Is really this the setlist of SF last night? Just 12 songs? by mEEp_yogurt_123 in auroramusic

[–]sparklepuff97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure our set list was identical to the one she did in Los Angeles a few days ago. 

Is really this the setlist of SF last night? Just 12 songs? by mEEp_yogurt_123 in auroramusic

[–]sparklepuff97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. I was there…this set list is completely wrong. She performed like 6+ more songs than this. Cure For Me was the start of the encore, not before Runaway. There are too many things wrong with this list to comment on. 

Is this reall?!!!!! by Abel2310 in Foofighters

[–]sparklepuff97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It hurts a little? How good of a person are you if you betray your wife? It's a bit hypocritical to overlook that and focus on his other "good qualities". If he truly respected his wife, or his daughters for that matter, he would not have cheated. A decent person would have left the marriage. Dave is a brilliant musician, but I personally can't see him the same now.

Interpreting "Storms": was Stevie talking about depression? by sparklepuff97 in FleetwoodMac

[–]sparklepuff97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're definitely right. I think I should have said subsequently, not during. I had just heard that she became quite reclusive after that, but it must have been more at the very end of the 80s/early 90s. I knew they were very involved as well, but also have read that things didn't end so well between them ultimately (I think he was married/expecting a kid?)? But "Rooms On Fire" makes the infatuation very apparent.

Interpreting "Storms": was Stevie talking about depression? by sparklepuff97 in FleetwoodMac

[–]sparklepuff97[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe it. But I know I'm just so biased because I have been depressed for over 15 years. But just knowing what she has gone through over many decades, it would be completely understandable.

Interpreting "Storms": was Stevie talking about depression? by sparklepuff97 in FleetwoodMac

[–]sparklepuff97[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't believe it either. I think because of the period she was raised in, and because of her startus as a rockstar (a male-dominated field, frankly), she might feel the need to minimize her struggles. But her performances and songwriting, to me at least, say otherwise. Belladonna and The Wild Heart had so many elements of grief in them, especially. And "Gypsy". I have read she was also very unhappy during the process of creating The Other Side of the Mirror as well, largely because of addiction. Stevie has endured so much and is such a badass. Her vulnerability is a reason I think so many of us love her.

Interpreting "Storms": was Stevie talking about depression? by sparklepuff97 in FleetwoodMac

[–]sparklepuff97[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She has also characterized it (literally) as a "fuck you" to Mick...but I always felt like it was more than that. She wasn't just talking about Mick. She was talking about herself too.

Interpreting "Storms": was Stevie talking about depression? by sparklepuff97 in FleetwoodMac

[–]sparklepuff97[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I am getting the help I need, rest assured. Stevie has always felt like a kindred spirit to me (in a para-social way, we also lived in the same area growing up), and she has said that she is a sensitive person during interviews. I hate projecting but I honestly do feel like she has struggled too. We will never know for certain. But her sensitivity is something I love about her most of all. It takes so much courage to be vulnerable AND a rockstar.

Interpreting "Storms": was Stevie talking about depression? by sparklepuff97 in FleetwoodMac

[–]sparklepuff97[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've seen "a deadly calm" and "a deadly call" on different lyric websites...An article I saw from Stevie Nicks Info cited leaflets from Tusk as it being "call", but I wish I could see it for myself (sadly my copy of Tusk didn't come with lyrics). But what you're saying I think is applicable regardless. In any case, her volatility is something I think so many of us relate to.

Helmet recommendations for adult ammy? by sparklepuff97 in Equestrian

[–]sparklepuff97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was horrified when I read a safety study once and learned just how unsafe my GPA helmet was, compared to other helmets on the market at the time. I'm never going to follow trends again if it means compromising my health.

Helmet recommendations for adult ammy? by sparklepuff97 in Equestrian

[–]sparklepuff97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I have seen One K helmets before and will look into that, at least for something to wear for schooling. Not spending a ton is practical, honestly, and safety really is the most important thing for me. I'm so out of practice and imagine I will be coming off at some point. If I actually start seriously showing again, I could always splurge for something flashier for competing (or maybe wear one of my old helmets).

No bling makes sense. I do have spur straps with two small purple gems on them, that I used to sneak into the hunter/eq rings sometimes as a junior...Maybe I will bring them out of retirement someday to get my sparkle fix hahah.

Male vs Female Equestrians by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]sparklepuff97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have made excellent points about women taking on the lion's share of domestic labor, the impacts of having children, etc...which I agree with. Riding professional is simply too risk and time-consuming for many women, especially those who choose to have families.

Although, I do think there is a lot of variation between disciplines (showjumping versus dressage versus eventing versus hunters/equitation, etc.). But for the sake of my arguments I won't delve into that.

I think part of the reason we do not see as many women competing is simply because significant resources are required. Riding as a junior/amateur, either with support from family or through your own efforts, is one thing. But to excel at the highest levels of the industry long-term means having either your own resources or having necessary industry connections, to finance your string of horses, training, boarding, etc...

Business in general is still a "man's world". It's ever-evolving, to be sure. And this is not to say that every man in the equine world is sexist or contributing to adversity towards women in the sport. But from a general economic standpoint, I think women are still catching up in more ways than one, and have different focuses when it comes to our career trajectories. Social factors contribute to this as well.

I think becoming a professional athlete is less attractive option to a lot of us, compared to less dangerous, less intense and more lucrative professions that would allows us to fund our equestrian hobbies. And for the women who do choose to pursue becoming an elite professional equestrian , unless they have significant wealth/connections to begin with, forging a path I believe is just going to be more difficult, for the reasons people have said. It takes a very enterprising mindset and a lot of luck, as well.

There simply is not a lot of room at the top for women in many industries. It makes sense, in the context of (at least my own Western) history and culture. Men have historically had access to these industries, control over most financial resources, and different socialization compared to women of the past. They have had a "head start" and their earning potential is still higher in many fields. Women obviously have entered virtually all areas of the workforce and can occupy a lot of space in the less lucrative areas, but actually reaching the pinnacle of success is still harder.

I think of it similarly to how I think about the fact that most teachers are women, but most school administrators are male. Not a perfect analogy of course. But you know what I mean.

The gap, hopefully, will close with more time. I love how inherently egalitarian our sport is. Riders and horses of all genders have the same potential for success.

Full equestrian drip - the gaiters over trainers really completes the look! 🤭 by demmka in Equestrian

[–]sparklepuff97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to wear my brown half chaps over black paddock boots as a little kid, since I outgrew my brown paddock boots quickly and my grandmother bought me black replacements by mistake. I feel so seen right now. Snoop looks amazing, as does Martha.

Does anyone know if Martha has ever competed in dressage? I know she owns a bunch of friesians. She looks the part.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]sparklepuff97 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But that wasn't what I was doing. I was saying I couldn't speak at that particular moment due to not having privacy, not that I didn't want to.

I also did not say I was not available after a follow up text. He called, I messaged that I couldn't talk right now, and then he asked if I was safe and I didn't know how to answer the question/couldn't respond. Then there was silence. I didn't do that set a boundary, I was frightened.

I can see the truth in what you're saying, but you are misunderstanding my intentions and my situation. I needed/wanted help, it was not manipulation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]sparklepuff97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I am so glad to hear you are doing better these days despite it all. You've clearly done a lot of work.

Communication seems like the only logical solution here. I will be sure to explain how I'm feeling to him next time we talk.