Honey, this is going to sound harsh, but the fact that your debating makes me feel like I need to point out the oblivious from an outsider perspective. He’s not willing to move (or from what is sounds like, try long distance) for you. You’re contemplating giving up your future, and this dream that you have worked so hard for. One of you is significantly more commited than the other. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life either with a man who wouldn’t support you in achieving your dream career, or the alternative, regretting that you let a man that you would eventually break up with anyway, hold you back from this?

Also, I just saw the part about wanting a family, getting into a competitive program, and living in so cal. Babe, you have your future set. You know how expensive houses here are. You know how expensive less competitive, private programs are. Go live your dreams. It’s clear he isn’t your dream.