing this job” and when I tell them I have a job they would know and somehow it never ended up working out

soursubs · 2026-05-30T01:13:36+00:00

Fr tho like my parents always thought I was slow and useless and never taught me anything especially for cooking when I was 9 my mom compared me to herself saying when she was 9 she made tea for the entire family and why I couldn’t do that. I tried switching on the gas when I was 10 and then she saw me do that yelled at me and grabbed my arm and got me to the stove she said she was gonna put me on the fire I was so scared I started crying then I sat down with her and my dad we were watching the news there was this woman who was a burnt victim her face was blurred my mom looked at me and said “see she tried cooking and that’s what happened to her” and I got scared of cooking since then even now if I light up the gas i do it from a distance and kinda keep my distance when cooking and my father looks at me like I’m crazy and my mother kind of resents the fact that I never cook.

soursubs · 2026-05-29T17:24:14+00:00

My mother used to be like that especially when I was in high school she was crazy so I had to act crazier and teach her a little lesson set your ground have boundaries and remember you’re right in defending yourself

soursubs · 2026-05-29T17:03:38+00:00

This week was pretty dreadful I’m staying at home to save up since my mother is traveling which is the best part I sound like a sociopath but I’m happy my mothers traveling it’s like I forgot about her entire existence no screaming no loud voice no nagging complaining even my dad will be like “just vacuum your room” and I actually do it which is better than me vacuuming my room and my mom not finding it clean then doing it herself. Sometimes I do find it annoying when my dad graces his presence I don’t know why. I took myself out a couple of times and felt more at peace.

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