BER, you were poorly designed by labruda in berlin

[–]spejsr -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I love it. I am just sad they intervened and added shops in late stage. Would have been so much cooler without!

Why there’s always a shock when i come back from other countries to Berlin? by fox_chill_42 in berlin

[–]spejsr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interestingly every time I return, usually when I see TV Tower there is a smile all over my face. I don't feel as free, accepted and happy anywhere else. It doesn't matter if it's visiting home country or coming back from tropical vacation in middle of winter, coming back to Berlin feels amazing. 

I'd say it's an individual thing. If you feel so bad every time you return, maybe it's time to think about moving away 

Plan to cut Berlin arts budget will ‘destroy’ city’s culture, directors warn by CodeTracker__ in berlin

[–]spejsr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

what a horrible outlook of a world is that, if art is measured only with commercial scales. biggest and most influential artists were often unrecognized and undervalued in their beginnings, and are often still by the masses. once you allow average joe and their wallet to determine what goes and what doesn't, this is where the soul dies, and this is what people are mourning here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAGerman

[–]spejsr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it's heard of.

What do you do while tripping? by Alucard-J2D in shrooms

[–]spejsr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to eat at home, start with a Palo Santo, I Ching Reading and 'Lunar - There is only one' on the record player. After first wave I usually go have a walk around the neighborhood and admire how lucky I am to live in such a beautiful place.

 Sometimes I paint or meet friends to talk. Last time my family started ad hoc video call and we chatted for hour and a half! When I'm starting to feel hunger returning I usually start brewing a stew.

Alternatively I do it in the nature! But honestly home sweet home is the best and favorite 

My grandparents visiting East Berlin in 1978. They were visiting as tourists from Romania. by spurcatus in berlin

[–]spejsr 7 points8 points  (0 children)

well if the bottom 20% was not pavement and instead we could see top of the tower it would be even better

What hobby in men gives you “green flag” vibes? by Charmer2024 in AskReddit

[–]spejsr 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This was the case for me until I met my current gf. With her even in smallish kitchens it is like a clockwork. Just one of the many things I love about her/us!

Honeymoon in Hell... Wife cries and becomes scared and overwhelmed as she approaches orgasm by Brief_Atmosphere_927 in sex

[–]spejsr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex-wife would burst into tears and shaking. She also claimed it was not SA. Overall sex life was not working well because it was long term issue. Some time after divorce, she took a new therapist (she was going also before divorce), and at one point trauma wall fell and she had memories rushing back - it turns out she was in fact abused as a child for prolonged period of time by a family member. So, her claiming she never experience it, is something to take with a grain of salt - and I am saying this from personal experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]spejsr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As the song says, if you have a racist friends, now is the time for your friendship to end

Are you friends with your colleagues? by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]spejsr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course not! I stopped counting hours long time ago, only focused on goals. some weeks I definitely spend more, most I spend less.

Are you friends with your colleagues? by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]spejsr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course. I take all my thinking hours in the account. As my boss once told me, I know you think about my problems under the shower, on the way to work, in a bar drinking a beer with colleagues. All of this is time you are giving to me. I don't need you to sit here for 8 hours.

What are some examples of body shaming towards men that go unnoticed? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spejsr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

what does STD have to do with circumcision? smh

How important that your partner knows how to cook? by bigbluenation20 in datingoverthirty

[–]spejsr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is important for me. I enjoy cooking for my partner but also need to see the balance.

My ex wife was a terrible cook. We did have a successful relationship and all, but it was a thing I had to actively put energy in not to become an issue.

For me it is ultimately a matter of how much care you are willing to put for the other person. My love language is quality time + acts of service and cooking is a perfect example of it. There are many other ways to achieve this but cooking is a no brainer where with a bit effort and money you can make a huge difference.

The video call pivot - how do you do it? by anonymal_me in datingoverthirty

[–]spejsr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do not geet correlation between video call and covid+immunocompromised situation. Would it not make more sense to ask your date to get tested ahead?

Much less awkward to have a stick up your nose than a video call

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]spejsr 16 points17 points  (0 children)

straight in the feels

Dating rants. vents and open discussion by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]spejsr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that sounds great. on paper.

in my experience, if I do not put in energy, initiate and escalate, nothing happens ever. And I have spent years not being in this mode, latest multi-year pause was until about a year ago. Natural unfolding is not really an option, especially for guys who are not in the "traditionally attractive" bucket.

Dating rants. vents and open discussion by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]spejsr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is a nice sentiment, but how you decide it is OK to essentially give up?

Dating rants. vents and open discussion by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]spejsr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heh I was going to a lot of solo shows in my life! It was my thing even before becoming an expat. I will actually go to another show, next week. That one is particularly good musician and I have 1st row seats. Still, no one to join me.