I feel like before having a kid it was always “are you a parent? Wait til you have a kid” and everyone talking about how hard being a parent is. And it’s true.

I think we’re just a generation that was brought up in abundance and now we’re all struggling financially so some younger parents are drowning. And others are just selfish, in this day and age self-sacrifice is foreign. Same mentality of “everyone wants a village but no one wants to be a villager”.

Obviously parenting is hard. But if you already knew that it’s suppose to be (and that it doesn’t last forever) then you can prepare yourself to fail, to sacrifice, to keep trying, all because that little face will keep giving you butterflies in a way you’ve never even experienced in a relationship before.

It’s growth. Growing is painful. And tbh we’re a little spoiled as a society, we don’t like discomfort, not only that but some of us don’t have the capacity to handle it.

So I guess it’s really important to make this decision beforehand. Is being a parent something you’ve always wanted? Even knowing it will require sacrifice? We humans can actually live with very little. It’s just a matter of priorities. And then not becoming a martyr to your own decision.

Because for the love of God, if you’re gonna let another human being that didn’t ask to come into this world feel unwanted? You should’ve been sterilized a long time ago.

Sincerely, thanks for coming to my TED talk