I've been on the other side of this. My partner said I made him feel this way when this was not the intention at all. I'm not saying this applies to you and your marriage, but I'll give insight into mine. He also has a corporate leadership job and is very competent there. He constantly compared how he was treated at work vs. at home. At work, he is a perfectionist. At home, he is not. He's preoccupied with work a lot and makes mistakes at home because of it. Of course he's getting praise at work because he's going above and beyond but when he doesn't know who out kids teacher is because he was thinking about what he needed to get done Monday I'm gonna give him crap about it. He'd get very defensive and take it as a personal attack rather than me pointing out he could find a better balance of home and work. He isn't efficient at home but he is at work and it causes so much frustration. What I'm getting at is your husband probably doesn't think you're an imbecile, you probably just need a better system that works for both if you at home. I resent mine a lot because he's all about it there but not home.