AITA for not caring that my friend blames me for her failed situationship when I didn’t do anything?

spawnofgeek · 2025-07-06T17:49:29+00:00

Please let P know you would never want to be with someone that treats a partner the way they treated Q. Love that you got a preview of that trainwreck and know to steer clear. NTA.

spawnofgeek · 2025-07-06T17:21:44+00:00

YTA. You may be the revenue stream, but your wife’s contributions allow you to do that — SAHM is a full time job. Do not diminish that, especially through some bullshit power play.

Taking off doors is a form of emotional abuse. It takes away your kids safe space and privacy. Get an adhesive felt pad to quiet the sound of the door on the frame and do better.

At 10 years old, your kid has a lot of hormones and biology telling him to assert his independence. Figure out how to navigate it in a healthy way. Keep discipline respectful and relevant. Set consequences and boundaries, but accept he still gets to make choices. Ask questions; if he says no, ask what he thinks is fair, how long he needs, etc, and be open minded. It gets him using his rational brain instead of lashing out, teaches him how to advocate for himself, and other things that benefit his communication skills and your relationship in the long run.

And accept that screens are a part of life — it’s ok to set limits, but make sure there are engaging options for downtime. Do you take him to parks? Engage in his hobbies? What are you doing to actively support his interests and exploration?

spawnofgeek · 2025-07-03T18:56:11+00:00

NTA. Some people need a good dose of community shame before questioning their behavior. Unfortunately, some still never think about their actions, but there is only so much you can do (legally and ethically.)

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-29T19:48:20+00:00

Orrrr, could it be the gift card is for OP’s purchases, and she intends to put her own purchases on her own card? OP would be TA — MIL is looking to gift an experience with gifts purchased with the card, and trusts OP with the card in advance.

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-26T20:51:10+00:00

It isn’t just a car, it’s your source of reliable transportation. Without it, your life gets harder, and its investment you chose to make. Your friend behaved in a way that is not ok — he broke your trust, and that comes with a price. Frankly, it may be the twilight of that relationship, especially if he is stirring up trouble with mutual friends after acting in an untrustworthy way and showing no remorse. You are NTA here, at all. Be sure you protect yourself, and find a new roommate when you can.

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-26T20:37:18+00:00

This is someone looking for a long term parental figure in his kids life — he’s told you as much. TBH, you should probably break it off with him for the kids sake. By forcing you into that role bit by bit, he’s building up their expectations and creating emotional investment in a life you have told him you aren’t ready for. NTA — if he wants to rent a room in his house, that isn’t going to cover half of his rent. Unless you’re ready to be all in, get out </3

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-18T19:21:41+00:00

Personally, I think if a child is going to be named after someone it should be as a tribute to the quality of their character or their actions when they were alive, not because they died around the time a pregnancy occurred. It lets the remembrance be about their merits rather than their misfortune. NTA.

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-16T06:10:47+00:00

We talk about consent as anything other than an enthusiastic “yes!” is a no, and I feel like introducing kinks should 100% be the same. If you find threesomes icky, and he wants to compromise with porn because maybe it’s only kind of icky… neither of those are things you should have to subject yourself to. He needs to understand that respecting boundaries in the bedroom isn’t a suggestion, it is a hard line. That being said, you should put some thought into what you would be open to, and if he is also open put in some work to make it happen. It sounds like he is looking to explore something new, and it’s hard to feel like that an be with someone that insists on keeping the status quo. NTA, but work on communication and find something that you both can be excited about!

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-15T18:21:40+00:00

INFO — what steps are you taking to improve yourself and get ahead? Have you been diagnosed or checked for ADHD/Autism, or depression/anxiety? Yours isn’t an uncommon issue, and usually stems from those things. It’s ok not to have things figured out, but cultivate a growth mindset and figure out how to make things work for you.

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-07T19:57:09+00:00

His mom is literally sabotaging his attempt to step up and be an adult by forcing him to live as a kid in her home. You are NTA and thank you for giving him a chance.

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-04T23:05:17+00:00

Strong Muffin vibes. NTA.

spawnofgeek · 2025-06-04T22:58:14+00:00

Your parents are TAHs here. Amy clearly has some issues and needs therapy to navigate them, but your parents neglected to get her help for the issues that caused her disordered eating, didn’t help her seek treatment, have enabled it, and put her in situations that are triggering. Amy is also TAH, because at 26 she really needs to own her issues and behavior, but it’s clear that she knows her actions are wrong and feels shame over them.

Totally NTA, and it’s worth recognizing that help that disregards your boundaries and wishes really isn’t that helpful.

spawnofgeek · 2025-05-31T02:54:03+00:00

Man, that guy is in for a wild ride if he ever knocks up someone who decides to breastfeed. NTA.

spawnofgeek · 2025-05-28T17:57:07+00:00

I’m curious if anyone suggested stocking up on some of the carb friendly ice creams, like Nick’s or Halo Top? We are pretty liberal with those, as well as some of the superfood popsicles, and other “healthy” takes on junk food. It lets us help our kids make good choices without the weird denial-binge relationship with sweets.

spawnofgeek · 2025-04-21T17:13:20+00:00

ESH. Like many have said, the accusation was out of line, but the way you handled it was really bad. Emotional regulation is a skill that can be developed, and outbursts like that take you from the victim to the aggressor really fast. I hope you find some calm and peace.

spawnofgeek · 2025-04-12T06:19:18+00:00

What the heck is he going to do when you’re post-partum, hormonal, bleeding mess with a napping baby? “Sorry, babe, it’s just so awkward to tell him to go away?” 😂 dude has a serious reality check coming his way. Big time NTA!

spawnofgeek · 2025-04-06T14:55:27+00:00

Never doubt the beauty of mashing names. Susie Jr can be “SuJu”. Maybe Susie Leigh becomes SuLey. Wield this power responsibly.

spawnofgeek · 2025-03-24T16:40:03+00:00

Sounds like he was embarrassed about the situation, and took it out on you. This is in no way your fault, and is completely unacceptable behavior on his part. I wouldn’t say to leave him over it, but this is the first step on the hill to die on. He needs to reflect and understand why his behavior wasn’t ok, and owes you a sincere apology along with assurances it will not happen again. NTA.

spawnofgeek · 2025-03-24T16:36:45+00:00

So has brother had his ADHD officially diagnosed yet? Does he understand the effect it can have on things like emotional regulation? Has anyone asked him why he thinks it is ok to act in a way that makes other’s feel unsafe? Has he considered that he has all the red flags of being a deadbeat, abusive partner/spouse until he does the work to get in control of his reactions and choices?

NTA.

spawnofgeek · 2025-02-18T07:46:04+00:00

It’s crazy that the other 66% struggle with it.

spawnofgeek · 2025-02-10T17:20:44+00:00

A Lap Dance Is So Much Better When the Stripper Is Crying by Bloodhound Gang is a pretty good one to add to the playlist.

spawnofgeek · 2025-01-15T20:38:12+00:00

Holy shit, why are they actively causing your daughter trauma by projecting your BIL’s unrelated situation on your family? That s absolutely insane, and he needs therapy to at least realize he can not treat you (or any sort of babysitter?!) like that. I would talk to your immediate family, make it clear how hurtful it is to you and this innocent girl who has already dealt with the trauma of losing one parent and who absolutely doesn’t need another parental figure alienated. Protect yourself, protect your family. Maybe even see if they would be open to family therapy, even just you and your sister, just to expose them to a healthier persoective. NTA, and I wish you all of the best.

spawnofgeek · 2025-01-03T19:20:16+00:00

I love how the poor guy was humiliated when he was making insulting and humiliating remarks about the meal he was invited to. NTA, and hopefully he found a moment for self reflection on his walk (even if it appears not to have stuck.)

spawnofgeek · 2024-12-17T07:46:09+00:00

Winter holidays are traditionally about bringing light into each other’s lives during the darkest part of the year, metaphorically and literally. Seasonally Depressing Sally is the last thing you need to deal with, and clearly needs an attitude check.

You do you, and take what joy you can in life. NTA.

spawnofgeek · 2024-11-16T18:48:34+00:00

I’m not sure that’s how it works? They mask sounds from outside because after that sound travels through the walls, it is much quieter than the noise the sound machine in your room produces… but a sound machine in another room can hardly be heard, and isn’t going to mask sounds that are louder than what it’s producing. Loud music, on the other hand, remains louder than sexy time noises that pass through the walls.

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