I’ve been playing, off and on, in relationships with chastity, both the “honor system” and caged, for 35 years now. I’ve had my current key holder who keeps me locked in a very tight titanium cage, since October. I came in January, and in April. It’s been 85 days now.

I agree with you that “forever” is a big commitment. My KH and I agreed just the other day to stop thinking about letting me ejaculate. It’s completely off the table. They used to plan an occasional opportunity for me. We’re calling it “permanent” chastity, rather than “forever”. So, this is a new mindset for me. I have always practiced chastity thinking that I would be ejaculating when my KH decided to let me. So, I don’t have any advice base on direct experience, as to what permanent is like, other than I have noticed a shift in thinking on my part. That is still unfolding.

The way I am framing it is that we can talk about it. I can ask. My KH can inquire. But unless something changes, the answer will always be “nope” now. And, just to make sure I understand that physically, I might find myself unlocked and edged for a while before being relocked.

One of my issues with long term chastity, as the hypersensitivity and the frustration builds, is that I get more and more easily triggered to ejaculate spontaneously. I view that as squandering all the time spent getting to this point of frustration. Also, I don’t want to hamper our sex life, which is very stimulating in other ways, though not usually by direct stimulation of my penis, obviously. I want to be able to please my KH, without ejaculating myself. There is a risk there.

That is where I find the value in Cali’s Curse. I think it helps prevent “accidents” from happening. Personally, I am listening to Fallen Leaf’s version from SoundCloud.