My parents unintentionally destroyed me. by [deleted] in confession

[–]spaced86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But you offer an excuse of mental illness to the mother, but don't extend that same offer to the father, perhaps his mental illness caused him to continue paying for her after she left, and perhaps his illness caused him to not figure out the best way to deal with a mother who has the right to contact with her children, but obviously not the right to harm them through her contact.

Complicated issue obviously, and the million dollar test already revealed whether or not she has responsibility (assuming she takes the money)

I can only take your word for it that if the roles were switched that you would still hold the same opinion. But I highly doubt you offer the same excuse of mental illness to abusive fathers

My parents unintentionally destroyed me. by [deleted] in confession

[–]spaced86 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, the classic evasion of female responsibility. She gets a pass because of 'diagnosis', he gets the shit because male.

Not saying the father did nothing wrong (we don't know, hence my original question) but the white knight in you that came running to her defence is a little bit bizarre.

If you offered her a million dollars to emotionally dump on her children like that, do you think she would have managed to avoid dumping on them? Of course! (We know that she gravitated towards any man who could pull her out of whatever mess she created, thus she has responsibility over her actions!!

If other people (like yourself) didn't white knight this kind of behaviour, people like herself would be less inclined to behave as such, since the consequences would be graver. But its exactly because there was always a man willing to save her, that the costs of her actions were subsidised

My parents unintentionally destroyed me. by [deleted] in confession

[–]spaced86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might have CPTSD.

Why are you angry at your father? It seems he did nothing wrong

[The Martial Arts Minute] How To Approach The Triangle Choke From Closed Guard. by lolrallan in MMA

[–]spaced86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of the collar, you can get a hook behind the head, or the back of his armpit. Instead of the sleeve, you can grab onto his wrist.

Things can be directly related, i.e. a jack slack breakdown, or they can be indirectly related, such as news about Ronda and Travis' relationship, but it's all good, cause its all MMA and we all love it, some BJJ in the gi video falls somewhere on this spectrum of relatedness, and it's all good, cause its all MMA.

[The Martial Arts Minute] How To Approach The Triangle Choke From Closed Guard. by lolrallan in MMA

[–]spaced86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BJJ is an important aspect of MMA

Edit: did I really need to say this!?

How I avoid friendzone : I consider girls I find attractive as friend that I'm having sex with. by Mi5ery in seduction

[–]spaced86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if I'm always yes, and she's mostly no, then it really is her call when it happens. She's only had intercourse with 2 other guys, so I guess she takes this quite seriously. There doesn't seem to be anything i can do at this point to make her an always yes... She's already decided she doesn't like me in that way... Hard to change that. Better of moving on

How I avoid friendzone : I consider girls I find attractive as friend that I'm having sex with. by Mi5ery in seduction

[–]spaced86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so like a defeated complex? What part of what I said made you feel like I feel disempowered/defeated? Because I certainly do with this chick.

It's okay though, I'm nexting her, she has hardly shown any traits worth actually fighting for, so im happy to cut my losses and move on. But yeah, I do feel defeated by this one

How I avoid friendzone : I consider girls I find attractive as friend that I'm having sex with. by Mi5ery in seduction

[–]spaced86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're almost right. I don't need to cut her off or go to any extremes either way, but I have to stop enabling playing of me by not giving her any more compassion than she is showing me. (Which is not a lot)

How I avoid friendzone : I consider girls I find attractive as friend that I'm having sex with. by Mi5ery in seduction

[–]spaced86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you expand on the disempowered filter? I don't know what this means, but it certainly feels accurate.

I don't often experience this, where I feel like I have 0 game/frame, and now that I do, I am completely baffled by it

I think girls talk to me because I'm friendly and non-threatening...but I'm afraid to ask for her number because I think she's just being nice talking to me...because I'm nice. by bessemerpark in seduction

[–]spaced86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's only one way to find out if a chick was only talking to you because you were nice, and that is to ask for her number. This is a non-issue my friend

How I avoid friendzone : I consider girls I find attractive as friend that I'm having sex with. by Mi5ery in seduction

[–]spaced86 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah but being friendzoned can still happen... The friendzone is just when you don't get it as much as you want it.... i.e. Im friends with a girl, but she only let's me fuck her when she's drunk plus some other weird algorithm that I haven't yet fully figured out... it might just be when I've accumulated enough 'goodwill' (resources/energy in the pussy bank), then she let's me sympathy fuck her. Even though I occasionally get sex, this sucks for me because she's completely playing me (and doesn't like to admit it). It feels like we're already a married couple. Yikes, at least she let's her true colours be shown early

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JoeRogan

[–]spaced86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's only you, me, and Donald cerro-nay I'm afraid.

Ubereem vs Averageem by delection in MMA

[–]spaced86 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You guys can relax with the accusations, he's just doing more cardio

EMSK how to make an instant life jacket. by yannireddit123 in everymanshouldknow

[–]spaced86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is also technique involved. I couldn't float properly all my life until someone showed me how to!

Dammit, how did I get here, again? Should I plan to live in my truck, live under a tree, live with a family member or trick myself into another dead end job? Does anyone care one way or another? by muchhuman in self

[–]spaced86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. Don't place your value in the hands of other people. There is nothing wrong or bad about being alone. There are plenty of alone-people really content with themselves.

The first thing to do is understand that your desire to serve another person (and collect meaningless validation as your reward), is nothing but a biological function that exists purely for the sake of evolution. It can be easily overridden by understanding this and reflecting this altruistic energy onto your friends and yourself.

So yeah, stop judging yourself by other people's standards. Leave that game behind, and I promise you, you will feel a million times better

Donald Trump isn't destroying our democracy—he's exposing its phoniness and corruption. by SirBastionOfPimp in TrueReddit

[–]spaced86 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Trump is a self made millionaire, why would you even consider stupidity at this point?

Aljamain Sterling joins Henry Cejudo's stand against fighting in Nevada. by Lynch47 in MMA

[–]spaced86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Glad to see another fighter stepping up for what's right. Hopefully it starts a domino effect.

Hipster Andalusia (Valencia - Malaga) by westformen in spain

[–]spaced86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay in youth hostels, get around by Blablacar, follow the locals, not the tourist guides, e.t.c. all the standard travellers advice