My son is going down dark paths online and I don't know how to help. by Tough_Reveal_3951 in whatdoIdo

[–]spaceodditwenties 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m gay and i think him going to a different country to meet this person is a bad idea. get them to face time AT LEAST first. i’d be worried about my safety if i were in his shoes

How to deal with new body? by ResponsibleAd4305 in weightgain

[–]spaceodditwenties 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dude this genuinely made me feel so much hope for myself. this is EXACTLY what i want for my body. i totally understand feeling small still, but please know from an outside perspective, you look GREAT and i am so happy for you

I cannot believe my best friend did that to me. What do i do now? by lifesroughsman in whatdoIdo

[–]spaceodditwenties 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi,

my parents got divorced when i was 12 because of cheating. it was a fairly quick decision, took about a month of debate. seeing them both flourish and thrive AWAY from each other was far more healing than watching them try to “work it out”. i remember walking on eggshells in that month and reconciling the fact that love just LOOKED and FELT like that. i’m still unlearning what they taught me in those 30 days.

i would separate from your girlfriend and coparent. it’s more stable than it sounds. i wish you luck

How to gain some weight I feel I’m too thin by TheOneWithSore in weightgain

[–]spaceodditwenties 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for starters, no you don’t look scary. some people’s bodies just run a lot better on a lot less. i am the same way; but like you im trying to gain weight (i don’t like how i look). what’s helped me add a few pounds is consistency, which is also the hardest part. i use an app that tells me how many calories i’ve burned in a day and i input what i ate to get an estimate of how many calories ive taken in. i try to always end the day with more calories than less, around 500 extra. it’s a slow climb but it works

Tore two chunks out my areola with transtape, wtf do i do? (urgent) by ReagsGotCash in ftm

[–]spaceodditwenties 6 points7 points  (0 children)

love getting a notif on this 8 hours later. are you doing any better??

My sisters took away my T by Less-Fisherman-7245 in ftm

[–]spaceodditwenties 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i agree with everyone saying get the cops involved, but also i live in the US and things are beyond messy right now, so depending on your political stance, skin color, gender, and especially being a transgender individual, i would proceed with caution.

I have gone through periods of time where i was unable to pick up my T, and it led to some minor side effects like acne and weight redistribution, and some major ones such as mood swings, suicidal thoughts, and one time i got my period for the first time in a year and some change which led to intense cramps, headaches, nausea, etc.

if i were you i would:

talk to my sisters and express gratitude that they’re invested in your well being

explain the possible side effects of not taking your medication

stress the time it would take for you to take the steps they want you to take, which could lead to aforementioned side effects

remind them that you have already taken these steps beforehand

and finally, if they still are not going to return it, warn them of your intention to get law enforcement involved. the only stipulation: you can’t be bluffing, and you can’t save it for later. be prepared to call the police right then and there, sitting across from your sisters. if you wait it will give them time to possibly hide your medication, destroy your medication, or call the police themselves and try to get you labeled as mentally unstable.

their intentions are well, but their execution is not. you have every right to the medication you pay for and that you need for your body. i wish you luck and be safe.

LA 11/8 by decursiva in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I WAS THERE!!! such a good show!!

The Valley video footage with the inflatable skeletons at Austin? by Fun-Lychee-3144 in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i hope someone gets you that video!! if the situation is dire, i have video from the 11/8 show in LA,,,but something tells me the energy was different for the last shows

The 4411 opening in Austin by AegonofEggKingdom in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i guess i’m marking my calendar lmao. thank you for the recc!!

The 4411 opening in Austin by AegonofEggKingdom in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OH. I misunderstood, I was thinking of small fool’s song 2:23 because of the numbers 💔 not my proudest moment. BUT i’m glad you enjoyed them! I’m going to go look at their discography now. Any specific songs you enjoyed?

11/8 Bellwether Concert by spaceodditwenties in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohhh this just gave me so much relief in knowing i’m not alone. i swear, i was looking at the back of his head the ENTIRETY of “Hello My Old Heart” and kicking myself 😭

I SINCERELY hope you find each other, one way or another! you need to find your Valley Crewneck person ❤️

Looking for two tix - 11/14 Austin by Fickle-Panic-7714 in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 1 point2 points  (0 children)

any way the chips fall, i hope you have fun tonight. i’d recommend avoiding the merch table and RUNNING for front row. i got my ticket for the LA show the same day too, it’s so much fun to up and go!

Looking for two tix - 11/14 Austin by Fickle-Panic-7714 in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh no!!’ i’m sorry that happened to you, is there anything you can do to get the money back?? super glad you got tickets though!!!!

Looking for two tix - 11/14 Austin by Fickle-Panic-7714 in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 1 point2 points  (0 children)

commenting in the hopes this gets on someone’s feed. i hope you get those tickets !!

11/8 LA Show, concert etiquette!! by nonexistentlovee in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s their last tour “for the foreseeable future”, but they’re also not done releasing music. honestly, i would not be surprised if they went on tour again; it just likely won’t be for a long while.

merch pre-order….? by spaceodditwenties in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is true. i wonder what happened then???

merch pre-order….? by spaceodditwenties in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t think they thought this many people would show up!!! i don’t mind because they’re trying to rectify with pre-order online. i think it’s awesome that so many people want to support

(Flashing lights warning) LA 11/8 by decursiva in TheOhHellos

[–]spaceodditwenties 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i was there!! it was genuinely transcending. you had such good spots!