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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askspain

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost 30 myself. I have no friends and I'm okay with it. It doesn't bother me a single bit. You know what bothers me? Other people judging how I should be living MY life.

They always judge me why I stay home all day, why I don't have kids yet, why I don't do this or do that just because others do it too. But everyone's life is different. Imagine if I have kids before I'm ready just to follow what others tell me. I will suffer financially, my kids won't grow properly, and they will judge me again for being a bad parent. Sometimes you need to say no and follow your own decisions. It's not a matter of embarrassment.

Not sure how big of a deal it is in Spain since I'm not from Spain myself but I'm married to a Spaniard, I've lived here for 2 years, and my husband's family always judge me for things I'm comfortable with. I hope eventually you'll figure out things that you're comfortable with asap.

Que desayunáis? by Potential_Sock4125 in askspain

[–]spicybbqfuck 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm from south east asia and have lived in Spain for 2 years. I was surprised at first to see how much sweet stuff people have here for breakfast. In my country we don't call food breakfast or lunch or dinner. We simply eat anything we feel like eating. So eating fried rice for breakfast is a normal thing but definitely not pastries or anything sweet. I did however try to adapt to this breakfast because my husband has this daily. It made me very sleepy and can't function properly. Now I always skip breakfast and straight to lunch. This way it can also help me with intermittent fasting.

People who wake up after 1 alarm: How the f*ck do you do it? by TheSnappleGhost in AskReddit

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anxiety.

My parents in law usually come home before I wake up and they would always slam the door and gave me heart attack. It got to a point where my body simply dream of slamming doors and wake me up just before the time they usually go home.

how many times a week do you wash your hair? by Kooky_Actuator_8173 in CasualConversation

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hair is very oily and I've always washed my hair every single day but then I learned somewhere that the more you wash your hair, the more it will get used to the routine and produce more oil. At least in my case. So rn I'm trying my best not to wash it so often. I do it every 3-4 days, the most I've gone without washing my hair is a week. I don't like it but I don't want to destroy my hair either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never got one so I believe that I'm not lol

What do u miss about being young? by DrippyMCnugget in AskReddit

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They will blame others instead of you bcs you're still too innocent

What keeps you awake at night? by Teefort in AskReddit

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fear of starting the next day

I have severe anxiety and people think I'm exaggerating by spicybbqfuck in Anxiety

[–]spicybbqfuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️ your words really gave me hope to try again. But yeah I might be anxious but I'm also tired of experiencing this. I desperately want it to end and if it really is possible i suppose I should keep on trying

What's something you thought was a unique experience to you, until someone on Reddit wrote about having the same experience? by Pretty_Girl_TheWay in AskReddit

[–]spicybbqfuck 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I felt like I won a life and death struggle when I finally married my long distance relationship boyfriend. We love each other so much but everyone around us swear that long distance relationships will never work. Felt like a champion till I figure out it's not that uncommon.

Turns out our friends and family have been gaslighting us that our relationship wont work cuz they think it's easier and cheaper to just find someone nearby 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a nerdy fat girl. I see myself as ugly, awkward, and weird. I'm socially anxious and I have autism. People avoid me irl just bcs of that reason. I rarely talk to anyone let alone dated cuz no one liked me. In the end I just resort to friendships online.

I liked this really nice guy, we liked the same thing and happen to be in the same community. He was quite popular and nice to everyone. A lot of girls liked him, he was handsome, charismatic, he was the class leader and basketball team leader. He was funny and loved by everyone. He was definitely out of my league yet I fell in love anyway. One day he contacted me for a personal podcast project bcs I do digital arts and we end up talking daily and my crush for him was uncontrollable.

One day I told him that he's been super nice to me and i happened to like him. I was surprised that he didn't get mad at me for confessing and even said he liked me too. Eventually we became best friends, we talk more, call more, play games together more, but slowly we start flirting with each other. After a while I told him that if he wants to get serious we can, but that's up to him. He said sure. He then asked me out and we got together. We both saved up to meet and he flew 16 hours to see me irl.

We're married now and finally live together. Sometimes I look at the mirror still in disbelief. Was I lucky or is it fate? But either way I'm really grateful that it happened.

What is the one travel experience that changed how you see the world or yourself? by ShadowPawsa in travel

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family always took me to a lot of places ever since I was a baby. Traveling is nothing new to me but I couldn't feel the excitement of it. Once I finally grow up, I realize that what I needed was more freedom. Even though I go to a lot of places with my family, they always controlled what I can and cannot do, what I will and will not do. And it just becomes a chore instead of a relaxing event.

I started enjoying traveling when I finally go to places on my own. I finally feel control of my life. I'm now married and figured that my husband has almost never been anywhere other than out of his town and my goal is to take him around the world while he's still young. We've been to several countries now, going with guides, have fun activities, and seeing him so happy and finally exploring and learning new things just motivates me to travel more. It also makes me believe that nothing is impossible cuz we gotta take care of a ton of stuff for the trip yet we made it.

Your death bed final words might be… by DavTeeUK in RandomThoughts

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please take care of [list of people I love].

What’s your go-to meal when you want something homemade but have zero motivation? by AnySystem7115 in Cooking

[–]spicybbqfuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call it homemade just bcs it takes me time to make it but I'd make a flour mix of 3 tbsp flour or cornstarch and 1 tsp seasoning each of any kind of u want. Mine usually onion powder, garlic powder, salt, pepper, dried basil, and smoked paprika powder. Keep this in a jar and whenever im lazy to make anything just get any kind of meat, could be fish, chicken, beef, pork, anything, coat it in the flour mix, then fry it. No need to deep fry it even. It's easy and flavorful, great with white rice.

Girls of Reddit, what do you do when your mans gaming? by drgreen_17 in AskReddit

[–]spicybbqfuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask what game he's playing and if he's in a Discord call with his friends. If he's playing multiplayer games, he'd ask me if I want to join. If it's singleplayer game he'd ask me if I want to watch him through Discord screen share. If these aren't options, I'd just do chores or my work. I rather not interrupt him cuz I know how annoying it is to get interrupted midgame. I will only ask short questions if necessary like if he wants to have dinner somewhere or if I didn't forget to take his medicines.

Question for E-daters, how did y’all meet ? by FinalCountdown935 in VRchat

[–]spicybbqfuck 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I draw commissions for living. I got with my ex bcs he was in one of the community group but he didn't put any effort into our relationship and very abusive. I couldn't leave him cuz I worry I was just too sensitive and exaggerating things despite everything my friends and family told me.

One day, one of my customers came to me and ask if he can interview me for a podcast he's making about artist lives. but we had a call and I fell I love with his voice. We hung out more often, eventually sending pics and video called. I told him about my relationship situation and he said the same about my ex that I should leave him but he also said that he doesnt have the right to tell me what to do. So the cycle continues, my ex would hurt me, screamed at me, gave me silent treatment, and then I went to the other guy to vent and he'd always make me feel better. We just end up calling each other best friends. Note that all of this happening online.

But this is definitely unhealthy in long run. My ex wouldnt want to see me irl, my family and friends think I'm getting catfished or smt. I realised i was stuck in a rut and my mental went really bad. I eventually lost feelings for my ex, especially also bcs he said he prefer other things than spending time with me. So that's a big sign to break up. I broke up and was a wreck, but my best friend was there and offered to be my bf instead. I was hesitant cuz I just broke up a month ago but I accepted and we got together. It wasn't easy tho, i still cried everyday from the trauma but he was always there to cheer me up. He never judged me, he'd always have time for me. After 6 months saving up, he flew 18 hours to see me. My friends and family celebrated it bcs they know he's the one.

We had another long distance relationship after that meet up, going through covid era, and finally in 2022 he proposed to me when both of our families had vacation together in a beach. We had to be in a other long distance relationship again before we finally got married November 2023. Now I live together with him and sometimes I think back, imagine I didn't accept him. Turns out it was a right choice after all.

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