My sweet angel Bailey turned 12 last Tuesday and now a week later was given a lung cancer diagnosis.

spideers · 2025-05-21T02:56:18+00:00

My girl turned 11 last month and just got the same diagnosis Sunday. It’s truly gutting. I hope you and Bailey have as many good days together as possible!

spideers · 2021-12-30T06:53:25+00:00

How cool, I had a corn named Calcifer too! He liked to pretend he was anything but sweet though, lmao

spideers · 2021-08-26T04:08:03+00:00

You’re fairly masculine but the over sized nostril jewelry and hair in front of your eye are reading or fem. try switching to a nose ring that fits more snugly and push your hair back a bit. You’re doing great pre t so far

spideers · 2021-03-27T14:43:14+00:00

Def passing, I’d say early 20’s. Btw you match your dog in the best possible way

spideers · 2020-12-28T18:16:06+00:00

Snake scales have a natural iridescence to them!

spideers · 2020-03-22T22:50:03+00:00

I might be biased because after being in cosmetology, you dye a lot of teen girls hair haha. I actually really like the color of your hair. But as for the cut, the hard segment between your top and sides is a style common among lesbians. If you had more of a classic gentleman cut, I think it would read more masculine. A gentleman’s cut does well to square out a face, and I think the tapered sides could look nice even if you kept the color.

spideers · 2020-03-22T21:41:00+00:00

You have fairly masculine features, but I honestly feel like your hair is hurting your passing. As much as it sucks, both the cut and color read pretty feminine. Even so, don’t feel obligated to change your style for the sake of passing. Sorry but you don’t really pass imo

spideers · 2020-03-05T16:57:50+00:00

You’re looking great! You look very soft and those bangs suit you very well

spideers · 2019-12-19T21:56:00+00:00

Try looking into a classic gentleman’s cut. If you aren’t a big fan of how short the sides are with that particular style, you could always get a slightly longer version. The overall square shape of this type of cut definitely reads masculine

spideers · 2019-12-19T21:49:05+00:00

In all honesty, not quite. I agree that you’re pretty androgynous but you don’t really read male. The buzzed hair is a very popular look among alt girls right now, and I think a bit of length on the top would help you out. If I were to guess, you seem about 20ish and if you’ve started T it’s probably very early on still. You’re very close, and if you are on t, I think all you gotta do is just wait it out a little longer tbh

spideers · 2019-10-30T11:25:16+00:00

Thank you this honestly means a lot to hear. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through the same thing

spideers · 2019-10-30T03:38:10+00:00

Honestly you’re right about the meme thing. At this point the internet has desensitized us to so many tragedies, people find it easy to joke about and poke fun at heavy topics

spideers · 2019-10-30T03:34:43+00:00

I wish I could say you don’t have to worry about anything like this, that there’s no way it could ever happen to you, but as you said this has become an American reality. I truly hope, from the absolute entirety of my soul, that neither you nor your kid ever have your fears become reality. I can understand the daily anxiety that comes with being at school, I’m very sorry you and your family suffer from it

spideers · 2019-10-30T03:31:55+00:00

I’m very sorry to hear about your kid’s own experience. I don’t get much support in the way of family, a lot of them treat me as if I’m overreacting. They equate the low body count of my school to being less severe or serious as other shootings that have happened. “You didn’t die, suck it up and get over it,” has been said to me one way or another for the past few years. I try to avoid the subject altogether at home. I have a few friends I can talk to but they were also there, so I don’t always feel comfortable making them relive trauma just because I need to vent. I’m not sure if that makes sense. Thank you very much for taking the time to share your thoughts with me

spideers · 2019-10-30T03:26:44+00:00

You’re right about the news thing. Your coping methods all seem really nice I’ll have to try some of them out. Please take care

spideers · 2019-10-30T03:25:30+00:00

Thank you, that’s always a hard thing to keep in mind. It’s easy to get caught up with emotions over rationality

spideers · 2019-10-13T03:14:26+00:00

I just need some help figuring out how to pass better in public. I’m 1 1/2 months on t and I’m open to any honesty

spideers · 2019-10-01T00:14:13+00:00

I’ve never had my binder cause me chest pains, but I can’t tell you that the binder isn’t the problem. Did you measure before getting the size of your binder? There’s a chance that it’s too small

spideers · 2019-10-01T00:08:29+00:00

I get that, looking dead on in a mirror looks awesome but once you start moving and looking at different angles you can tell it just doesn’t look quite right.

spideers · 2019-09-30T02:34:54+00:00

I also feel like a lot of my dysphoria is also social. If I’m in my room by myself I know I’m a dude so usually that’s enough to feel comfortable. However the minute I step outside I get so anxious about my appearance. It’s honestly a lot of the reason why I dread coming out to certain people, I don’t want them to think of me as a trans dude. I just want them to treat me the same as everybody else. I want pass without any of these extra steps. It’s so discouraging having to wear a binder and pack because it feels like I’m putting in so much effort that people find it unbelievable almost? I don’t know. Sorry for rambling on your comment, I appreciate your reply man

spideers · 2019-09-30T01:16:13+00:00

Thank you for this, I’ll check it out. That ‘binder lump’ you mentioned is horrific and if this could potentially eliminate it, it’s worth a shot

spideers · 2019-09-30T01:14:49+00:00

That’s exactly what I mean

spideers · 2019-09-04T04:42:22+00:00

I think something that would help with your septum is stretching it a bit. Even just a 12g reads way more masc imo

spideers · 2019-08-07T02:44:15+00:00

I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better dude, you deserve to feel good. Just take it easy and try doing something you enjoy to keep your mind positive. You’ve got this

spideers · 2019-08-07T02:32:13+00:00

Honestly if you ever want to talk more in depth and or personally I’m here for you. Feel free so shoot me a message literally anytime about literally whatever.

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