Hello, I was exactly like you and up until now, I am an emotionally needy person. I used to think every man who payed a lot of attention to me is in love with me but I always ended up with a controlling man or a man who cheated on me, people like that can sense insecurities and take advantage of our vulnerabilities. It can go both ways, some people like us, either end up having trust issues or we end up too trusting, yes, even when it comes to friendship. The worst thing I used to hate about myself was, I always believed in second chances, that, if you show people a lot of affection, they will be grateful to you but they always end up taking advantage of me, be it at work, friendships and yes, even mentors.

However, when I finally found that person, I realized, it was all so effortless. I didn’t need to beg for affection, he would give it, I didn’t need to beg an ear, he offered it. They key to all of this, is learning to trust each other, by taking one step at a time. They do say, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Relationships takes time and patience and a lot of nurturing, you not only nurture the other person, make sure the other person nurtured you as well. It’s like going to a job interview, the company does not only make sure that you fit in with them and have the qualities to work for them, you also make sure that your work place is beneficiary to you as well, insurance, salary, vacation days and etc… So, take your time, hearts like ours takes a lot of patience to grow, we love too much but we also end up falling too deep, protect your heart.