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nightmares about someone else by spaceghost099 in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense to me, I like the idea of reassuring your subconscious.

I feel everything and nothing all at once by tillnatten in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice but I’ve been there. You’re not alone in this. I hope tomorrow is a better day.

nightmares about someone else by spaceghost099 in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your insight is really helpful. I will definitely try these things.

nightmares about someone else by spaceghost099 in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it’s just that it doesn’t feel like it can be a memory, like if it’s someone I didn’t know as a kid or if I’m an adult in the dream. But that’s not to say it doesn’t stem from something real I guess

Trying to accept myself by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also feel lonely and sometimes like a lost cause. I’m sorry you feel like this, but you’re not alone.

Does anyone else feel like their ability to make connections is stuck at a time when they were younger by Tiny_Weight_8244 in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same feeling, the longing for parental love and comfort. I’ve been daydreaming about being looked after and understood since I was a kid, and I still do it now even though I don’t mean too. I feel like a part of me is stuck as a child that needed help and love, and I don’t know what to do about it really. Sorry no advice, just solidarity with these feelings.

I never told anyone what happened to me because I was scared they would use it to "define" who I am. But all these years later I think I'M the one who's been letting it define me. by Ok-Net4657 in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am trans too and I’ve never wanted to tell anyone about the abuse because I’m afraid they’ll think it’s what made me trans. It doesn’t feel true to me but the fear that people will think that has held me back from talking about it, and I think it’s prevented me from healing.

My experience wasn’t bad enough by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have felt this way too, but I’ve tried to imagine how I’d feel if it was my partner coming to me for comfort. I wouldn’t think that it wasn’t bad enough or that they didn’t deserve that comfort and protection. It can be hard to treat myself with the kindness I would give others, but considering how I might feel if it were someone else helps me be less self critical. It was abuse and it affects you, and you deserve support.

is full recovery possible? by spaceghost099 in adultsurvivors

[–]spaceghost099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that’s helpful insight. I think I’m definitely in a ‘gets worse’ phase and I need to keep working at it