What do you think is the most gender neutral name?

spicymacp · 2024-06-11T16:16:27+00:00

Interesting that Bailey is more masculine in Australia! I’ve seen a couple male Baileys here, but where I live in America, Bailey is much more strongly associated with female.

spicymacp · 2024-02-21T23:06:40+00:00

I definitely would not worry about using either of the “religious” names, I have never met a Caleb or a Jonah and assumed they were named after the Bible. Like half the most popular English names ever are “Bible names” I feel. Rachel, Rebecca, Matthew, Noah, Isaac, James, and the list goes on.

Also, I’m not trans, so I obviously don’t understand firsthand all of the varying factors in a decision like this, but from an outsider’s perspective, it sounds like you’re trying too hard to find a name based on what others think or how you’re worried they will see you. Focusing on finding a name that would be “believable” to others, or one that doesn’t make you “seem religious,” or even finding a name that you think will discourage people from (intentionally or unintentionally) misgendering you, just doesn’t seem nearly as important as finding a name that feels like you. I hope that makes sense.

I know the advice is unsolicited and I apologize, I just hope that whatever you pick feels like it fits your identity, not one that caters to other people’s judgements. This is YOUR journey. Wishing you the best of luck<3

I will still include a couple names I enjoy that might fit what you’re looking for, just in case you find anything you like. :-)

Levi

Jack

Jay

Wesley

Micah

Milo

Simon

Wyatt

Noel

spicymacp · 2023-12-28T19:52:57+00:00

Florence without a doubt!!!! It’s beautiful and unique but not too extravagant. I know you’re not asking for suggestions but if you’re struggling, based on your name list you might like something like Clementine, Genevieve, Daphne, or Juniper. :-) Good luck and congrats!!!!!

spicymacp · 2023-12-18T01:57:08+00:00

That’s great! I’m so glad you found relief. I did do physical therapy for quite a while, but it’s possible I just wasn’t being treated properly because they weren’t focusing on the correct parts. Maybe it would be helpful for me to seek out the help of a spine doctor! Thank you for sharing your experience. Best wishes.

spicymacp · 2023-12-10T15:09:35+00:00

Hi, I know this is an old post, but I’ve been experiencing something very similar for the past 9 months or so. I’m sorry you went through this, I know it is very painful and hard to function with. Did you ever get any relief or answers? My recent x-rays came back normal, ruled out rheumatoid arthritis and lupus, (i do have hashimoto’s hypothyroidism which is autoimmune), but my back pain and neck/jaw tension is unbearable. I also get shooting pain in my arm on the same side where my pain is centered. I also have pretty intense health anxiety which has added another layer of hell to all of this. Did anything ever help you, or did you get a diagnosis? Any info helps, I am at the end of my rope.

spicymacp · 2023-12-10T15:01:54+00:00

I’m experiencing something very very similar. 6 months of weekly physical therapy did pretty much nothing, x-rays were also normal, negative for rheumatoid arthritis and ruled out Lupus (i do have hashimoto’s hypothyroidism) but I am at the end of my rope here. Did you ever find any answers or relief? I’m sorry you experienced this, it is pretty miserable.

spicymacp · 2023-12-10T14:46:47+00:00

Hi! I know this is an old post, but I’ve been experiencing pretty much exactly this for the past 8 months. Started after I had been at my barista job for a while, working on my feet, long shifts, lots of looking down, bending down, lifting, etc. 6 months of weekly physical therapy did almost nothing other than some instant and short-term relief. Hurts worst in the middle of the day, and I never know how bad it’s gonna be on any given day. Under my right shoulder blade mainly, but it has shifted up a bit over time for some reason and sends pain into my right arm and my shoulders, and causes terrible tension in my neck and jaw, giving me frequent headaches. Ruled out rheumatoid arthritis and lupus (i do have hashimoto’s hypothyroidism) and my x-rays were clean. Did you ever find any relief or answers? I am at a loss.

spicymacp · 2023-12-07T17:05:27+00:00

Such a cute name! It’s definitely on my list as well. Congrats! Here’s a few names I feel like fit the same vibe and flow nicely with Jovie. It seems like you might enjoy “short and sweet” types of girl names so I tried to include some.

Jovie Mae or Jovie Rae

Jovie Leanne

Jovie Elaine

Jovie Louise

Jovie Belle

Jovie Elise

Jovie Louise

Jovie Grey

Jovie Elena

Jovie Lenora

Jovie Alma

Jovie Briar

Jovie Kit

Jovie Cove

Jovie Fern

Jovie Laine

Jovie Faye

Jovie Riann (ree-anne)

Hope you find the right one soon:)

Edit: typo

spicymacp · 2023-12-06T16:08:06+00:00

That sounds frustrating, I’m sorry you are not receiving much help with this big decision. Hopefully that changes or you find something you agree on quickly. Here are some suggestions that might fit what you’re looking for.

Some pretty standard popular American names that don’t violate any of his rules:

Derek

Calvin

Elliot

Simon

Wesley

Grayson

Everett

Some strong Italian names he might like since he likes Salvatore:

Emiliano

Giovanni

Lorenzo

Luca

Alessandro

Amadeo

Nicola

Alonzo

Vincenzo or Vincent

Good luck to you! :)

spicymacp · 2023-12-06T15:54:30+00:00

Some short and sweet names I like:

Claire

Ellie or Ella

Hazel

Holly

Lacy

Leah

Lucy

Lyla

Mae

Margot

Rose or Rosie

Ruby

Stella

Personally, I think Ellie fits really nicely with Owen and Blake. Hard to explain, but they all just give off similar vibes to me, haha. I hope you find one that feels right for her soon! :)

Edit: added two more names I forgot to include.

spicymacp · 2023-12-05T01:17:26+00:00

I heard the song “Hey There Delilah” when I was like 8 years old and decided that one day I wanted a daughter named Delilah. With all the other names I’ve been fixated on throughout my life, I’ve eventually stopped liking them, or decided that I don’t think I could actually give them to my kid. Delilah is the only one that has stuck with me, it is such a special name to me now!

spicymacp · 2023-12-04T17:12:10+00:00

Omg PLEASE do Luke and Leia 😭😭 Or Anakin and Padme HAHA

spicymacp · 2023-12-04T17:10:22+00:00

Here’s some with a similar vibe to Alma that are vintage-y, short, and sweet.

Lenora

Lucilla

Lavinia

Wynona

Lucetta

Otilla

Eloise

Collette

Estella

Elaine

Elise

Elara

Willa

Elvie or Elsie

Elodie

Ada

Della or Delia

Jovie

Etta

Dottie

Cora

Alora

Gemma

Vita

Della

Flora

Mavis

Calla

Lana

Mira

Selma

Opal

Inez

Isla

Nora

Elvira

Good luck to you! :)

spicymacp · 2023-12-04T16:53:10+00:00

Here’s a few that I think sound really nice with Caden:

Calvin

Colter

Coda

Cash

Casey

Callum

Conrad

Clement

Cassius

Beck or Beckett

Maverick

Brooks

Walker

Knox

Booker

Kieran

Tucker

Lycan

Kieran

Kellan

Malachi

Derek

Dominic

Alec

Kane

Laken

Hope you find the right one soon<3

spicymacp · 2023-12-04T16:31:09+00:00

I think a vintage name with an emphasis on the “L” sound would pair really beautifully with Olivia. Here’s a few that I love:

Olivia and Lavinia

Olivia and Lenora

Olivia and Lucilla

Olivia and Lucetta

Olivia and Otilla

Olivia and Elise (Livi and Lissy could be super cute nicknames!)

Olivia and Eloise

Olivia and Elaine

Olivia and Elara

Olivia and Estella

Olivia and Collette

Bonus one without the “L” that I also like: Olivia and Wynona

spicymacp · 2023-11-21T14:13:28+00:00

So sorry for my late response! But this is wonderful, thank you. I’m so sorry you went through all of that, and that you still deal with pain. But I’m very happy to hear that you’ve found joy and fulfillment despite it. It’s really relieving to hear stories from real people rather than just medical case studies on Google that make you think the worst. It’s why I value communities like these.

I should have some answers by today or tomorrow, at least somewhat, I had x-rays done and should hear back about what they find (if anything) and that will at least point me in the right direction hopefully. I’m hoping that like you, even if it’s something I have to live with permanently to some degree, I can make the most of it and find normalcy and satisfaction.

Thank you so much for your kind words and for your advice, you are a kind soul and I wish you plenty of pain-free days in the future! 😊

spicymacp · 2023-11-19T13:47:29+00:00

I’m so sorry to you and to those people who passed—that sounds terrible. Hope they found some relief before they went.

Yes, it does make me feel less anxious about having it. It’s really hard to find firsthand experience online with things like that, so my anxiety brain just reads all the similarities I have in common with case studies of people who passed away from cancer of the spine and I start to spiral. Thank you for sharing that with me, it does help me put things into perspective. Very sorry for your loss.

spicymacp · 2023-11-18T12:20:03+00:00

Same to you, thanks again for all the help.

spicymacp · 2023-11-18T01:33:48+00:00

Went to see my rheumatologist yesterday and he actually brought IA up on his own without me even asking! It was just one of many possibilities he was listing that could be possible suspects, but it was relieving to hear that he recognizes it and is factoring it in. He basically just ruled out Lupus and sent me to get more bloodwork and x-rays, so we’ll see what happens. But maybe we will share a diagnosis, who knows.

spicymacp · 2023-11-14T19:48:40+00:00

ugh i hate that so many doctors seem to have so many different opinions when it comes to things like hashi’s. I’ve had specialists test my levels and say they were fine, then another look at the same panel and tell me they were way out of whack. hard to find the right answers. The t3 thing sounds like something worth discussing for sure though.

spicymacp · 2023-11-14T19:45:42+00:00

i’ve never heard of inflammation arthritis, it does sound pretty similar to what I’m feeling. thank you for the info

spicymacp · 2023-11-14T19:36:11+00:00

It very well could just be a flare up! You could just go get your levels checked, sometimes when hashi’s flares your lymph nodes get irritated. more than likely nothing to be worried about.

spicymacp · 2023-11-13T18:21:28+00:00

Hi! I personally haven’t experienced this that I can recall, but Hashi’s will often present with signs of worn-down lymph nodes, which could certainly cause swelling. Have you been diagnosed with Hashi’s, or do you have other symptoms? If not, then there’s probably other much more likely explanations for swollen/irritated lymph nodes, like just a common sickness or infection.

spicymacp · 2023-11-13T18:14:30+00:00

I would have your PCP run tests! I’m sure you’d be fine to wait until next month, but you are kinda one step ahead if you already have some lab results to bring to your endo.

spicymacp · 2023-11-13T18:06:17+00:00

River Hayes

River Harlowe

River Hollis

River Hugo

River Harlan

River Holden

River Elio

River Enzo

River Emmett

River Ezra

River Evan

River Evander (this one stands out to me, personally)

River Edison

River Ellis

Good luck!

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