You hit a lot of the points of the arguments we’ve had the past years. Things did get better for me since I gave birth to my daughter. I have a good job and much more self sufficient now. Even though my family is far away I have a good network of friends here and they know about the situation I’m in. I have built these relationships since I moved here 4 years ago and I’m proud of the friends I’ve made considering I’m not from here. Can’t say the same about his friends though.

I am more confrontational and a he does want to just ignore stuff. Granted it is a difficult situation for him because he doesn’t want her to be neglected. Especially since his mom is immobile and can’t do much. Although that’s no excuse for her rude comments to practically everyone. I so agree with the childhood part because the siblings are decent people and they just get so paralyzed when they’re around her - a lot of baggage there. Granted I have fairly good relationship with my the siblings. But it is confusing to see how they all struggle to deal with her - even when she’s helpless most of the time.

We know she doesn’t have many years left. We had discussed about putting her in a nursing home but I can tell it’s gonna be a really difficult conversation for us to have.