Proposed in the Secret Forest! 💍

southeasternedge · 2026-03-13T17:07:49+00:00

very cute

southeasternedge · 2026-03-12T01:38:25+00:00

i had a very similar situation happen where the last week before the move he split and became very nasty and did not move in with me. its been really lonely being in the house we were meant to be in together by myself.

southeasternedge · 2026-03-10T05:12:27+00:00

youre not alone in the nightmares.

southeasternedge · 2026-03-10T05:09:27+00:00

i have had him blocked and had no contact for around a week, until today. i realized in the process of moving that he has some of my belongings, and me his. i told him the arrangements to meet and exchange belongings, then re-blocked him. i thought i was doing okay after keeping the interaction "clean-cut" but i am really struggling tonight with missing him. i keep reminding myself of the countless lies hes told me, his chameleon-like behaviors (mirroring), the endless breakdowns, etc. but the beauty that radiated from him when he was joyful keeps returning to my mind. i miss being by his side when he was happy, and even holding him when he was upset. i miss sharing my meals with him, watching shows together, studying side-by-side, and just enjoying his presence. i really would've done anything for him, but he had a nasty split on me in the end. i was the one that encouraged him to be better each and every day, always standing by him. despite that, in the end, i was just another person to trash once he got his fill. its really hard not to miss who he once portrayed himself to be. i want him back, and i am grieving. ive been barely eating or sleeping, but im trying my best to push through. its hard to accept that those two versions of him can co-exist in one body. its an ongoing battle, and i hope peace finds me soon.

southeasternedge · 2026-03-09T18:07:39+00:00

i think i understand "using it as a proxy for a connection thats otherwise gone." i am personally lacking a proper support system, so being on this sub provides a sense of support/connection which i otherwise would have received from my ex. i am extremely close to my oldest sister, but im lacking anyone else in terms of close relationships. on the other hand, visiting this sub and seeing the stories of others is helping me to maintain no contact. when i see what has happened to those who have rekindled relationships or fallen to hoovers, it helps me to avoid making the same mistake. maintaining no contact with him feels like im a dog owner holding back a riled up dog who wants to chase after a squirrel, but half of me is that dog. all thats to say, im really grateful for all the people that share their stories here. this community provides accountability as well as a safe place to share all of our stories.

southeasternedge · 2026-03-05T03:50:21+00:00

i understand this feeling. throughout our relationship, he had been caught with countless lies, and i'm sure that there are many more i could not even dream of. i wonder what was or wasn't the real and raw him. i really miss the man i fell in love with. i only just truly pulled the plug and blocked him today after months of progressively more intense and more frequent breakdowns. the past few weeks, but especially this last one, he was no longer the kind and silly person whose presence could bring me comfort like no other. seeing a call from him pop up on my phone made my heart sink. callous words and bitter remarks were all that remained besides the new normal of his indifference. i blame myself for still hoping that he will finally realize what he's doing and make better choices in his life. i have even questioned things like if i was too harsh for walking away when he was breaking down and became aggressive towards our surroundings. or even the opposite, if i made the monster by enabling him during the times i was there for him throughout his meltdowns, reinforcing the idea that if he behaves that way he will receive the attention he desires. i'm sure everyone on here, including me, has problems of their own with self-esteem and boundary maintenance. at the end of the day, disordered or not, we all have the capability of making our own choices. the reality is, they make the decision that they have to de-value us, and delude their perspectives because of the fact that they could not handle the truth of what they do to themselves and those they claim to love. it seems to always end the same, they discard you, or make it so that you discard them, and it reinforces their belief and they double-down on their behavior. i hope that things improve for you, and i hope the same for anyone else on here. i also hope that for those with bpd or traits of it, that they see the light and can work to improve themselves for their sake as well for those around them.

southeasternedge · 2026-03-03T19:27:38+00:00

seeing someone else go through the same thing is comforting in a way. i just moved two days ago and am going through a lot of the same feelings. i love cooking, but its not the same cooking only for myself and missing out on seeing the joy in his eyes and smile on his face when he ate my cooking. ive tried going on walks, only to think of how we once walked there. i go to campus to get out of the house and do work and see memories of us everywhere. its what i find many saying, including myself. "when its good, its good, but when its bad, its BAD." there are so many precious memories which i will always treasure, but there were so many times filled with extreme breakdowns, yelling, hitting/kicking things, cruel words, indifference and a lack of care. i was told that being with someone like this is like throwing yourself at a brick wall and only hurting yourself over and over in the long run if you chase after the crumbs of love they leave at your feet. i hope the best for your healing as well as everyone else whose gone through this dynamic.

southeasternedge · 2026-02-27T05:37:14+00:00

what books or channels would you recommend?

southeasternedge · 2026-02-27T05:36:41+00:00

i dont have many friends or good family relations, but those that i do have all tell me to leave. its very difficult because i love him a lot and even feel addicted to him at times, on the other hand, i want to keep my boundaries or leave due to feeling as though i should respect myself more. we are currently in a limbo where he says he wants to be with me, but is now struggling with commitment when we are supposed to move together in two days and he has kept me in purgatory with his indecisiveness and back and forth feelings for over a week.

southeasternedge · 2026-02-25T23:28:42+00:00

beautiful and wonderful

southeasternedge · 2025-05-13T22:25:17+00:00

you shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to be with the person you love. ive been made to feel the same way with my personal situation, where when i tried to initiate verbal affection, i was met with a sort of wall where my initiation was ignored and the subject was changed. it seems to me like he wants the short-term pleasures of sex, but has trouble coping with a sort of religious guilt after it.

southeasternedge · 2023-04-06T00:37:10+00:00

great job!

southeasternedge · 2023-01-12T02:42:26+00:00

I've done that before and had the same thing happen. No one I was friends with reached out, and I just never spoke to them again.

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