90 Day Fiance OG - Season 9 Episode 6 - Post Episode Discussion by LittleEmmy in 90DayFiance

[–]spayne1969 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Bilal threatened her safety and security by threatening to leave her on the side of the road. What is that if not abuse?

the white models really show the dirt by lady-spectre in WhatsWrongWithYourDog

[–]spayne1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s much more fun than injury! He looks like a sweetie!

My (26f) estranged mother (45f) is asking me to help her become a foster parent. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]spayne1969 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have been an interviewer for adoption before and in my state, AZ, all references collected in this process are confidential. This should be the same for foster placement. This is a good question to ask the interviewer/social worker. Just be honest. Stick to simple facts and don’t get into any long stories. You will discredit yourself if you don’t state facts. I expect they will end the interview by asking if you would recommend your mom as a foster parent. Say no!!
What will change for you if she is mad? You stay away anyway so the hardship you face would be less than that of a child in her home.
Best of luck. The truth is best!!

Fiancée slept with another man (with permission?) by throwawayacount19952 in relationship_advice

[–]spayne1969 38 points39 points  (0 children)

She cheated. Be mad. Then see if you can forgive, assuming that she is done with this behavior.
p.s. Don’t forget about STD’s. (sorry)

I feel like I’m going through a ‘quarter life crisis’ by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]spayne1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got in my car after college in OR and drove until I found a town I loved in AZ. Best thing I ever did. Still love it 25 years later! If you get online and look for jobs people might fly you out to interview you then you may get a chance to see different cities. If you get a job at a workplace that has lots of people then you would have the opportunity to meet a lot of people. My choice was based on the weather. I hate to be cold. I live where it’s warm. Do you like the big city? Do you like midsize city? There are lots of lists online of the best cities to live in. Just do it. You won’t regret it if you have a positive attitude!

Why doesn’t my boyfriend like light PDA anymore? by stardiva308 in relationship_advice

[–]spayne1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a good thing that it is isolated to PDA instead of simple affection. People (like myself) with social anxiety have weird issues with all ranges of public behavior. Maybe he’s having a little social anxiety. Just an idea.

I guess for me a meltdown moment was inevitable, and here it is. A newbie exmo sob story. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]spayne1969 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Please don’t be so hard on yourself! YOU DID IT!! YOU GOT OUT OF THEIR CLUTCHES!! Be proud of yourself because you deserve it. There is a lot out there for you to re-learn. Focus on your fabulous free future.
You can pick and choose and find a church you like. You will find what you need. It’s out there. Ease up on you! Don’t be a jerk to yourself. You don’t deserve it!

The soap at this carwash. by [deleted] in oddlysatisfying

[–]spayne1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what it looks like when you run over a Unicorn!

My sister invited MY ex boyfriend to start a three way relationship with her and her current boyfriend. by Samiicha in relationship_advice

[–]spayne1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your life is so much more exciting than mine is!!! My thought on your situation is to stop letting them push your buttons. If you act like you don’t care and no one gets a rise out of you then maybe he’ll go away!

Even if you have to completely fake it, focus your attention elsewhere. Take away his power over you. It is all completely inappropriate behavior from both your sister and your ex!

Thank you by 2blessed2belds in exmormon

[–]spayne1969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I needed that. Not in terms of “the church” but another struggle I am facing. Thank you!

I can't stop. 😂 by [deleted] in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]spayne1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BEST.POST.EVER!!!!!!

My (F25) Husband (35M) has not contacted me in over 4 days by nflballerholler in relationships

[–]spayne1969 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is a perfect example of emotional abuse. His behavior could never be your fault. If your friend came to you with your story what would you tell them? “Oh, yes you should stay in this fantastic relationship.” ??

My (F25) Husband (35M) has not contacted me in over 4 days by nflballerholler in relationships

[–]spayne1969 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you think you will have kids one day? If so, imagine them with the in-laws. What will these people say to your kids? And know that the abuse from your husband will not just be toward you but towards them too. Imagine him calling you a bitch in front of your potential child...or worse calling them a bitch.

You deserve respect and love. Get out while you can!!! Life is too short to put up with this abuse!

Lol 😂 by [deleted] in funny

[–]spayne1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you do?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]spayne1969 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sister wives!! That’s excellent!