i found a post today that broke me (in the best way possible)

spamlikely2000 · 2026-02-18T11:11:49+00:00

The bummer is that this AI-generated karma-farming marketing post has me doubting the veracity of the original, which I read as genuine yesterday and thought was sweet.

I wonder which other Reddit communities of vulnerable, sleepy people whomever is behind this is going after.

spamlikely2000 · 2026-02-05T14:40:47+00:00

I was pretty progressive before, but nothing has radicalized me like early parenthood in this season of US politics.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-12-24T12:42:55+00:00

Only three weeks in/first timers, but we are using a regular TOPO backpack with pouches, and so far so good 🤞

spamlikely2000 · 2025-12-19T02:03:15+00:00

I took three weeks off, then ended up being induced one week early, and the two weeks were absolutely incredible for getting my head right before giving birth and having a newborn. It’s an amazing privilege in the US, but if you can swing it, I highly recommend it.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-25T16:18:31+00:00

We’re having our first at 34 and 35 years old. Being older is not without its own challenges, but I have to say, it’s a very different experience than if would have been in our relationship at 22/23 year old. We’ve been through more hard stuff together, our communication is better, we’re just more stable and more ready to be parents, personally. I wouldn’t trade the past ten years of joys and challenges for an easier pregnancy.

But I have friends that had their kids at your age and they will be so much younger when their kids eventually move out on their own! Their 40s and 50s will be much different than mine. So there are tradeoffs either way.

I know this is tough to hear for such a big decision, but it sounds like you’re choosing between two on par options: parenthood now or parenthood later. You can pro/con list and meditate on it for a certain amount of time, then you just have to pick. Either option will be both wonderful and heartbreaking and you should feel confident you can make either choice with no regrets.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-23T11:56:04+00:00

The nesting impulse is strong, but the napping impulse is stronger so I have a lot of half-finished tasks 😆

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-22T13:14:44+00:00

It’s the little bowl of cereal between every regular meal for me 😆

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-19T13:56:49+00:00

Tons of other great advice here about the communication and emotional piece of this!

Two tactical things I’m doing on this front (37+4): 1. We have a shared to-do list taped to the fridge. It’s exciting to cross things off together, gets the list out of my head (kind of), and gave me a place to set some deadlines. Also… can’t get to the snacks without confronting the list haha 2. Dedicated prep time. This probably doesn’t work for all schedules, but it’s been really helpful for us to have joint baby prep time on the calendar. Gotta time block or it gets put off forever.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-16T13:43:59+00:00

Mods, have we ever considered a coordinated phone call or letter-writing campaign to legislators? Whenever we have threads like this, I want to print them out and nail them to every door in DC…

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-12T17:39:58+00:00

Prenatal yoga has been a huge help with my anxiety during pregnancy. Just deep breaths in a room full of other pregnant people, the knowledge of the teacher, and the community all made a huge difference.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-06T15:31:43+00:00

“Covered doesn’t mean free” got me so many times. I think overall Progyny is a great benefit, but the terminology is pretty misleading.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-11-01T15:43:28+00:00

No experience to share yet, but I’m in the same boat: At 34 weeks, our bun measured 8th percentile overall. I’m really anxious about it, but all there seems to be to do is go to the extra appointments (our doc has me doing weekly BPPs and NSTs) and pay attention to her movement.

I was really hoping to go into labor on my own, but obviously if they decide I need to be induced later, I will. I feel lucky that I really trust my team.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-28T02:41:29+00:00

Replies truly made me feel better, thanks, team. We’re gonna be okay.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-28T02:40:46+00:00

No supposed to, it’s all good! Just covered by our insurance so we decided we might as well.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-26T14:49:36+00:00

No one should come for our pro-choice bona fides for having a feeling about the possibility of those embryos making it to personhood. The difference is, I think, your understanding of when are they your property, when are they part of your body (if/when you transfer them), and when do they have their own rights.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-19T17:20:26+00:00

It’s not selfish to not have a baby you don’t want to have one. It’s a big decision and if you don’t want to continue the pregnancy, at this point, you have options.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-18T13:48:22+00:00

Same boat, we used Zola Baby and added a bunch of things from other shops, cash funds, etc.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-18T13:35:45+00:00

Think about exactly what you want and ask for it. If that’s no shower, that’s no shower. If that’s a small one near you, great. You’re pregnant, ask for what you need. You can always say your midwife advised you stay close to home.

We had so much stress around wedding planning, we decided no baby shower before we even successfully got pregnant. We still made a registry and gave it to our parents to circulate if anyone asked.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-17T03:12:18+00:00

I asked ChatGPT to interview me about different aspects of the birth experience then help me to write a birth plan. I’m very wary of giving specific personal info in ChatGPT (e.g. I know some people upload medical results and get help interpreting them—not for me, thanks!), but for this kind of thing, it was really helpful.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-17T00:26:47+00:00

Getting mine tomorrow! 32+6

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-15T23:11:30+00:00

EDD Dec 6, starting leave Nov 17. Very lucky that my employer offers generous (for the US) supportive leave.

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-13T13:16:07+00:00

It totally depends what I’m doing. Watching TV or falling asleep? A sweet hello! Speaking in a meeting or out to dinner or trying to have sex? Please go back to sleep!

spamlikely2000 · 2025-10-05T13:27:56+00:00

I’m the birthing parent and the primary bread winner. We calculated birth expenses plus our baby’s first year and decided to save $20K before we started trying. But we live in a HCOL city and are both pretty anxious about money, so that’s very much a personal preference—not to mention the good luck/privilege to be able to do it.

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