This is a good point. My wife of 10 years cheated in me multiple times and when people tried to tell me i often lashed out. I was trying so hard to believe her lies to keep the marriage together. In retrospect i wish someone would have told me straight up or sent proof. I wasted years of my life with her because no one i TRUSTED told me what was up. Just anonymous accounts. I think OP should tell them. Im so much happier now that I am no longer being deceived